Soo delurking again really quick to add a suggestion and I’m
sorry if this doesn’t make sense (I’m running off of no sleep again) and I promise I’m not scolding mmg, I’m far too young
Mmg, Danny is really onto something when he mentioned that everyone was worried about making the newcomer feel excluded because he might not be a fan of Cullen. Having had someone recently leave who WAS a fan due to feelings of being ignored and unwanted in thread made everyone relatively on edge in regards to making others feel unwelcome. While it’s sad that they felt that way and left, the good thing that came out of it is that people have decided to voice their opinions about things that make them feel uncomfortable or maybe start being more willing to include others. That’s not to say that this thread hasn’t always been very welcoming and kind to both members and outsiders alike, because it has, but as an observer the attitude was starting to wane a little and if the group was heading towards being a major click it quickly deceased all movement in that direction. The thing that should be kept in mind is that the thread is in a transitioning process where everyone is trying to figure out what attitude (or level of voicing opinions) is acceptable and what isn’t.
The thing about everyone lining up against you is difficult and I am sure it makes you feel hurt, because you have spent lots of time invested in this thread and let’s face it, real life or online life being ganged up on sucks. Something to keep in mind however, is that this is a thread where people typically voice their opinions and may not realize that they were gaining up on another person. Either because they missed the others posts or they didn’t realize how bad it looked until they saw the line of other people’s comments.
For example, remember when Ag voiced an opinion ages back and everyone jumped down her throat for it? Ag didn’t actually do or say anything wrong; she simply voiced an opinion that she was frustrated over something in regards to Bioware. But because of the way threads are set up it seemed like people were out to get her.
Now there is something to be said about cautionary phrasing. I don’t think you meant to say “If you’re not a fan a Cullen, then why are you here… get out.” But instead really meant “Oh, if you’re not a fan of Cullen what brought you to this thread?” It’s just like texting…you can accidentally cause a war if you aren’t careful lol. The main reason everyone freaked is because when reading your question it sounded like the first one. As someone who is very self conscious over what I post if I had come here my first time and seen that question my initial assumption would have been that the group didn’t really want anyone new buzzing around bothering them and I would have panicked and left. Especially if I didn’t know that background this group has had to deal with in regards to trolls. So having lurked for a very long time and my occasional interaction I know that you didn’t mean to sound that way because you’re very kind and welcoming (Danny was right about this too) but someone new might not have. So please don’t feel hurt over people trying to correct your comment… maybe just watch the phrasing because lately you have been coming across as more aggressive than normal and before that might not have registered to others but like mentioned above everyone is more sensitive to what is being said.
Interacting with people when you can’t see their face is tricky. My partner always gets mad at things I say while texting. Or he just wants me to bring him more booze and chocolates…hmm.
BUT! Please don’t leave the thread unless you feel like you emotionally have to, I get one heck of a kick out of your comments and enjoy the things you post!
Edited because the lines were all funny!
Modifié par Kirrahe1, 29 janvier 2014 - 08:15 .
We're having the "ice-pocalypse" down here. School canceled for two days!!! The bridges are iced over, the roads are completely deserted... it's creepy. And COLD!!!! But, perfect excuse to head down the street to my sister's house, where I spent all day watching soccer and Dr. Who episodes
*sighs* Maybe it's time for a break from the forums. Scrolling through the DA3 forums, it occured to me that it's the same 10-20 people posting over and over and over again. Spewing their own version of the perfect RPG game, or why BioWare is a terrible company, or (lately) (YET AGAIN) why Cullen and his fans are morons. And of course, that resulted in folks hunting down THIS thread and asking the same old questions as always. What's so special about Cullen? Why do you like him? Defend yourselves. Defend yourselves!!! Silly women with your Twilight obsessions!! Nanner nanner, girls are stupid, etc. etc.
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Last year I had, I think, 6-7 colds. The product of starting full time at a new work place, I guess?? So when my co-worker came into my office to ask for cough drops I told him to BACK THE EFF UP. (Okay, I put it much nicer than that.) I then carefully drizzled the cough drops into his hand without making any skin-to-skin contact. Afterward, I Purell'ed my hands up to my elbows lol
