I'm putting out a disclaimer that I'm being friendly and not arguing or attacking because it may sound like it and that's not at all my intent
. Also I wrote this on my iPad so it may be a little jumbled lol! I may not have understood exactly what you meant so if some of my points seem off I apologize AND also it's long! Sorry!
Oh I didn't felt like it was necessarily an "attack" I was just purely stating my own opinion on the matter from a different perspective
Yes the unrealistic portrayal of masculinity/femininity works against both genders but there are so many more ways to tell a women she isn't good enough simply because of the way our culture is set up. (This may be more specific to America then European countries, I'm not sure)
I agree with this, I use to think that Americans are more opened minded but I was kind of wrong in that regard. In Europe we don't really give a rats arse, I mean, for example, where ever there are beaches in Europe a lot of woman go topless and no one cares as opposed for example in the states where im sure most men would go nuts and act like they never seen a booob before lol.
Something important to consider as well is that even though some people do look at very sexualized characters and have the capacity to think "it's just a video game he's/ she's not real and regular people aren't like this" that doesn't mean it isn't damaging to women- especially young women and in a way how they portray women is damaging men (again young men more) as well because the things that they experience alter their perception of what is and is not acceptable when looking for a partner or evaluating themselves.
However, if you are releasing images of completely artificial photoshopped women that a real person has absolutely no chance of achieving -yeah people should call you out on it. The game Witcher, where you go around and everyone girl wants to automatically sleep with your male character-yeah not ok. People think these things don't effect everyday lives but they do. Many young guys end up thinking sex should be easy and women should be gorgeous and give them what they want, so some girls go and get plastic surgery or feel awful about how they look and hate themselves. I've had so many therapy sessions with girls who loathe everything about themselves because the just aren't "enough". They don't look right, they don't act right, they don't WALK right! It's unfair to blame these girls and say "Your just not comfortable with your sexuality" because in a world where they are beaten over the head with images of models, video game characters, comic book/anime heroines and celebrities how could they be? So they start altering how they act and walk and behave in general and when that isn't enough they go get plastic surgery! Now obviously this isn't how everyone reacts, some are totally fine and aren't bothered by the images and some people are furious at the injustice of it all! (Er...me lol!) or like a lot of my clients they feel less then.
I kind of agree to a carting extent, it is true that younger minds are somewhat affected by this, but this is pretty typical for young ppl. that crave attention. Although i do disagree at the same time, that it *does* have to do with being comfortable with yourself and accept yourself for who you are, and be unique in your own way.
And honestly no one is "beating" anyone with a bat and say that YOU HAVE TO LOOK THIS WAY OR NO ONE WILL LIKE YOU . Its just a selfconscious judgment that teenagers make for themselves because they haven't accepted themselves for who they are,(heck I should know I use to be the same way) and not because they are "forced" to do so by the media, because... I mean... if that was the case everyone would go on the rampage if ppl were to do everything thats on tv or in video games, the world would have been in chaos if the media was to be blamed.
And on a more personal note (as I have stated above) I use to be exactly like those teenage girls you have mentioned in your post, I didnt like my self one bit, but once you grow up you start to realize whats real and whats not, and what acceptance actually is, I didnt grew up thinking that "oh man if I want to be happy I must marry a rich man" or "hey if guys wanna like me I must get bigger breasts" I have came to piece with how I look and I dont have to copy any magazine girl in order to feel good about myself. Most stuff we see in games movies and magazines are pretty much make believe and obviously not real, and yes while its made to appeal the the human eye we don't necessarily have to copy everything we see thats where the term "fantasy" comes in
Something a lot of people don't realize is it works against people on a subconscious level as well. You made a good point because that's not saying culture doesn't do that to guys too- like how Edward Cullen is just oh so perfect and gorgeous and rich... or how female protagonists in YA books usually have multiple men fighting over them-that's just silly.
Back more to the original point, I think that if a woman doesn't like the way Hawke walks or doesn't like it when characters have double D breasts and a flat stomach with tiny hips - it doesn't mean she isn't comfortable with her sexuality... I think it just means she has a practical sense of "Well that's Cr@p!" And understands how unrealistic and silly that is Lol!
Yest it is silly but that is fiction not reality, Fiction is meant to be silly and overrated, but once again its up to the ppl to determine what is real and whats not, it doesn't mean that whatever is on TV everyone has to do it
Sorry If I sounded a bit mean , didnt mean too but Im just simply stating my point of view on things, and no im not saying that whatever I mention is right. To some ppl may not seem right but this is just how I view the situation...