Gunderic wrote...
Masako52 wrote...
Gunderic wrote...
Well, you said so here too, so I think that wraps this one up, right? And, I don't quite think that what you're saying here is always true in men's case, about being applauded.
Um, what? I don't even know what you're trying to argue? I didn't make any generalizations about how men think or act.
You did. You said:
1.) Sleeping around is a masculine trait.
2.) Men are not made to feel ashamed ( i.e. men feeling ashamed doesn't happen/happens less ).
No.
1. Sleeping around is a masculine trait only in that it is ASSOCIATED with masculinity. As in, it's not necessarily innate in men, but society makes that distinction that men do it. (it's the social perception.) Just like, say, being gentle is associated with femininity - obviously, these are only stereotypes, but they're socially implied traits nonetheless.
2. There is significantly less of a chance that others will shame a man because he has sex. Could it happen? Yes. But society tells men that it's less bad if they do it, than if women do it. If women sleep around, society tells us that we are dirty sl*ts, and it's a very negative trait. Society is far less harsh toward men. I never said anything about a man's personal feelings and whether or not he feels ashamed. I said society doesn't shame them nearly as much as society shames women. And yeah, I'm willing to bet that because of that, more women do feel ashamed or guilty about their lifestyle than men do, because there's more pressure for women not to do it.
I really cannot comprehend how you could try to deny any of what I just said... (unless you're a man who's just getting defensive about this.)