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[KenKenpachi]

My wife looks at it as just one more hobbo of mine, the other being Martial Arts, and Model Building (funny enough I'm building a Chinese Type 59 right now). But we both are avid readers as well. Shes not a gamer herself however, plays some neopet games, but normal games she for the most part just sucks at. Even she says this. I try to get her to do some co-op But she worries she'll bring me down, but then again she has her own hobbies, from her native Chinese folk music, to her art and story writing, most of which is very good and nice looking yet shes emberassed to show others. Also she does aquarium fish breeding.

And as I said we both read, so it works out rather well, we have a very stable relationship even though we have our own hobbies, not everything has to be done together really.

Modifié par KenKenpachi, 11 octobre 2011 - 01:34 .

[Kaiser Arian XVII]

No so many:
- my married cousin (unavailable)
- my university student cousin (unavailable)
- my call of duty cousin (goes arbitrarily to army)
- my 3 years old brother (useless! at least for few years)

[pfhorlorn]

My boyfriend and I both play all types of games. We met on a gaming forum, go figure.

[Seagloom]

DukeOfNukes wrote...

Narcissistic Megalomaniacal Stuck-up ****. Yes, that may seem awfully redundant...but I should have used a few more words just to explain exactly how huge of an ego these girls have had. I seriously have had gamer girls, ON THE FIRST DATE, explain to me how lucky I should feel to be with a good looking gamer girl, and ask me what I have to offer them that they should stick around.

That describes me to a TEE! :happy:

Okay, perhaps not. Hehawhowever... the bolded part is a question any woman will try to find an answer to on the first date. They may not spell it out for you by asking point blank in the manner you describe, but they *will* probe your interests, among other salient tidbits, to determine if you are worth their time. Believing this is exclusive to gamers is folly.

As for myself, this has yet to become an issue. Gaming has always been way down on the list of potential conflicts.

[happy_daiz]

Seagloom wrote...

Narcissistic Megalomaniacal Stuck-up ****. Yes, that may seem awfully redundant...but I should have used a few more words just to explain exactly how huge of an ego these girls have had. I seriously have had gamer girls, ON THE FIRST DATE, explain to me how lucky I should feel to be with a good looking gamer girl, and ask me what I have to offer them that they should stick around.

That describes me to a TEE! :happy:

Okay, perhaps not. Hehawhowever... the bolded part is a question any woman will try to find an answer to on the first date. They may not spell it out for you by asking point blank in the manner you describe, but they *will* probe your interests, among other salient tidbits, to determine if you are worth their time. Believing this is exclusive to gamers is folly.

As for myself, this has yet to become an issue. Gaming has always been way down on the list of potential conflicts.

Methinks this lack of understanding might explain why that person is single. 

Edit: Isn't the whole point of "dating" to find out if someone is right for you? I don't see anything wrong with feeling someone out to see if you're a good match. At a certain point in your life, you realize that your time on this earth is short, and that it's worth quite a bit to you. Why waste that time on someone that isn't right for you?

Modifié par happy_daiz, 11 octobre 2011 - 02:05 .

[KenKenpachi]

I think most women that think like that are ****es who deserve no one actully.

[Jenova65]

ejoslin wrote...

Jenova65 wrote...

ejoslin wrote...

My husband and I both are gamers -- we're the middle-aged kind. Neither of us play MMOs any more (too much of a time sink). I generally like RPGs, and he generally likes twitchier type games, though he's really enjoying DE:HR right now.

I'm amazed that we have managed to drag my husband away from COD to play Gears tbh.... still trying to get him onto Mass Effect, lol and have NO hope of ever getting him on DA......... 

Hahahaha, me neither. I tried to get him to play both DAO and DA2 and I can tell you this...  the awesome button did NOT help!

LMAO..... ^ Not surprising really  I don't think the awesome button helped anything, did it? 

[Skypezee]

My boyfriend back in high school plays videogames and is an otaku XP Whenever he came over to my house we would play videogames (mostly soul calibur, super smash bros., and capcom vs. games).

So it was all good XD

[Sister Helen]

The Husband and I have an informal agreement regarding gaming. I don't mind if he plays a few hours, so long as he gives me sweet, sweet lovemaking and the occasional dinner out. Whenever he "forgets" this deal, I just remind him of it.

Usually, "reminding" involves a random flash of the Mardi Gras special or me dressing up like Mrs. Peel from The Avengers television show. Either way, win-win.

[ylaenna]

Ken hit the nail on the head. Some women are ****s, and whether or not they game has nothing to do with it. A **** is a ****.  Same goes for anyone, really, either you're an a*****e or you're not.

I never could understand why some people "make" their significant other give up something they obviously enjoy. You never hear about men making their women quit watching soaps or spend hours at the mall buying s**t they don't need or whatever the hell they like to do that men don't also enjoy. Why would you deprive a loved one of an enjoyable hobby?  If his gaming is more important to him than you are, then he shouldn't be with you.

Anyway, alright, rant mode off...
My husband and I both game.

A couple other women have mentioned previously that their men react differently to stress. Same with us! We used to pvp in WoW (pretty much all we did, really) and it used to drive me NUTS that when adversity hit, instead of strategizing and figuring out how to overcome and win, he would just throw down his mouse and walk away in the middle of the game. DUDE, at least give us the benefit of leaving the battleground so you don't just take up space. Let someone else who isn't such a baby replace you in the queue. Heh, ah love.

[Caseshep]

My boyfriend and I both game, and we enjoy watching each other play equally as much. I'll stop playing for him if he wants more attention, and vice versa, but we don't nag each other about it. It is all about balance. Understanding is key.

My brother married a girl who doesn't like his gaming "hobby" and now he doesn't play as much.  Plus she wouldn't let him play certain games because they were "too violent."  <_< My heart goes out to people in relationships like this.

Also, most of my girl friends rarely play video games and if they do, only play wii, as others have mentioned about their partner. Other girls I know are the "YES I'M A GIRL. YES I PLAY VIDEO GAMES. F*CK ME." types.
So from my point of view... I agree that it's probably easier for a girl to find a guy that games seriously.

Modifié par Caseshep, 11 octobre 2011 - 02:45 .

[Jade5233]

My husband and I both love to game. We had to buy an Xbox 360 to relieve the strain due to fighting over time on the PS3. He plays more varieties of games than I do (he likes shooters, action and RPG, I'm all RPG). But we often will take turns playing the same games. My parents were visiting this summer and were completely confused and lost while overhearing us discuss how our Fable 2 playthroughs were going. They think we're weird/immature with the gaming but they say "well, at least you can speak each other's language." LOL.

What annoys me with my parents is that they will criticize us about playing an interactive video game for a few hours a day. Yet, apparently them sitting their butts on the couch to passively watch hours of TV is perfectly normal and fine. *rolls eyes*//end rant

[Moondoggie]

Well she's a gamer too so it's never been a problem. Much of our bonding as a couple came through playing video games so i could say it's had a positive effect on our relationship. She's quite a moody artist and likes to go off on her own so if i can get her to sit down and play a game with me then it bodes well for our future.

We're more likely to have fights over who's turn it is to make the tea rarther than video games XD

[MacCready]

Caseshep wrote...

My brother married a girl who doesn't like his gaming "hobby" and now he doesn't play as much.  Plus she wouldn't let him play certain games because they were "too violent."  <_< My heart goes out to people in relationships like this.

I find that such a shame when you have a control freak in a relationship that expects you to live your life the way they prefer. I know several people who are quite shy and reserved and they end up with someone quite manipulative just so they don't have to be lonely.

You need to put your foot down with these people as it won't stop with gaming, soon they'll be controlling every aspect of your life to the point where you wonder whether you're a partner or a pet.

[blothulfur]

Since cutting the old ball and chain i've not pursued what would be termed as "serious" relationships, just enjoyed myself to a ridiculous degree. I spent enough years trying to be a different person and failing while I was married, now i'm happy, mostly alone and increasingly divorced from reality.

Current lass thinks i'm "deep", little does she know i'm just thinking of new ways to conquer the world in Rome: Total War or meditating on the Qun.

[Weak Sauce Hype]

you mean hand?

[DukeOfNukes]

happy_daiz wrote...
Methinks this lack of understanding might explain why that person is single. [smilie]../../../images/forum/emoticons/whistling.png[/smilie]

Mostly I'm single because I have little patience for such childish behaviour. The issue isn't that they're trying to figure out what I have to offer them. The issue is that they're flat out telling me that I should be worshipping the ground they walk on and expect me to tell them what makes me special. It's egotistic, and ultimately, not worth my time.

The point of a first date isn't to tell people how awesome you are, it's to tell if you're a good match. I fail to see how bragging about how awesome you are does anything but alienate the other person. I've had this type of date with several girls before, but it seems to be the most common with girls that proclaim themselves to be "gamer" girls.

As for the issue of "Generalizations"...it's not a generalization. I'm not saying all girls are like that, I'm saying all "gamer" girls I've tried to date have either been WoW fanatics or Egomaniacs.

Modifié par DukeOfNukes, 12 octobre 2011 - 01:24 .

[sugaafoot]

My guy doesnt really mind that I play,. he doesnt like any of the games that I like at all, he basically only plays fifa.

[wizardryforever]

Ivandra Ceruden wrote...

DukeOfNukes wrote...

At this point I'm afraid of hearing that a girl I'm with is a gamer. So far, all the female gamers I've met IRL fall into 2 categories: 1) Die hard WoW player...obsessive and all. 2) Narcissistic Megalomaniacal Stuck-up ****. Yes, that may seem awfully redundant...but I should have used a few more words just to explain exactly how huge of an ego these girls have had. I seriously have had gamer girls, ON THE FIRST DATE, explain to me how lucky I should feel to be with a good looking gamer girl, and ask me what I have to offer them that they should stick around.

Anyways...I don't have a significant other. Most my dates are spectacularly bad...my longest "relationship" in the past 3+ years was about a month...and she treated me with ultimately NO respect. She went out with her ex then came crying to me when he was an **** to her, interrupted me in the middle of stories, kept doing things that I was excited to do with her, without me...etc. As for the relevant part of all this...she didn't respect that I played video games, thought I was childish for playing them. I tried getting her to sit down and try Mass Effect to open her mind that they can be so much more, but through the entire opening sequence, she sat there and made jokes about the whole thing.

You obviously need more experience with girls. I hate people who generalize things

Irony.

Modifié par wizardryforever, 12 octobre 2011 - 03:30 .

[Mercannis]

My wife has no problem whatsoever with my gaming habits, so long as i take her out to a chique restaurant monthly. She then makes some comment during the 3rd course about how i look moody, not realising that im brooding over my next playthrough of TW2.

[Cutlass Jack]

Sister Helen wrote...

The Husband and I have an informal agreement regarding gaming. I don't mind if he plays a few hours, so long as he gives me sweet, sweet lovemaking and the occasional dinner out. Whenever he "forgets" this deal, I just remind him of it.

Usually, "reminding" involves a random flash of the Mardi Gras special or me dressing up like Mrs. Peel from The Avengers television show. Either way, win-win.

Dressing up like Steed could work too, if you wore the Bowler hat...and little else. And if it were a truly equal relationship, he'd have to wear the Mrs. Peel suit every once in awhile.

[fightright2]

happy_daiz wrote...

My husband and I are both gamers, and it's worked out brilliantly.  

We have 2 of each console, so he plays in the den, and I play in the living room. Sometimes we play co-op on separate TVs, and others, we play split-screen on the big tv. Right now, he's playing Dark Souls, and I'm playing RAGE, and somewhere in between, we play co-op Dead Island.

I play pretty much every day, whereas he likes to take time off to watch (mostly bad) movies. You should see our strange collection. 

Sounds like me and my husband. We both have consoles as well as one for our son and another that was given to us. Our family is into computers, gaming, and anime, as well as asian drama.

I really love it when me and my husband, and our son squad up on games like BFBC2 or as recently BF3 beta. I sit nearby my hub in the living room with my tv on the computer desk. So we can see each other's screen and our son has his own in his room but we just yell back and forth if we need to but seldomly need to.

When we work together it's sweet!
We usually compete for the ace winner pin among each other.

Our son is always the best in every game over both teams as sniper and he's a great pilot.

My area is infiltration and holding (nothing better than sneaking behind them) as assualt, tank support as a gunner/repair, and explosives as engineer.

Hub is a knifer all the way. He avereages 15-20 knives per round.

Note: It must be said that we balance out the time spent on 'being plugged in' with physical activities for a healthy dose of fun.