tklivory wrote...
ejoslin wrote...
Hmmm, I cannot imagine anyone expecting Anora to marry the man she just witness lopping off her father's head. She won't marry a HNM either if he's the one who killed Loghain. Alistair at least had some time to adjust. I'm not saying it's a great situation, but really, Anora is not the one who killed Duncan. I just don't think it's fair to compare their situations at all.
No, they aren't comparable. (I'm totally serious, I agree). The relativistic notion that they suffer the exact same loss is not what I meant to imply, and I apologize if that is how it comes across.
However:
Anora lost a father she worshipped in an absolutely horrific, scarring fashion right in front of her, a father that she acknowledged had made very bad mistakes and poor judgment calls. Prior to the Landsmeet, she asks you to show mercy, not because she truly sees her father as having done that badly, but because she knows that the Warden, at least, might perceive Loghain as deserving of the final punishment.
Alistair lost not only his father figure, but also all his brothers (the Wardens, not Cailan) and his King. Then he is blamed for their deaths, hounded by the man who he perceives as responsible for the deaths, has assassins and bounty hunters sent after him, is imprisoned (or sees a lover/friend imprisoned) for trying to help Anora, and gets to watch the country he loves (as is evidenced by his flat refusal to leave when the PC suggests they go to get help and his willingness to accept death via Archdemon in the end if no DR is pursued) fall into a civil war fomented by the one who he believes started all the trouble in the first place.
Are the equivalent? Maker, no. But saying that Anora's injury is worse simply because of the nature and timing of it seems, well, a bit... off, I suppose. My point is, they both suffered, in a way that cannot relativistically be compared, and saying that Anora's is 'worse' is a quick analysis of a situation that deserves further thought.
Has anyone said hers was worse? I sure didn't. Hers certainly was far more recent which was my point -- as in moments before. I know I would NOT be able to make ANY rational decision had I just seen something like that with my own father. That she is able to keep it together to try and keep fighting for what she thinks is best for Ferelden is laudable was my point. That she could not marry the man she *just* saw kill her father, minutes earlier, is completely understandable. Yes, what Alistair went through was horrible; at that point, though, he had had nearly a year to adjust (and yes, I know healing takes longer than this, but it is still a long time). And Anora wasn't the one who was responsible for those deaths -- she was a bystander in that entire situation.
Edit: Since I didn't quote in my first text, THIS was the only part of your post I was responding to:
tklivory wrote...
Well, yeah, except that most people expect Alistair to just cheerfully marry the daughter of the woman who killed his father figure without punishment (and is in fact, rewarded for doing so, at least in Alistair's mind)
And my point was that her loss was far more recent. No one expects them to be cheerfully marrying each other -- neither of them really wants to be wed to the other for their own reasons. If Alistair had just watched Anora take Duncan's head off while he was kneeling before her, yielding, yeh, I don't think ANYONE would question his refusal to marry her (except for obvious trolls of course).
That's all.
Modifié par ejoslin, 03 décembre 2011 - 08:33 .