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[Unknown Username]

Darpaek wrote...

Marriage is dumb. It's one of those institutions like feudalism or slavery that society is better without.

This is way too obvious.  You need to brush up on your trolling.

[Eshaye]

Hooligan77 wrote...

So I preordered the game through gamestop weeks before release and my wife tells me that I she needs to take a class for work out of state . The classes take place monday through wednesday in Seattle .  So of course I say I will go with her and stay up there but I am so pissed I have to wait a few days longer to get my copy and play .
Anybody else have any stories of the forces that be conspiring to keep you from your "calling" to play Dao ?

lol Well if it were me in your place I'd just tell husband straight up I don't want to go I want to stay home and play the new game that's coming out, he'd be fine with it, he'd even sympathize.... Then again if I were the one to go away for a class I wouldn't want him to come because then I'd be free to go shopping and eat at restaurants I wouldn't go to with him tagging along.... 

Sometimes days away from each other is a good thing.... ?! :happy:

[Darpaek]

I'm not trolling! This is a great example of why marriage is a bad idea! Assuming the OP doesn't drop everything for every video game that gets released, there's no reason he shouldn't be able to say, "Honey. This is important to me. I paid for this game weeks ago, I've already planned to set aside time in my life to play it. I don't want to go to Seattle," without his partner or others looking at him and percieving himself as failing some sort of constructed obligation. Or worse, his partner percieving a false hierarchy between video games and his commitment towards his partner and her happiness.

A girlfriend, even a longtime girlfriend, allows you the space to say "Sorry hun, I can't get away for three days" without further query into your life.

The ideal situation would allow the OP to say what I hypothesized in the first paragraph and the partner being fully understanding. But, for everyone with "cool wives" out there, even as "cool" as your wife is, the construct of the marriage relationship just doesn't allow this sort of interaction without some societal guilt on your part.

Modifié par Darpaek, 01 novembre 2009 - 03:54 .

[NotSoEager]

Hooligan77 wrote...

So I preordered the game through gamestop weeks before release and my wife tells me that I she needs to take a class for work out of state . The classes take place monday through wednesday in Seattle .  So of course I say I will go with her and stay up there but I am so pissed I have to wait a few days longer to get my copy and play .
Anybody else have any stories of the forces that be conspiring to keep you from your "calling" to play Dao ?

Get a job of your own? If you actually have a job, then you have a good excuse not to go to Seattle.

[Darpaek]

NotSoEager wrote...

Hooligan77 wrote...

So I preordered the game through gamestop weeks before release and my wife tells me that I she needs to take a class for work out of state . The classes take place monday through wednesday in Seattle .  So of course I say I will go with her and stay up there but I am so pissed I have to wait a few days longer to get my copy and play .
Anybody else have any stories of the forces that be conspiring to keep you from your "calling" to play Dao ?

Get a job of your own? If you actually have a job, then you have a good excuse not to go to Seattle.

HAHA!  Owned.

I was thinking the same thing, but I didn't want to make assumptions.  My parents work 4/10 schedules in their jobs sometimes, and my career path can sometimes leave me unoccupied for days or weeks at a time.  Plus, I had a sinking feeling that this poor guy had taken vacation time for DA:O and his wife decided to coopt it for her little getaway.

[Nimishim]

If you need some excuses, check out this thread social.bioware.com/forum/1/topic/9/index/50455/5#56968

[Eshaye]

Darpaek wrote...



The ideal situation would allow the OP to say what I hypothesized in the first paragraph and the partner being fully understanding. But, for everyone with "cool wives" out there, even as "cool" as your wife is, the construct of the marriage relationship just doesn't allow this sort of interaction without some societal guilt on your part.

I'm sorry you have such a poor view and understanding of marriage. An actual partnership doesn't guilt, in fact you do your best so as to not make your patner feel guilty ever because that's the road to being single or infidelity ect.... 

I wonder why young people have such horrid ideas of marriage these days, and I don't just mean young people right now, because about 10 + years ago I also had a dim view of marriage myself. Truth is a good partnership makes your life much easier and more fulfilling then you can imagine. 

But anyway! 

[Llames]

Single is nizzle!!!11

[Llames]

Single is nizzle!!!11

[Obidex]

I'm actually engaged to be married in May and am quite happy about it...especially considering she is actually excited about me getting DA:O

[Joel171]

Darpaek wrote...

Delightful "ignorance", I might add.

Marriage is for breeding. Since I have no desire to breed, I shall not marry. Tell me - what's the difference between wedding yourself to another by choice and wedding yourself to another by force?

You talk about Marriage being an archaic practice, yet you seem to think that you need to be married to breed. That's a very old fashioned point of view.  You can breed without being married. We don't have a block on our reproductive organs before then.

Either way. I've explained to my wife, quite tenderly, that if she bothers me, I'll set her car on fire.

So I'm safe.

[TanithAeyrs]

Marriage is wonderful if you are married to the right person. My husband and I just celebrated 10 years this fall. We allow each other room to do the things we like and make time to be together. I wouldn't knock going to Seattle for a few days- you can have dinner at Elliot's Oyster House for one thing (always my favorite when I am up there for a conference- they even have a menu on line- look it up). I also am looking forward to playing DAO but I go back on call Wedneday night for another week so probably very little play time for me too. Go have fun with your wife, when you get home it is your turn to be glued to the computer for days.

My husband has already accepted the fact that he might have access to the computer again sometime in January or February. He doesn't really care anyway, he is hunting elk every weekend in November and ducks in December and the first half of January. That leaves me with the kids, but they go to bed at 8:00.

[TanithAeyrs]

sorry for the multiple post, computer is acting up today.

Modifié par TanithAeyrs, 01 novembre 2009 - 05:49 .

[TanithAeyrs]

sorry, multiple post.

Modifié par TanithAeyrs, 01 novembre 2009 - 05:54 .

[Darpaek]

Child of divorce!



That being said, both have my parents have amazing second marriages. Of course, they're in their 50s/60s.



I hope you're like 50 or else your comment's a bit condescending. Religion is supposed to uplift and enlighten without guilt, too. How often does that work out?



The notion that you're going to find your "soulmate" within 25 miles of where you live - while you're in your early 20s - is pretty ridiculous. The idea the average early 20-something even has a clue what they want out of life - or the interpersonal experience to manage such a partnerhip - is pretty laughable. How many people would hire the average 23 year old to run their business - much less manage half your life?



I am convinced that y'all "happy married people" are happy out of ignorance. You have no concept what opportunities you missed in your life because you took the easy way out and brought a second income into your household. I thank God every day that I had the foresight in my younger years to evade the shackles. I may not have known what I wanted, but I knew enough to know that I didn't know what I wanted. I have had the most amazing opportunities the last few years that I never would have been able to experience within the "bonds of matrimony" (they're called that for a reason, you know?). Just to open my access to these opportunities, I had to quit my old career, travel across the country, work for free for two months at the job I wanted, and then spend a year working on the road and I'm sure as I continue along this career path I'll have lots more semi-perma travel in store for me. There's no way I could have dragged someone else along with this risk. My work allows me to have a big effect on the real world. I feel that I have been able to help millions of people with the work that I do - and I have made their lives better.



Worse, I would have never even considered this opportunity as viable if I was married. I would have no concept what I missed out on - stumbling along, doing whatever, in my "happily married bliss."

[Eshaye]

Again you've very little actual concept of what 'marriage' is. Yes my parents were not only divorced but not exactly great parents so I can see where that view comes from... I can just hope you find someone, or a couple that shows you a different view



Again a marriage does not and should not 'hinder' you as a person to grow and do what you cherish most in life.

[Darpaek]

Joel171 wrote...

You talk about Marriage being an archaic practice, yet you seem to think that you need to be married to breed. That's a very old fashioned point of view.  You can breed without being married. We don't have a block on our reproductive organs before then.

Either way. I've explained to my wife, quite tenderly, that if she bothers me, I'll set her car on fire.

So I'm safe.

Breeding's a pretty old-fashioned activity.  Heck, forget just two parents - I'm with Hillary Clinton:  It's takes a village!

[Darpaek]

Eshaye wrote...



Again you've very little actual concept of what 'marriage' is. Yes my parents were not only divorced but not exactly great parents so I can see where that view comes from... I can just hope you find someone, or a couple that shows you a different view



Again a marriage does not and should not 'hinder' you as a person to grow and do what you cherish most in life.

"Honey... dearest... Can we talk? I know I have this nice job that, together, allows us to afford this nice home and these nice cars. But there's something I've always wanted to do. I talked to an old buddy of mine from college and he thinks there might be an opportunity for me to realize one of my dreams. I want to quit my job, drive to the other side of the country and apply for a job that a thousand other people - all of whom are more qualified with better resumes - are all competing for. I give you my word that I will try my best and even if I don't get the job right away I'm going to show up for work every day and work for free until I convince them to hire me. I probably won't get it, but if I do, I'll be away from home for, at least, the next year. If I continue along this career path, I will be relocating every few months. I know this sounds like a lot, but I'll never have a better opportunity to break into this career than this. I wanna do this. Are you okay with it?"



Seriously?



(If so - let's get hitched! )

[Myazuid]

Darpaek wrote...

Delightful "ignorance", I might add.

Marriage is for breeding. Since I have no desire to breed, I shall not marry. Tell me - what's the difference between wedding yourself to another by choice and wedding yourself to another by force?

I think you've answered your own question... but just to clarify -

I'd say its probably a bit like the difference between having sex with someone you'd like to have sex with, and being butt raped.....

[Zagogulina1]

TanithAeyrs wrote...

Marriage is wonderful if you are married to the right person.

imported_beer wrote...

Marriage among people of understanding is the best thing evah.

For women only.

[Eshaye]

Darpaek wrote...

Eshaye wrote...

Again you've very little actual concept of what 'marriage' is. Yes my parents were not only divorced but not exactly great parents so I can see where that view comes from... I can just hope you find someone, or a couple that shows you a different view

Again a marriage does not and should not 'hinder' you as a person to grow and do what you cherish most in life.

"Honey... dearest... Can we talk? I know I have this nice job that, together, allows us to afford this nice home and these nice cars. But there's something I've always wanted to do. I talked to an old buddy of mine from college and he thinks there might be an opportunity for me to realize one of my dreams. I want to quit my job, drive to the other side of the country and apply for a job that a thousand other people - all of whom are more qualified with better resumes - are all competing for. I give you my word that I will try my best and even if I don't get the job right away I'm going to show up for work every day and work for free until I convince them to hire me. I probably won't get it, but if I do, I'll be away from home for, at least, the next year. If I continue along this career path, I will be relocating every few months. I know this sounds like a lot, but I'll never have a better opportunity to break into this career than this. I wanna do this. Are you okay with it?"

Seriously?

(If so - let's get hitched! )

Been there done that, twice. First time it was me who wanted to move and try something out and I had no real plans either or friends to let me in or anything.. The second time it was my husband who wanted to move away and try another job. I'm not saying it's as easy as it sounds, but we did it, we learned a lot and we know each other extremely well because of it.

Married people aren't another type of species who do everything the same way and differently then single people, sure some have that attitude and some view it as somekind of institution, but for a lot of us we're just two people who can't think of living with anyone else, including our own family members.. If that means moving to Japan on a maybe then so be it, we'll adjust accordingly.

Also agree wtih imported_beer   And not with the silly person who posted after...

[Deckus]

I'm preloading on steam right now. Shoulda bought through a digital download service

On a side note. Your wife needing to go interstate for training was the PERFECT excuse to get some quality alone time with DA:O by not going and then calling work sick.

[Darpaek]

Eshaye wrote...

Been there done that, twice. First time it was me who wanted to move and try something out and I had no real plans either or friends to let me in or anything.. The second time it was my husband who wanted to move away and try another job. I'm not saying it's as easy as it sounds, but we did it, we learned a lot and we know each other extremely well because of it.

Married people aren't another type of species who do everything the same way and differently then single people, sure some have that attitude and some view it as somekind of institution, but for a lot of us we're just two people who can't think of living with anyone else, including our own family members.. If that means moving to Japan on a maybe then so be it, we'll adjust accordingly.

Also agree wtih imported_beer   And not with the silly person who posted after...

See, but you can hardly hold yourself up as the "typical" marriage, you understand?  You're not.  You've been tremendously successful.  No offense, but from your previous posts, you also sound old.

The farther I get from college, obviously, the fewer single people I know.  However, every person I know that's single is also incredibly happy.  The only miserable people I know are married.