Revan312 wrote...
Zkyire wrote...
Stardusk78 wrote...
To begin with, violence. Women can commit violence against men, particularly in domestic situations, without any fear of penalty, how often do women still slap men in the face? we see it in films all the time, can a man do that? No, no. (Violence is never good, I am just calling out the double standard). Children's visitation rights and division of assets in divorce, in most Anglosaxon countries women get the lion's share of everything, including the children, whilst the men ends up paying for it for nearly the rest of his life. A British friend of mine, his wife cheated on him, then filed for divorce and she still got most of everything. Never mind the long time motto, women and children first, women's lives are inherently more valuable to society (as the the limiting factor in reproduction it makes sense) whereas men's lives do not carry that value. Far more research is poured into breast cancer research than prostate cancer, though prostate cancer tends to be far more virulent.
Additional: Domestic Violence.
Domestic violence is a prevalent occurrence throughout the UK (and elsewhere but I'm using the UK as an example here). The 'Call to End Violence Against Women and Girls' (*1) initiative is only a recent development (The clue is in the name over who it does not help - read: men). The evidence provided showed that that 60% of all domestic violence victims are female, and that one in four women will “experience domestic violence over their lifetimes” (*2).
However, through this it shows that males represent 40% of domestic violence victims (*3). The problem? The massive disparity between the help available to both sexes is astonishing. Women receive 7500 'places of refuge' throughout England and Wales, to shelter them in times of abuse, while men only have 60 available to them (*4).
*1 - Home Office, 2011
*2 - Council of Europe, 2002, quoted in Women's Aid
*3 - PARITY, 2010
*4 - Campbell, 2010
From Michael Kimmel's review of
Martin S. Fiebert's annotated bibliography about female violence against men.
More than 90% of "systematic, persistent, and injurious" violence is perpetrated by men. He points out that most of the empirical studies that Fiebert reviewed used the same empirical measure of family conflict, i.e., the Conflict Tactics Scale (CTS) as the sole measure of domestic violence and that many of the studies noted by Fiebert discussed samples composed entirely of single people younger than 30, not married couples.[134] Kimmel argues that among various other flaws, the CTS is particularly vulnerable to reporting bias because it depends on asking people to accurately remember and report what happened during the past year. However, men tend to under-estimate their use of violence, while women tend to over-estimate their use of violence. Simultaneously men tend to over-estimate their partner's use of violence while women tend to under-estimate their partner's use of violence. Thus, men will likely over-estimate their victimization, while women tend to underestimate theirs.[135]
More stats
Women are more likely than men to be murdered by an intimate partner. Of those killed by an intimate partner about three quarters are female and about a quarter are male. In 1999 in the United States 1,218 women and 424 men were killed by an intimate partner,[114] and 1181 females and 329 males were killed by their intimate partners in 2005.[115][116]
Finally
The UN Declaration on the Elimination of Violence against Women (1993) states that “violence against women is a manifestation of historically unequal power relations between men and women, which has led to domination over and discrimination against women by men and to the prevention of the full advancement of women, and that violence against women is one of the crucial social mechanisms by which women are forced into a subordinate position compared with men.
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Also, why is there so much woman on woman violence in lesbian relationships?
Lesbian Partner Violence Fact Sheet Suzana
Rose, Ph.D. National
Violence Against Women Prevention Research Center University
of Missouri at St. Louis What is lesbian partner violence? Partner violence in lesbian (and gay) relationships recently has been
identified as an important social problem. Partner or domestic violence
among lesbians has been defined as including physical, sexual and psychological
abuse, although researchers have most often studied physical violence.
How common is lesbian partner violence? About 17-45% of lesbians report having been the victim of a least one
act of physical violence perpetrated by a lesbian partner (1,5,6,13).
Types of physical abuse named by more than 10% of participants in one
study included:

Disrupting
other’s eating or sleeping habits

Pushing
or shoving, driving recklessly to punish, and slapping, kicking, hitting,
or biting (11).

Sexual
abuse by a woman partner has been reported by up to 50% of lesbians (12).

Psychological
abuse has been reported as occurring at least one time by 24% to 90% of
lesbians (1,5,6,11,14). The research usually has been done with mostly white, middle-class lesbians
who are sufficiently open about their sexual orientation to have met researchers
seeking participants in the lesbian community. Subsequently, these findings
may not apply to women who are less open, less educated, or of other ethnic
backgrounds.
Why would a lesbian batter another woman? Lesbians who abuse another women may do so for reasons similar to those
that motivate heterosexual male batterers. Lesbians abuse their partners
to gain and maintain control (9). Lesbian batterers are motivated to avoid
feelings of loss and abandonment. Therefore, many violent incidents occur
during threatened separations. Many lesbian batterers grew up in violent
households and were physically, sexually, or verbally abused and/or witnessed
their mothers being abused by fathers or stepfathers (6,7,14).
How is lesbian partner violence different from heterosexual partner
violence? There are several similarities between lesbian and heterosexual partner
violence. Violence appears to be about as common among lesbian couples as
among heterosexual couples (1,5). In addition, the cycle of violence occurs
in both types of relationships. However, there also are several differences.
In lesbian relationships, the "butch" (physically stronger, more masculine
or wage-earning) member of the couple may be as likely to be the victim
as the batterer, whereas in heterosexual relationships, the male partner
(usually the stronger, more masculine, and wage-earning member) is most
often the batterer (4). Some lesbians in abusive relationships report fighting
back in their relationship (6,8).
In addition, a unique element for lesbians is the homophobic environment
that surrounds them (4,10,14). This enables the abusive partner to exert
"heterosexist control" over the victim by threatening to "out" the victim
to friends, family, or employer or threatening to make reports to authorities
that would jeopardize child custody, immigration, or legal status. The homophobic
environment also makes it difficult for the victim to seek help from the
police, victim service agencies, and battered women's shelters.