I think part of the confusion with "What, you be be a woman?" in ME2 is that you choose male or female without seeing either at the start of the game.
In ME1, you can pick John - whoever THAT is - or you can go to custom make. As soon as you do that, you see that quick-start or custom bit, and you actually see John or Jane standing there. Made it pretty darn apparent to the player that you can play as a woman and she IS shepard, just as the man version is.

edit: this screen, I mean ^
With ME2, I imagine a lot of people just hit 'male' in the 'choose your new game sections' and then went on without ever trying to play a woman. In that direction, you never see femshep, never think about using the female avi - also, if you didn't import, you never see kaidan ever. I remember that first screenshot release of him, shep, and liara, a bunch of people were like 'is that vega?' since they had never met him.
Modifié par sagequeen, 07 février 2012 - 06:01 .