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[Arcadian Legend]

DuckSoup wrote...

C9316 wrote...

Girls are crazy...

So are guys

We're all a crazy bunch.

[silver_sparrow]

I remember you. Aksing me, the internet for advice on your girl issues.

Anyways, a lot of women can be stareotyped as catty, etention seeking, and way too emotional (or horemonal). If you have a problem with stareotyping just know they exist for a reason.

[Cartims]

She's into women.....they understand.

[Aiomon]

Treat women well, they will treat you well: if they don't they are not worth your time.

[android654]

*sigh* Being 15 is rough.

[Aiomon]

android654 wrote...

*sigh* Being 15 is rough.

Well said

[Dreez]

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Modifié par Stanley Woo, 03 février 2012 - 05:12 .

[Arcadian Legend]

This is potentially going to be one of those threads that simply just won't end well. Hopefully a mod cuts it off before things turn ugly.

[Volus Warlord]

Peanut Butter Jelly Time wrote...

i've been talking to this girl for a year now and she is complicated.  I really like her and we built a trust between us.  She confided in me, trusted me with private matters and spent evenings skyping with each other.

And here is where it gets complicated......

I'll never forget November 1st.  The day I told the girl of my dreams how I felt.  She called me modest compared to other guys (in a good way.  she was not a open person) and said when the time comes for her to move back to where i lived, she'd consider it. (i met her at school before she moved away for a year)  We suddenly stopped talking and when we do talk it is very short.  one lined messages, and just no interest in the conversation.  i asked her is she was ignoring me and she denied it.

But this is what I dont get.  This girl was always talking about guys being douchebags to her, yet guys that were nice to her, she treated like dirt?

i wish for the day, when man will understand women lol

You sir fell into the "friend" pit. She thinks you are her friend, nothing more. As you are a friend, she pretty much takes your patience and understanding for granted. You are just the guy who gets to listen to her whine after the guy-that-treats-her-like-**** she dates, well, treats her like ****.  You are, at best, the backup plan of the backup plan of the backup plan. If she ever wants you, she'll be like mid-30's with a few children and maybe a few divorces, and if you still want her then, God bless your heart. I know I wouldn't. 

If you want to date a girl, never, NEVER be her friend. The approach required will vary, but I find that the "apathetic dick" approach generally works very well for no understandable reason.  If it made any sense to me, I'd tell you, but it doesn't. Good luck.

9/10 says this girl is already a lost cause. Move on. Forget about her. And no, odds are your lack of contact will not make her miss you. She'll just find another "complain-buddy" to whine at. 

[mousestalker]

As you grow older you will likely understand other people better. Your ability to empathize should increase. It's an important skill to have as a human being. What you also should work on is having your head rule your heart, in other words, self control.

Even the wisest of people can still have their reason overthrown by passion if they allow it. As romantic as such a picture is, it rarely ends well.

/guru

[Volus Warlord]

DuckSoup wrote...

C9316 wrote...

Girls are crazy...

So are guys

Yes, but we are generally  a more predictable and straightforward sort of crazy, whereas women are very good at keeping me guessing. 

They are very, very good at making sure I've absolutely no idea what's coming. . 

Modifié par Volus Warlord, 03 février 2012 - 02:49 .

[mbr.to]

being a complete dick makes you appear masculine.
some (many?/most?) girls totally want that and tell you the exact opposite.

hit me now

[syllogi]

Why do boys poke me and run away on the playground?

I don't understand them at all.

[Merchant2006]

YOUR IN THE FRIEND ZONE. IT'S TOO LATE. IF YOU SHOW RESPECT TO WIMMINZ THEN THEY FRIEND ZONE YOU. WEAR A LEATHER JACKET. SMOKE. PLAY A GUITAR. DISRESPECT HER AND SHE WILL LOVE YOU FOR IT. U WILL BE GR8EST BOSS ON PLANETZ.

No really, this aint the place to discuss stuff but she isn't worth your time OP. Girls like badboys.

Here's a perfect example.

My friend has a dick boyfriend who cheated on her and she called me and asked me if I could lend her a hand in moving her stuff back into her house. Sure, why not, I was in the area so sure. And after about an hour or so of both of us moving all of her stuff back into her parents house she says "I don't think I'll ever find a nice guy."
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Even funnier that a few days ago I found an online image macro of "Help girl move out of boyfriends house, get asked why there are no nice guys". I just never bothered with her. Move along OP. Please. Don't bother. Women r dumb. And lol @ women posting on dis thread and giving mature advice. Don't read it. Just move along and don't try it on this girl you like, you're her friend, FRIENNNNNNNNND. You're that rock she will sit on when there aint no more chairs. And a chair will come along and she will just move onto the next-best-thing... i.e. not you.

Modifié par Stanley Woo, 03 février 2012 - 05:13 .

[Volus Warlord]

syllogi wrote...

Why do boys poke me and run away on the playground?

I don't understand them at all.

Setting a precedent.  

*hides*

[Seagloom]

It's not that "badboys" are preferable to nice guys. It's that nice guys are boring if that's all they have to offer. Be supportive, be a good listener, help out and all that neato stuff. The problem comes when that's all you're good for. Nice is not a replacement for interesting. It doesn't make up for a lack of chemistry and passion. Really, the question of where are all the nice guys is misleading; because no one wants only nice.

In reply to the OP, I think Milana_Saros got it on the first page. It's better to keep it simple stupid than try to understand why people do as they do in these situations. Motivations are rarely that complicated. If you were in a committed relationship and wanted to analyze why things went wrong, okay. But this early in the game, before there is any relationship? Don't put too much thought into it.

Stay her friend or not, as you wish; but don't count on her doing a 180 and falling for you anytime soon. Not gonna happen.

Modifié par Seagloom, 03 février 2012 - 03:15 .

[Volus Warlord]

Ivandra Ceruden wrote...

Wow, after reading some of the posts on here, I can understand why some guys on here aren't able to find a girlfriend. LOL.

Mhm. Being this on this form is a romantic liability. 

[Milana_Saros]

Seagloom wrote...

In reply to the OP, I think Milana_Saros got it on the first page. It's better to keep it simple stupid than try to understand why people do as they do in these situations.

You calling me stupid? D:

Haha, only joking. But to add to the whole nice guy thing:

I've actually been rejected by one of these nice guys. He was there being all mushy mushy. Listening to the aches of my heart and chatting me up all the time. Like ALL the time. To the point where it became a tad annoying. So I was wondering....why is this person letting me bleed my heart to him if he isn't interested in me? Doesn't hurt to ask right? Turns out...not because he was interested in me. Funny how that turned out. After carefully and politely turning me down and making sure I'm OK and not completely heartbroken, he moved on to chat up this other girl who was having some serious issues with her family....he never started dating her either.

So I guess what I'm trying to say that there really is TOO nice of a guy. Most girls want a stable guy. The type of guy who treats you well but who will also fight you back if he doesn't see eye to eye on something. Boot licking isn't very attractive on the long run. Don't become the soul bearer who concentrates their life on tending to crying girls, never finding true happiness of his own. Helping others is good and needed but trying to build a relationship on it rarely works.

[Volus Warlord]

Milana_Saros wrote...

Seagloom wrote...

In reply to the OP, I think Milana_Saros got it on the first page. It's better to keep it simple stupid than try to understand why people do as they do in these situations.

You calling me stupid? D:

Haha, only joking. But to add to the whole nice guy thing:

I've actually been rejected by one of these nice guys. He was there being all mushy mushy. Listening to the aches of my heart and chatting me up all the time. Like ALL the time. To the point where it became a tad annoying. So I was wondering....why is this person letting me bleed my heart to him if he isn't interested in me? Doesn't hurt to ask right? Turns out...not because he was interested in me. Funny how that turned out. After carefully and politely turning me down and making sure I'm OK and not completely heartbroken, he moved on to chat up this other girl who was having some serious issues with her family....he never started dating her either.

So I guess what I'm trying to say that there really is TOO nice of a guy. Most girls want a stable guy. The type of guy who treats you well but who will also fight you back if he doesn't see eye to eye on something. Boot licking isn't very attractive on the long run. Don't become the soul bearer who concentrates their life on tending to crying girls, never finding true happiness of his own. Helping others is good and needed but trying to build a relationship on it rarely works.

DENIED! 
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jk. That is pretty funny. I'm sorry. I shouldn't find that funny. Forgive me. 

Though I must admit that is the first time I've heard of such an occurrance.  That is.. weird. 

Modifié par Stanley Woo, 03 février 2012 - 05:17 .

[Jestina]

For some guys, the nice routine is mostly just an act...which I never fall for now. Sure they are nice in the beginning, but after you've been with them awhile, then you'll find out what they are really like.

Like the saying, if it seems too good to be true....My ex was that way. Very nice when we met, but then he started getting abusive after about a year.

[Volus Warlord]

Jestina wrote...

For some guys, the nice routine is mostly just an act...which I never fall for now. Sure they are nice in the beginning, but after you've been with them awhile, then you'll find out what they are really like.

Like the saying, if it seems too good to be true....My ex was that way. Very nice when we met, but then he started getting abusive after about a year.

We all put up fronts. :innocent:

Abusive, huh? Did you kick his ass at least?