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[Dave Exclamation Mark Yognaut]

Suprez30 wrote...
Mysterious sound creepy by itself. It's was not how I used it. If you're to 'easy' to have  ... boring and unchallenging. Why do you think so many divorce happens? You need to spice thing up  for  a relationship  to remain interesting. If the girl know  whatever  she do you you will remain her pup she will lose interest and vice-versa.

Quite normal. Being mysterious mean having your secret. You don't need to tell her everything. Which make thing boring. Being Nice is boring. Being nice sound in my book to be dependant.

I'm imagining this being read by your avatar.

[DRUNK_CANADIAN]

Hathur wrote...

It is more than evident too many people here (men and women alike) have a shoddy concept of what a "nice guy" actually is.

To most of you it seems being little more than a throw rug, quiet, shy, doing anything for a woman, etc constitutes "nice" .... being "nice" for the sake or hopes of bedding a woman does not make one "nice" ... courting does not constitute "niceness" (nothing wrong with it... but courting is just a means to an end).

You have to look a hell of a lot deeper to see real "nice guys" than whether or not they give you flowers, give you a jacket on a cold day, let you walk all over them, agree with constantly.

"Nice guys" possess traits like empathy, compassion, benevolence and they exhibit these qualities in their life around them... not just towards a woman they want.

That being said, true "nice guys" (or nice women for that matter) are rather rare.. the word is simply tossed around too liberally.

Social awkwardness, quietness, shyness or the fact you don't merely walk up to a woman and say "hey baby, nice ass", does not make you a "nice guy"... thats something you become through deeds.

Nope.avi

Its all perspective, nice and mean, good and bad. That and nobody is pure, you look hard enough and even the nicest person who is compassionate, selfless and all that jazz has a dark side.

I'm a nice guy IRL, but on the interwebz I'm the meanest SOB around.

[blothulfur]

To be fair OP, I don't think many women undserstand us men either. I spent my entire marriage being repeatedly asked to open up and just talk with the missus, yet she knew that I was a monosyllabic bad tempered bastard from the get go.

Still i'm nice to my dog.

[Gotholhorakh]

Hathur wrote...
Social
awkwardness, quietness, shyness or the fact you don't merely walk up to a
woman and say "hey baby, nice ass", does not make you a "nice guy"...
thats something you become through deeds.

Agree - I think an awful lot of people who are cruel, or stalky, or possessive or whatever classify themselves as nice for these reasons, and that people call... perhaps awkward or geeky men "nice guys" in kindness when these conversations start and they get it into their head to think of themselves as "nice" even if they're not particularly.

There are all sorts of ways a man can be a nice guy that aren't shyness, romantic reticence, for instance being calming, strong, brave, useful at decisions, good with kids etc.

Also, there are a fair few people who try to use "nice friend" as a springboard to Knickertown.

(Argh, so cynical-sounding this post - I do appreciate that not every nice person is a creepy stalker :innocent:).

Milana_Saros wrote...

Yeah....comprehending something beyond a pop culture reference is hard. Just as hard as it is to admit that you've completely misunderstood a person's post. But that's all right. I forgive you

Oh, I didn't fail to comprehend what you actually said, my comprehension of English is (and almost always has been) second to none, thanks.

If the reference and what you actually said failed to convey what you intended, that's a failure of your communication skills or your English. Neither of which would be my fault, so respectfully you can probably just reserve your arch comments about misunderstandings, for yourself.

Modifié par Gotholhorakh, 05 février 2012 - 07:08 .

[Homebound]

Peanut Butter Jelly Time wrote...

i've been talking to this girl for a year now and she is complicated.  I really like her and we built a trust between us.  She confided in me, trusted me with private matters and spent evenings skyping with each other.

And here is where it gets complicated......

I'll never forget November 1st.  The day I told the girl of my dreams how I felt.  She called me modest compared to other guys (in a good way.  she was not a open person) and said when the time comes for her to move back to where i lived, she'd consider it. (i met her at school before she moved away for a year)  We suddenly stopped talking and when we do talk it is very short.  one lined messages, and just no interest in the conversation.  i asked her is she was ignoring me and she denied it.

But this is what I dont get.  This girl was always talking about guys being douchebags to her, yet guys that were nice to her, she treated like dirt?

i wish for the day, when man will understand women lol

Its ok Peanut butter, when you tell a friend that you have feelings for them that goes beyond friendship, suddenly rules and perceptions change. Things need to readjust, Im sure you and your special friend can make it through this awkward phase. Just make sure you keep in contact, no matter how awkward or short the conversations go. You arent talking to each other as friends anymore but as potential lovers, it'll take some time before you two are comfortable with each other again. She's not ignoring you, these are just the growing pains as you two become closer and closer.

As for how your friend treats other guys, I believe this might be coming from something deeply rooted inside her. She's hurting inside. You see, sometimes people try to gain acceptance from the people who hurt them the most. For example, someone might say you are a mean person, now you might want to prove to this person that "Hey, Im not mean, Im a good person, let me prove you wrong!" For some people, thats all they know and they end up becoming dependent on the approval of others. And when someone comes along who really loves them for who they are, they dont understand it because hey, "Im not being criticised so I dont need to show this person how nice I am!"

I dont know your friend, you know her better than I do, but I hope I've shed some light on the situation. And if this really is the case to why she seems to fall for the wrong guys and push the good people in her life away, show her what love really is. Show her how kind and unconditional and nurturing it is, and never let her go no matter how hard she pushes you away.

Modifié par Hellbound555, 05 février 2012 - 07:25 .

[William Shakespeare]

Hellbound555 wrote...

Peanut Butter Jelly Time wrote...

i've been talking to this girl for a year now and she is complicated.  I really like her and we built a trust between us.  She confided in me, trusted me with private matters and spent evenings skyping with each other.

And here is where it gets complicated......

I'll never forget November 1st.  The day I told the girl of my dreams how I felt.  She called me modest compared to other guys (in a good way.  she was not a open person) and said when the time comes for her to move back to where i lived, she'd consider it. (i met her at school before she moved away for a year)  We suddenly stopped talking and when we do talk it is very short.  one lined messages, and just no interest in the conversation.  i asked her is she was ignoring me and she denied it.

But this is what I dont get.  This girl was always talking about guys being douchebags to her, yet guys that were nice to her, she treated like dirt?

i wish for the day, when man will understand women lol

Its ok Peanut butter, when you tell a friend that you have feelings for them that goes beyond friendship, suddenly rules and perceptions change. Things need to readjust, Im sure you and your special friend can make it through this awkward phase. Just make sure you keep in contact, no matter how awkward or short the conversations go. You arent talking to each other as friends anymore but as potential lovers, it'll take some time before you two are comfortable with each other again. She's not ignoring you, these are just the growing pains as you two become closer and closer.

As for how your friend treats other guys, I believe this might be coming from something deeply rooted inside her. She's hurting inside. You see, sometimes people try to gain acceptance from the people who hurt them the most. For example, someone might say you are a mean person, now you might want to prove to this person that "Hey, Im not mean, Im a good person, let me prove you wrong!" For some people, thats all they know and they end up becoming dependent on the approval of others. And when someone comes along who really loves them for who they are, they dont understand it because hey, "Im not being criticised so I dont need to show this person how nice I am!"

I dont know your friend, you know her better than I do, but I hope I've shed some light on the situation. And if this really is the case to why she seems to fall for the wrong guys and push the good people in her life away, show her what love really is. Show her how kind and unconditional and nurturing it is, and never let her go no matter how hard she pushes you away.

no offense, but i dont think the OP wants to get a restraining order against him. lol

[Melra]

Trying to get anything started online is pointless. You can get to the point, where you decide to go out on a date, but having it hang in there for months and "have nice chat" isn't going to work. I've been in the "nice chat" mode for few years now, get out while you still can.

[Chuvvy]

Sixteen yearold girls are ****ing crazy. And some girls like being treated like ****, they complain about it, but they keep going back to alpha male douchebags. Those women, are not worth your time. Those women were also probably molested, or have some sort of personality disorder.

Modifié par Slidell505, 06 février 2012 - 04:41 .

[Lotion Soronarr]

You don't understand girls?


Just girls? You lucky sod. I don't understand any of you....

[Chuvvy]

Angus Cousland wrote...

Slidell505 wrote...

Sixteen yearold girls are ****ing crazy. And some girls like being treated like ****, they complain about it, but they keep going back to alpha male douchebags. Those women, are not worth your time. Those women were also probably molested, or have some sort of personality disorder.

Borderline personality disorder seems to be the name of the game when it comes to these sorts of women, and I wouldn't touch someone with that problem with a ten foot pole.

And others would be wise to do the same.

BPD is surprisingly pretty unknown to the general population (at least in my experience), but in my opinion it's one of the worst personality disorders. They lie to, and manipulate everyone, and they're 100% crazy. It's bipolarism on crack, in one conversation they can go from thinking you're the greatest thing ever, then worse than Hitler, then back to loving you. And they can go from happy, to depressed, to angry, then back to happy. If you meet someone with BPD you run the in the oppsite direction, and you don't stop running. Most of them were abused as children, usually sexually, which is unfortunate, but unless you really like being in stressful situations, I wouldn't associate with them.

Modifié par Slidell505, 06 février 2012 - 11:40 .

[King Minos]

Hathur wrote...

It is more than evident too many people here (men and women alike) have a shoddy concept of what a "nice guy" actually is.

To most of you it seems being little more than a throw rug, quiet, shy, doing anything for a woman, etc constitutes "nice" .... being "nice" for the sake or hopes of bedding a woman does not make one "nice" ... courting does not constitute "niceness" (nothing wrong with it... but courting is just a means to an end).

You have to look a hell of a lot deeper to see real "nice guys" than whether or not they give you flowers, give you a jacket on a cold day, let you walk all over them, agree with constantly.

"Nice guys" possess traits like empathy, compassion, benevolence and they exhibit these qualities in their life around them... not just towards a woman they want.

That being said, true "nice guys" (or nice women for that matter) are rather rare.. the word is simply tossed around too liberally.

Social awkwardness, quietness, shyness or the fact you don't merely walk up to a woman and say "hey baby, nice ass", does not make you a "nice guy"... thats something you become through deeds.

Poo...guess i'm not a nice guy.

[Volus Warlord]

King Minos wrote...

Hathur wrote...

It is more than evident too many people here (men and women alike) have a shoddy concept of what a "nice guy" actually is.

To most of you it seems being little more than a throw rug, quiet, shy, doing anything for a woman, etc constitutes "nice" .... being "nice" for the sake or hopes of bedding a woman does not make one "nice" ... courting does not constitute "niceness" (nothing wrong with it... but courting is just a means to an end).

You have to look a hell of a lot deeper to see real "nice guys" than whether or not they give you flowers, give you a jacket on a cold day, let you walk all over them, agree with constantly.

"Nice guys" possess traits like empathy, compassion, benevolence and they exhibit these qualities in their life around them... not just towards a woman they want.

That being said, true "nice guys" (or nice women for that matter) are rather rare.. the word is simply tossed around too liberally.

Social awkwardness, quietness, shyness or the fact you don't merely walk up to a woman and say "hey baby, nice ass", does not make you a "nice guy"... thats something you become through deeds.

Poo...guess i'm not a nice guy.

Nor am I. I've little empathy, no compassion, and am rather malicious to people who irk me..

[slimgrin]

This is still going on? Look fellas, it's simple. You just need to maintain eye contact at all times.


https://encrypted-tb...mnfybBAYykbs_fm

Modifié par slimgrin, 07 février 2012 - 04:04 .

[Volus Warlord]

slimgrin wrote...

This is still going on? Look fellas, it's simple. You just need to maintain eye contact at all times.


*snip*

I mean, that's inappropriate. :innocent: Those are too big to be healthy. 

Modifié par Volus Warlord, 07 février 2012 - 04:08 .

[jcainhaze]

Goodness

Modifié par jcainhaze, 07 février 2012 - 04:14 .

[Melra]

Sources of eternal happiness! Funbags!

I wuw how all the shy and awkward guys seem to be thinking that just because they're too shy to properly talk to girls/people in general, they're "nice guys". I mean in nine cases out of ten, when someone says they're a nice guy, they usually describe themselves as shy and maybe bit socially awkward.

It seems to be growing trend, that when girls "don't realize your greatness" people start hiding behind the "nice guy syndroma" and don't focus on what might be wrong with them, instead of the chicks.

Ps.

Dem girls won't find you from your momma's basement.

[DRUNK_CANADIAN]

public service work noted...clap clap clap*

[Kaiser Arian XVII]

I've had enough of this ... *Krogan Rages and kicks the butt of every bastard cheater and liar*

[William Shakespeare]

my gf doesnt realize i get along better with her best friend....lol

[chunkyman]

Melrache wrote...

I wuw how all the shy and awkward guys seem to be thinking that just because they're too shy to properly talk to girls/people in general, they're "nice guys". I mean in nine cases out of ten, when someone says they're a nice guy, they usually describe themselves as shy and maybe bit socially awkward.

It seems to be growing trend, that when girls "don't realize your greatness" people start hiding behind the "nice guy syndroma" and don't focus on what might be wrong with them, instead of the chicks.

Personally, I prefer hiding behind the " I'm an immature and cruel jerk" thing in order to justify why I suck at getting girlfriends (or regular friends). While my personality is garbage, it is quite useful for comedic purposes.

[Kallianira]

The problem why you don't understand girls is probably because you are not listening... like most guys.

Modifié par Kallianira, 07 février 2012 - 06:34 .

[chunkyman]

Kallianira wrote...

The problem why you don't understand girls is probably because you are not listening... like most guys.

The problem with women is that they never have anything interesting to say. 

(I kid, or do I? )