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[Seagloom]

MerinTB wrote...
You do realize you cannot prove a negative, right?

It's impossible to prove on isn't a cheater.  They always COULD become one in anycase.

It's like assuming everyone is guilty until proven innocent.  That way leads to disaster and paranoia.

You begin to understand why I'm a loner. Splendid!  I expect the worst from people. If someone can ever prove otherwise, maybe I will trust them fully. Thus far it hasn't happened. I have never trusted anyone unconditionally.

Modifié par Seagloom, 07 février 2012 - 09:57 .

[Chromie]

Seagloom wrote...
You begin to understand why I'm a loner. 

Why hello Seagloom. <3

[King Minos]

Seagloom wrote...

MerinTB wrote...
You do realize you cannot prove a negative, right?

It's impossible to prove on isn't a cheater.  They always COULD become one in anycase.

It's like assuming everyone is guilty until proven innocent.  That way leads to disaster and paranoia.

You begin to understand why I'm a loner. Splendid!  I expect the worst from people. If someone can ever prove otherwise, maybe I will trust them fully. Thus far it hasn't happened. I have never trusted anyone unconditionally.

I'm like this i guess.

If i entered a relationship, i will always suspect something despite not being in a real relationship before so i have no experience. I am always cautious, even when it comes to friends. When a friend calls me and asks to go to a nightclub, i think they are planning something or attempting to make me look like a fool.

I guess i am too shielded to enter a relationship for now. I always look out for myself first. I don't need help now and i won't need help in the future, i do activities by myself.
 
I already have a stained image of women somehow, so I am really suspicious if they talk to me.

If i did enter a relationship and i did get cheated on i would either:

1. Cheat as well. Fair's fair.

2. Tell her to [llama] off and just get laid with a random stranger and not give a [walrus].

3. Play Xbox and continue to not give a [capybara].

[No swearing, please.]

Modifié par Stanley Woo, 08 février 2012 - 12:53 .

[Eternal Phoenix]

Conclusion:

Trust no one. Not even yourself. I cheated on myself once. I killed myself to teach myself not to cheat on me. I hope I burn in Hell for cheating on myself because that'll teach me to cheat on me cheating on myself.

[android654]

King Minos wrote...

Seagloom wrote...

MerinTB wrote...
You do realize you cannot prove a negative, right?

It's impossible to prove on isn't a cheater.  They always COULD become one in anycase.

It's like assuming everyone is guilty until proven innocent.  That way leads to disaster and paranoia.

You begin to understand why I'm a loner. Splendid!  I expect the worst from people. If someone can ever prove otherwise, maybe I will trust them fully. Thus far it hasn't happened. I have never trusted anyone unconditionally.

I'm like this i guess.

If i entered a relationship, i will always suspect something despite not being in a real relationship before so i have no experience. I am always cautious, even when it comes to friends. When a friend calls me and asks to go to a nightclub, i think they are planning something or attempting to make me look like a fool.

I guess i am too shielded to enter a relationship for now. I always look out for myself first. I don't need help now and i won't need help in the future, i do activities by myself.
 
I already have a stained image of women somehow, so I am really suspicious if they talk to me.

If i did enter a relationship and i did get cheated on i would either:

1. Cheat as well. Fair's fair.

2. Tell her to **** off and just get laid with a random stranger and not give a ****.

3. Play Xbox and continue to not give a ****.

Anger and vindiction isn't healthy.

[Kaiser Shepard]

No, I'm just too awesome to be cheated on.

[jesuno]

Yes, but cannot really complain when I cheated one every single girlfriend except my future wife. Moral of the story, don't be a ****, don't get treated like a ****.

[Doctalen]

Haven't been in a relationship yet so nope

[SaY4cT]

Silly question.

[Stanley Woo]

Let's cut out all the swearing and other inappropriate language, please.

[Volus Warlord]

Cheating.. hmm..

Well, if I know a person cheated in a previous relationship, I generally lose about 99.9567% of any respect I had for them. It's just low. The "justifications" for it are the most halfass things I've ever seen, and are far more often than not downright laughable.

If she's "not meeting your needs," have the stones to break up. I'm not quite sure what "needs" you're referring to, and I question your means of "trying to discover your true self," but that does not justify your actions.

If your oaths are meaningless, you are meaningless.

[android654]

Volus Warlord wrote...

Cheating.. hmm..

Well, if I know a person cheated in a previous relationship, I generally lose about 99.9567% of any respect I had for them. It's just low. The "justifications" for it are the most halfass things I've ever seen, and are far more often than not downright laughable.

If she's "not meeting your needs," have the stones to break up. I'm not quite sure what "needs" you're referring to, and I question your means of "trying to discover your true self," but that does not justify your actions.

If your oaths are meaningless, you are meaningless.

Oaths? People take oaths when they're dating?

[Clover Rider]

Volus Warlord wrote...

Cheating.. hmm..

Well, if I know a person cheated in a previous relationship, I generally lose about 99.9567% of any respect I had for them. It's just low. The "justifications" for it are the most halfass things I've ever seen, and are far more often than not downright laughable.

If she's "not meeting your needs," have the stones to break up. I'm not quite sure what "needs" you're referring to, and I question your means of "trying to discover your true self," but that does not justify your actions.

If your oaths are meaningless, you are meaningless.

Some times people just fall out of love and it has nothing to do with needs.

Then people make new oaths that are not meaningless and then they are not meaningless.

Modifié par Some Geth, 08 février 2012 - 01:14 .

[Volus Warlord]

android654 wrote...

Volus Warlord wrote...

Cheating.. hmm..

Well, if I know a person cheated in a previous relationship, I generally lose about 99.9567% of any respect I had for them. It's just low. The "justifications" for it are the most halfass things I've ever seen, and are far more often than not downright laughable.

If she's "not meeting your needs," have the stones to break up. I'm not quite sure what "needs" you're referring to, and I question your means of "trying to discover your true self," but that does not justify your actions.

If your oaths are meaningless, you are meaningless.

Oaths? People take oaths when they're dating?

Haha. Dating is more of an implicit social contract. Nonetheless, the point still stands. Yeah, you're gonna date people and later realize "holy ****, we are about as compatible as nitric acid and glycerin!" But that does not mean you should cheat. End it, but do so with some degree of honor. 

Modifié par Volus Warlord, 08 février 2012 - 01:22 .

[slimgrin]

Ringo12 wrote...

Seagloom wrote...
You begin to understand why I'm a loner. 

Why hello Seagloom. <3

Bow chicka bow bow.

Alas I have been. I was 22, she 17. I was an aspiring artist and rock climber. She was aspiring trailer trash. I miss those days.

[Volus Warlord]

slimgrin wrote...

Ringo12 wrote...

Seagloom wrote...
You begin to understand why I'm a loner. 

Why hello Seagloom. <3

Bow chicka bow bow.

Alas I have been. I was 22, she 17. I was an aspiring artist and rock climber. She was aspiring trailer trash. I miss those days.

Do you dress very nicely if you know you're going to have to see her? 

[jerst]

I've been cheated on when I was a teenager, soon after that, I tasted for the first time the sweet flavor of a beautifully executed vengeance.

After that event I've been a cheater many times and for many reasons, mainly because I was some sort of lust-driven ******. It got even worse when I realised how easily I could smooth talk my way out of a situation. But fortunatly, I came to my senses after I used it as a "breaking up tool", it was really messy and painful.
Since then I have learned that there is no such thing as a good explanation or excuse when it comes done to it. You can choose to overlook it afterward, but there's definitly something broken in the relationship, and it's really not that easy to fix. And a clean break up is much more healthy.

And until now, I've sometime been used as a cheating tool and... It's really the worst. When you realise what has happened, either during an akward face to face with the boyfriend or with a confession, it feels like being the cheater and the cheated. God I hate when it happens

[jcainhaze]

Yeah I pretty much learned how to cheat from a grilfriend that cheated on me.  Typical story really.  I was the honest loving boyfriend too nieve to realize girls were capable of being so hurtful.  I was 16 and I was completely crushed by it.  After that particular event I cheated on every single girlfriend for about 10 years.  That probably covers 20'ish gf's.  Somewhere around 27 years old I started to change alot as a person.  One of those major life moments where you reflect a lot and work towards being a better all around person.  I matured quite a bit and eventually completely replaced everything about my life.  Chasing girls and partytime was no longer my main focus in life.  So I met a nice girl at college and she cheated on me after 9 months.  LOL.  I probably deserved it X10.  

Now days, I couldn't care less about dating for some reason.  I remember the days when I felt like females were Gods most fantastic creation.  I'm still attracted, interested, and enjoy their company but I couldn't care less about having a girlfriend.  Girls are just people....not objects.  I don't get overwhelmed by their outwardly beauty like I used to.  I look much much MUCH more at whats really going on within the person.   I have a feeling that my next relationship will be something completely different from any I have experienced in the past.  It'll probably be something based more on things like deep mutual respect and a genuine friendship.  That type of relationship is pretty insulated from petty things like cheating. 

Sounds corney but it's so true

Modifié par jcainhaze, 08 février 2012 - 08:28 .

[Weskerr]

Yes and it was the most painful experience in my life. Honestly, I rather die than have it happen to me again.

[Gotholhorakh]

Seagloom wrote...
You begin to understand why I'm a loner. Splendid!  I expect the worst from people.

At one point in my life, after being repeatedly disappointed by people's inability to be loyal and honourable to one another, I realised something:

If I expected the best from people I would probably be constantly disappointed then as well, BUT my default mood between disappointments would be "switched" to being happy and trusting, rather than unhappy and mistrustful. I would no longer be waiting for the next disappointment.

I made a conscious decision to assume people were loyal and honourable towards me until proven otherwise, for the essentially selfish purpose of feeling happy for more of the time.

Contrary to what you might think, there isn't any real "extra disappointment" trade-off, either, because you didn't become more naive or stupid.

If anything, I think that for people of suspicious nature this would probably make you less likely to drive people away, too.

Modifié par Gotholhorakh, 08 février 2012 - 01:41 .

[fightright2]

I was cheated on in the past repeatedly by the same person but it wasn't devastating to me because he and I both knew that we were just killing time with each other. I think to some degree I just didn't want to be alone but at the same time I didn't want to sink my heart into someone honorable and being with him was a way of torturing myself for not being with the one I loved.

You see, I just didn't believe that at that time, I was good enough for the one that loved me and thought he deserved better than me.

That special one that loved me is my husband now and it was he that taught me about unconditional love. He is the most honorable man I know. He places our family first and always, always protects our relationship from any potential threats and possible sabotage.

Though we are both the jealous type, we both find it endearing to be that way but not to the point that we suffocate each other. It's just, we both found that not only do we prefer to be with each other only to the point that we don't feel the need to socialize with others...we are content to keep it that way.


I am very fortunate to have married my best friend.

[Seagloom]

@Gotholhorakh

Thanks for the advice, but I don't think it would work in my case. I had a much longer reply prepared. It was stuffed with personal details. For a moment I forgot this was a public forum where all my crap would be seen by who knows how many strangers.

I'll just vaguely state my past and the emotional issues entwined in it, are deeply rooted and more complicated than my prior posts in this thread suggest. I've had a long time to mull over these issues with and without outside assistance, and feel fairly confident in knowing where my limitations lay.

Modifié par Seagloom, 08 février 2012 - 04:59 .