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[Stardusk78]

D3MON-SOVER3IGN wrote...

Reading this thread adds to the reassurance of why I don't want to be in any committed relationship. I've spent alot of time thinking and wondering what's the point in relationships. After finding out some of the reasons behind why some people do it.. I again think.. was it worth going through all of that. But here are some other reasons why people have a hard time committing themselves to one person these days.

~ Media Influence = Movies, talk shows, reality tv, articles, all have distorted our perception on relationships
~ More choice = as to who you want to be with
~ Decline of religion. I'm an Atheist but I am aware of the influence and effects religion has on a relationship. Mostly positive and I'm basing this off my personal experience and what ive seen in other peoples relationship

I can add and elaborate more but i dont feel like it.

People have relationships for the simple reason that men are addicted to women, more specifically the sex they offer men. It's that simple.

[AlanC9]

What's in it for the women, Stardusk?

[Stardusk78]

AlanC9 wrote...

What's in it for the women, Stardusk?

As in why women pursue relationships? to assert their power and influence over men, acquiring his services in terms of finances and labour.

[King Minos]

I never understand why people cheat, i would prefer to be told straight that they are cheating and just end it.

I prefer the cold truth.

Modifié par King Minos, 08 février 2012 - 08:18 .

[Arppis]

Naw.

King Minos wrote...

I never understand why people cheat, i would prefer to be told straight that they are cheating and just end it.

I prefer the cold truth.

Yep, same.

AlanC9 wrote...

What's in it for the women, Stardusk?

Well, they get... err.. someone to "protect" them and make them feel safe... and what else... uh... err... They are constantly cold so bodyheat fixes that! And uh! They want to make babies! And other girls have boyfriend, so they gotta get one too! YES!

That's about it... Did I guess right, ladies? 

Modifié par Arppis, 08 février 2012 - 08:43 .

[Kallianira]

I once was cheating on someone... Shouldn't have done that... Very bad idea... Not good...

[DRUNK_CANADIAN]

Yes once, but I take solace in that her and her new lover were abysmal failures at life last time I saw them, and I doubt that has changed unless they won the lottery or committed suicide, which would probably be an improvement over their situation when last I met them.

Other than that, most of my relationships ended on good terms in general and were of mutual benefit of both parties.

[Stardusk78]

D3MON-SOVER3IGN wrote...

AlanC9 wrote...

What's in it for the women, Stardusk?

Security

Well, yes, in a way, but it must be had at the cost of male self-immolation.

[Jedi Ninja]

Yes I was cheated on it hurt. I was caught totaly off guard and not only did I lose a girlfriend but also my bestfriend no really she cheated on with my bestfriend. But everything happens for a reason I never would have meet the love of my life and had our three beautiful children. So in the end it was good that it happened.

[guitarmouse]

JasonRocker wrote...

Details please. 

you start all these different threads and never post on them yourself...
so answer your own question....

[DRUNK_CANADIAN]

King Minos wrote...

I never understand why people cheat, i would prefer to be told straight that they are cheating and just end it.

I prefer the cold truth.

Money in most cases, they want to stay with the individual with the $$$, other times its just lack of maturity and common sense.

[CmndrFisher]

5 times.
First: years ago in university. I never knew one could feel pain like that.
Second time: a few years later. I knew what I was getting into but thought I could change her (I was dumb). I moved on.
The next three times: My wife cheated. I gave her the heave-ho and she left. I kept the house and my daughter chose to stay with me.

I really have no use now for the female of this species, at least as far as any romantic involvement goes.

[Dominus]

Oh, what the hell. What is a man? A miserable pile of secrets posted on the internet.

I was cheated on in an internet relationship. We'd met in world of warcraft in the vanilla days. I believe it was running around in Un'Goro crater for some generic quests. At one point in the relationship, she let me run around in her account as a priest for the giggles. Unfortunately for her, I found incriminating evidence in her virtual mailbox.

Game Over.

[Thiefy]

No I haven't been cheated on; though I did find out one of my ex's friends tried to get him to cheat on me while we were still dating. (that was his story)

It was a pretty interesting conversation I had with my now ex, when I asked him why this girl and her friend approached me at work (part time job in college) and started asking me questions about my relationship and him when I didn't know her.

Never seen a grown man look so scared in my life. Look like he was about to crap his pants then and there.

The flip side of the coin was that I was able to convince the girl and her friend to buy some lotion and body wash throughout the interrogation. Hey, I'm still on the clock after all.

[Stardusk78]

Angus Cousland wrote...

Stardusk78 wrote...

People have relationships for the simple reason that men are addicted to women, more specifically the sex they offer men. It's that simple.

No, it's not. That's a gross oversimplification.

Most people aren't that simple. Hell, not even wild animals are like that. There's far more to relationships than mere sex, and anyone who claims otherwise hasn't thought it through.

Think about it: if all there was to relationships was sex, why would "relationships" exist in the first place? Wouldn't it be simpler for people to just have brief sexual encounters, then move on?

People form close bonds with each other and have families as a result of relationships. People do it, animals do it. Seeking out sex with others and no more doesn't allow for such things to occur.

Of course, more and more people are seeking sex from others, and foregoing emotional attachments and the prospect of having families. I'm with D3MON-SOVER3IGN in that I believe it's a result of social engineering.

But that's another subject entirely.

Social engineering....I said men seek relationships because they seek sex, women have them for other reasons.

[Stardusk78]

CmndrFisher wrote...

5 times.
First: years ago in university. I never knew one could feel pain like that.
Second time: a few years later. I knew what I was getting into but thought I could change her (I was dumb). I moved on.
The next three times: My wife cheated. I gave her the heave-ho and she left. I kept the house and my daughter chose to stay with me.

I really have no use now for the female of this species, at least as far as any romantic involvement goes.

Incredible, usually the man is deprived of his children. I hope your daughter does not grow up to be like her mother.

[Stardusk78]

Angus Cousland wrote...

Stardusk78 wrote...

Social engineering....I said men seek relationships because they seek sex, women have them for other reasons.

And you are wrong, as I outlined in my previous post.

You outlined nothing. Yes, social engineering has had an impact on marriage and traditional relationships, feminism being the primary culprit but the basic urge of man is to seek VAGINA, i.e. procreation. In earlier times this was accomplished through marriage, these days with marriage being an almost sure loss for any man, there is little incentive for a man to marry or enter into any serious relationship. The female dynamic, however, has changed little.

[Thiefy]

Stardusk78 wrote...

Angus Cousland wrote...

Stardusk78 wrote...

People have relationships for the simple reason that men are addicted to women, more specifically the sex they offer men. It's that simple.

No, it's not. That's a gross oversimplification.

Most people aren't that simple. Hell, not even wild animals are like that. There's far more to relationships than mere sex, and anyone who claims otherwise hasn't thought it through.

Think about it: if all there was to relationships was sex, why would "relationships" exist in the first place? Wouldn't it be simpler for people to just have brief sexual encounters, then move on?

People form close bonds with each other and have families as a result of relationships. People do it, animals do it. Seeking out sex with others and no more doesn't allow for such things to occur.

Of course, more and more people are seeking sex from others, and foregoing emotional attachments and the prospect of having families. I'm with D3MON-SOVER3IGN in that I believe it's a result of social engineering.

But that's another subject entirely.

Social engineering....I said men seek relationships because they seek sex, women have them for other reasons.

Just wanted to point this out here.

To have "social engineering" you must have society. To have society you must have a group of people that have formed some kind of relationship, both genders included.

[billy the squid]

I haven't cheated, although I'm not sure if I have been cheated on. Previous relationship, I was in London a great deal of the time, but I tried to get back when I could. There were some rumours and things, but I gave her the benefit of the doubt, at least for a little while, but I was obviously uneasy.

A couple of my oldest friends however said that she had been getting close to someone else, Ex I think, flirting etc. Whether they went the whole way I don't know. I ended it with a text. She was suprisingly upset, partially admitted it and gave me the whole, I was confused, it was a mistake, blah, blah, blah. Frankly I didn't care, she tried to call and meet a few times to explain, but by that point I don't think I cared enough to reply with anything but a curt no.

Modifié par billy the squid, 08 février 2012 - 10:33 .

[Hathur]

Haven't had too many relationships but the majority ended when I found / caught them cheating on me... 3 guys that I know of, though I suppose the other two boyfriends might have as well without my knowing, but who knows.

Have never cheated myself on a guy... never would. If I lost interest or simply didn't want to be with the guy or felt something for another guy that was very strong & special, then I would simply tell my boyfriend honestly and directly how I felt and that I was ending the relationship... cheating just seems very cruel and causes so many problems... it hurts like hell discovering you've been cheated on.

Modifié par Hathur, 08 février 2012 - 11:16 .