I was cheated on first, it was horrible, worse still that she picked my freind to cheat with and he was all to willing to stab me in the back for it. I cheated once long ago, only to find out she had cheated on me as well. It was a train wreck, and I'm glad I got that out of my system back in High School. These days, I'm of the mind that you should conclude your current relationship before deliberately destroying it with infidelity.
Have you been cheated on?
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#104
Posté 08 février 2012 - 10:56
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Yes. By a man I was engaged to at the time. <_<
#105
Posté 08 février 2012 - 10:57
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No. I don't date ****es. Women are the better alternative.
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Posté 08 février 2012 - 10:58
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No. :I
I suppose I'd have to date to get cheated on though right?
I suppose I'd have to date to get cheated on though right?
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Posté 08 février 2012 - 11:06
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YES! 
Wait.... No... >.>
Wait.... No... >.>
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Posté 08 février 2012 - 11:09
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Nope. I'm an omniscient psychopath and they know it.
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Posté 08 février 2012 - 11:28
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I've always been of the school of thought that if you seriously consider putting the moves on somebody else, you should end the current relationship if you can. I have done this once.
(I don't mean the silly little crushes lots of people get during life-long relationships though, I mean serious consideration)
I do understand - not the detail I have no idea, but the general thrust of what you're saying would fit me as well, and I certainly wasn't ready to approach things the way I describe until well into my adult life, when I was happy and had met somebody stable and trustworthy to spend my life with.
Prior to that I was lucky enough to be cheated on by (someone I thought was) the be-all end-all love of my life - and it was done in a way that was particularly harsh given what the person knew about my earlier life. At the time I took it very badly, although subsequently I realised that you just can't take a deeply weak and immoral person's actions, personally.
Now I am completely over that person, they are a whole life/family away in the past and I have a happy life, lovely spouse, beautiful children, crazy snowphobic dog and so on, but I would still hate to dwell on the darkness of that experience, and the places it took me to - if there was one thing I could choose to shout down the "Time Trumpet" at my younger self it would be "there's light at the end of the tunnel, all of this despair and misery ends up being completely insignificant compared to what comes later".
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I have never cheated myself, and fingers crossed I never would, although I seem to have been presented with the opportunity more often than my moderate looks and irritating personality warrant. I think that's just life being sadistic more than anything.
(I don't mean the silly little crushes lots of people get during life-long relationships though, I mean serious consideration)
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@Gotholhorakh
Thanks for the advice, but I don't think it would work in my case. I had a much longer reply prepared. It was stuffed with personal details. For a moment I forgot this was a public forum where all my crap would be seen by who knows how many strangers.
I'll just vaguely state my past and the emotional issues entwined in it, are deeply rooted and more complicated than my prior posts in this thread suggest. I've had a long time to mull over these issues with and without outside assistance, and feel fairly confident in knowing where my limitations lay.
I do understand - not the detail I have no idea, but the general thrust of what you're saying would fit me as well, and I certainly wasn't ready to approach things the way I describe until well into my adult life, when I was happy and had met somebody stable and trustworthy to spend my life with.
Prior to that I was lucky enough to be cheated on by (someone I thought was) the be-all end-all love of my life - and it was done in a way that was particularly harsh given what the person knew about my earlier life. At the time I took it very badly, although subsequently I realised that you just can't take a deeply weak and immoral person's actions, personally.
Now I am completely over that person, they are a whole life/family away in the past and I have a happy life, lovely spouse, beautiful children, crazy snowphobic dog and so on, but I would still hate to dwell on the darkness of that experience, and the places it took me to - if there was one thing I could choose to shout down the "Time Trumpet" at my younger self it would be "there's light at the end of the tunnel, all of this despair and misery ends up being completely insignificant compared to what comes later".
</sorryrandomemotionfart>
I have never cheated myself, and fingers crossed I never would, although I seem to have been presented with the opportunity more often than my moderate looks and irritating personality warrant. I think that's just life being sadistic more than anything.
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#112
Posté 08 février 2012 - 11:43
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Gotholhorakh wrote...
I've always been of the school of thought that if you seriously consider putting the moves on somebody else, you should end the current relationship if you can. I have done this once.
(I don't mean the silly little crushes lots of people get during life-long relationships though, I mean serious consideration)
So true on this, you are always going to be tempted, just so long as you remember that feeling attraction is natural and you don't beat yourself up over being attracted all is good.
My wife and I are pretty open about this. She laughs when she catches me looking or when I say, "Oh, hello there *gawks*," and I thoroughly laugh when she says that some guy gets her motor running or that he can park his boots under her bed any time.
Its all in good fun, you have to be alive to be in love. Just don't touch.
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Posté 08 février 2012 - 11:47
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No - I haven't had time (or much desire) for relationships, so that probably explains it. But if I ever find the one I can assure you that I would never cheat my wife.
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Posté 09 février 2012 - 12:47
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Yes to the question.
No to the details.
No to the details.
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Posté 09 février 2012 - 01:01
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Stardusk78 wrote...
You outlined nothing. Yes, social engineering has had an impact on marriage and traditional relationships, feminism being the primary culprit but the basic urge of man is to seek VAGINA, i.e. procreation. In earlier times this was accomplished through marriage, these days with marriage being an almost sure loss for any man, there is little incentive for a man to marry or enter into any serious relationship. The female dynamic, however, has changed little.
I'm not speaking in terms of "science", as you are. I'm speaking in terms of human thoughts and emotions, which traditionally haven't been dictated by the cold logic of science. We see more in others than just another member of the species with whom we may procreate. We see people, with thoughts and emotions of their own. And with those we are attracted to, we seek an emotional connection as well as a physical one.
Or so it used to be. That's changing rapidly so that people think more like you. And if one wishes to view the world and those within it as creatures rather than people, then that is their choice. I myself would rather see people as people, and I wish others would continue doing the same.
EDIT: Actually, I take that back. We're not seeing each other as "creatures." Most animals form tight-knit family units and remain with partners for long periods of time, as mankind has done for thousands of years.
Now we're becoming less human and less animal. We're becoming something else entirely, more like machines than man. It doesn't sit well with me, and this could only be accomplished through social engineering as I stated earlier.
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#116
Posté 09 février 2012 - 01:03
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No...
although there was this girl i slept with one time,and then she slept with another guy the next day.
then again the next day she slept with another one, and the day before me she slept with another guy, and i never saw her again, so not sure if counts....
although there was this girl i slept with one time,and then she slept with another guy the next day.
then again the next day she slept with another one, and the day before me she slept with another guy, and i never saw her again, so not sure if counts....
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Posté 09 février 2012 - 01:09
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I don't get cheating... Why would you commit yourself to something like that if you're not going to stay faithful? If you don't like how things are going, end them. Don't hurt someone. And also, it makes YOU look like an ass! No one looks good cheating. Ever.
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Posté 09 février 2012 - 01:43
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Once. What sucked was my ex revealed it to me while we were on vacation. :-/
Ah well that was years ago and let's just say karma came back to my ex when it came to dating others post-relationship. Since then I haven't been in any relationships (dated yes but haven't found the right one).
Ah well that was years ago and let's just say karma came back to my ex when it came to dating others post-relationship. Since then I haven't been in any relationships (dated yes but haven't found the right one).
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Posté 09 février 2012 - 02:19
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@ Agnus Cousland - i'm pretty sure that guy is being willfully ignorant and trolling. Best just let it go. No point in giving attention to people that they wouldn't otherwise get if they were polite.
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Posté 09 février 2012 - 08:52
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Angus Cousland wrote...
Stardusk78 wrote...
You outlined nothing. Yes, social engineering has had an impact on marriage and traditional relationships, feminism being the primary culprit but the basic urge of man is to seek VAGINA, i.e. procreation. In earlier times this was accomplished through marriage, these days with marriage being an almost sure loss for any man, there is little incentive for a man to marry or enter into any serious relationship. The female dynamic, however, has changed little.
I'm not speaking in terms of "science", as you are. I'm speaking in terms of human thoughts and emotions, which traditionally haven't been dictated by the cold logic of science. We see more in others than just another member of the species with whom we may procreate. We see people, with thoughts and emotions of their own. And with those we are attracted to, we seek an emotional connection as well as a physical one.
Or so it used to be. That's changing rapidly so that people think more like you. And if one wishes to view the world and those within it as creatures rather than people, then that is their choice. I myself would rather see people as people, and I wish others would continue doing the same.
EDIT: Actually, I take that back. We're not seeing each other as "creatures." Most animals form tight-knit family units and remain with partners for long periods of time, as mankind has done for thousands of years.
Now we're becoming less human and less animal. We're becoming something else entirely, more like machines than man. It doesn't sit well with me, and this could only be accomplished through social engineering as I stated earlier.
Blame feminism.
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Posté 09 février 2012 - 10:32
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No, not as far as I know. So probably, yes.
#123
Posté 09 février 2012 - 10:54
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Yes. How I learned it? My friend recorded the party and wanted to show me something.. He forwarded where my best friend was making out with my girlfriend. I was 20 I think?
I did not even want to know if they had sex I dropped her instantly and moved on with my life.
I did not even want to know if they had sex I dropped her instantly and moved on with my life.
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#124
Posté 10 février 2012 - 06:13
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Both sexes are genetically programmed to cheat as far as I'm concerned. The sexual equivalent of a vestigial tail.
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#125
Posté 10 février 2012 - 06:28
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this reminds me of a jerryspringer type show with a "Why men cheat" episode. i was thinking to myself, how much uproar wouldve the episode made if it was about women instead of men?
