umm... dont know i tend to stay away from it, i seem to say the wrong thing at the wrong time so dont really know XD
How do you handle death...?
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#27
Posté 23 février 2012 - 01:45
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I don't know how I handle it at this point. I'm gonna go with Not very well. I still need to find my own stand point. Not religous and not spirtual. But yeah forms of escapism helps a lot.
When my Grand-father died I cried a ton. I thought I never talked to him as much as I should have but then reflected on the good times I had with him and moved on.
When my brother died My dad and other Brother and I just got to Ocean city so we came back and after the funeral left to there again (Under the feeling that my mom wanted to be alone for a few days). I cried and stayed in the apartment the whole time. Wished he didn't have his life stolen away and wishing my Nephew didn't have his dad stolen away. Also that when the last time I saw him I hardly said a word to him on the not saying good-bye thing.
My Grand-mother died recently and I just felt numb. No crying or anything. Just numb. Kinda troubles me.
When my Grand-father died I cried a ton. I thought I never talked to him as much as I should have but then reflected on the good times I had with him and moved on.
When my brother died My dad and other Brother and I just got to Ocean city so we came back and after the funeral left to there again (Under the feeling that my mom wanted to be alone for a few days). I cried and stayed in the apartment the whole time. Wished he didn't have his life stolen away and wishing my Nephew didn't have his dad stolen away. Also that when the last time I saw him I hardly said a word to him on the not saying good-bye thing.
My Grand-mother died recently and I just felt numb. No crying or anything. Just numb. Kinda troubles me.
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Posté 23 février 2012 - 01:57
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The simple answer is you can't. I looked into my mother's eyes after she passed, and nothing really can, or will prepare you.
My personal advice is try not dwell on the deaths of those close to you, for a few reasons. For one, those who may have died wouldn't want you to wallow in the event. Two, it will make things worse down the road, the longer it goes.
That isn't to say bottle it up. If you need to let it out, let it out. My point is to not spend the rest of your life trapped in painful moments of the past.
My personal advice is try not dwell on the deaths of those close to you, for a few reasons. For one, those who may have died wouldn't want you to wallow in the event. Two, it will make things worse down the road, the longer it goes.
That isn't to say bottle it up. If you need to let it out, let it out. My point is to not spend the rest of your life trapped in painful moments of the past.
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Posté 23 février 2012 - 02:05
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I try not to think about it. Writing, video games, books always help. Say whatever you want, but I never really cared about the close people who have died. I don't know why. It's just the way I am. I just accepted that this happened and moved on. Guess that's why I never had many friends.
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Posté 23 février 2012 - 02:14
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I have no worry about myself, but for family members (close and far), who will be missed.
#31
Posté 23 février 2012 - 05:22
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I will accept it and move on. Dwelling on the past does not help.
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Posté 23 février 2012 - 05:43
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Someone that shared a strong bond with you can be difficult when she/he passes out. It's might give you the impression that you're alone in the world.. So don't mourn alone.
You need to let it out and cry and mourn .. at some point you will notice that crying won't bring them back and you will move on. You will remember them and always miss them but you need to live your life. Happiness is a choice(So cliche but true).
it can be terryfing also if you were dependant of that person .. That why family/friend always help . Never be alone. Black though can come up.
You need to let it out and cry and mourn .. at some point you will notice that crying won't bring them back and you will move on. You will remember them and always miss them but you need to live your life. Happiness is a choice(So cliche but true).
it can be terryfing also if you were dependant of that person .. That why family/friend always help . Never be alone. Black though can come up.
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Posté 23 février 2012 - 06:39
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I have not actually been there when any of my family/extended family have died. I don't know how I would handle it. Being an Emergency Room Nurse, I see people die at least every other shift. It's hard not to get drawn up in the emotional aspect when the family arrives. I dread when children die, but I try my best to do my job until we stop everything. I wonder if my constant exposure to death may have blunted my feelings? The day I say I'm used to it, is the day I need to find a new job.
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Posté 23 février 2012 - 06:48
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Deny it, ignore it and supress it until you create some sort of permanent "Blunted Affect".
People will say it's unhealthy but hey, I've been doing it all my life and I'm the most stable, mello person I know.
People will say it's unhealthy but hey, I've been doing it all my life and I'm the most stable, mello person I know.
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Posté 23 février 2012 - 07:39
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GodWood wrote...
Deny it, ignore it and supress it until you create some sort of permanent "Blunted Affect".
People will say it's unhealthy but hey, I've been doing it all my life and I'm the most stable, mello person I know.
I think you should remove that link
#36
Posté 24 février 2012 - 07:27
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Thanks for the replies everyone...
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Posté 24 février 2012 - 11:50
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When i lost my grandfather i really didn't feel anything at all. It was just weird. I felt kind of numb and after a few days everything was back to normal. It was exactly the same when my aunt died to cancer. It seems that i'm one of those persons that the death of someone close don't affect that much. I guess my view on death helps me deal with it. Death is for me just another path we all have to walk one day and that path leads to something wonderful.
How to deal with death is up to you. No one can say that you deal with it wrong since everyone is special and unique. The important part is to deal with it and don't get trapped.
How to deal with death is up to you. No one can say that you deal with it wrong since everyone is special and unique. The important part is to deal with it and don't get trapped.
#38
Posté 25 février 2012 - 01:54
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Death, be not proud, though some have called thee
Mighty and dreadful, for thou art not so;
For those whom thou think'st thou dost overthrow,
Die not, poor Death, nor yet canst thou kill me.
From rest and sleep, which but thy pictures be,
Much pleasure; then from thee much more must flow,
And soonest our best men with thee do go,
Rest of their bones, and soul's delivery.
Thou art slave to fate, chance, kings, and desperate men,
And dost with poison, war, and sickness dwell;
And poppy or charms can make us sleep as well
And better than thy stroke; why swell'st thou then?
One short sleep past, we wake eternally,
And death shall be no more; Death, thou shalt die.
John Donne
Mighty and dreadful, for thou art not so;
For those whom thou think'st thou dost overthrow,
Die not, poor Death, nor yet canst thou kill me.
From rest and sleep, which but thy pictures be,
Much pleasure; then from thee much more must flow,
And soonest our best men with thee do go,
Rest of their bones, and soul's delivery.
Thou art slave to fate, chance, kings, and desperate men,
And dost with poison, war, and sickness dwell;
And poppy or charms can make us sleep as well
And better than thy stroke; why swell'st thou then?
One short sleep past, we wake eternally,
And death shall be no more; Death, thou shalt die.
John Donne
#39
Posté 25 février 2012 - 01:59
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Ah... death is not a time of mourning but a time of celebration of one's life, one's accomplishments, one's duty to family..
Or that's what I hear it is supposed to be. All I know is funerals tend to be torturous in a multitude of ways.
Or that's what I hear it is supposed to be. All I know is funerals tend to be torturous in a multitude of ways.
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Posté 25 février 2012 - 02:11
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I handle it differently then most people.kind of monk/spiritual way
#41
Posté 25 février 2012 - 02:16
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Thankfully, I haven't had to deal with death much in my life so far..but looking back to when I did have to deal/grieve, I just sort of...got over it, I guess. I never really had time to grieve because life just kept coming at me with various bullcrap.
#42
Posté 25 février 2012 - 02:26
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Usually A Service or something after the funeral is a celebration of their life. Been to a plentyVolus Warlord wrote...
Ah... death is not a time of mourning but a time of celebration of one's life, one's accomplishments, one's duty to family..
Or that's what I hear it is supposed to be. All I know is funerals tend to be torturous in a multitude of ways.
#43
Posté 25 février 2012 - 04:51
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Smecky Kitteh wrote...
Even memories you have of those people will eventually die with you. you. just accept it and move on.
Probably my single greatest fear. Not simply that one day I'm going to have to deal with the deaths of the people I care about most, but as time goes on my memories of them will fade as well.
