Badpie wrote...
I will say this:
That in my experience as a woman, when I was younger and dumber I DID often go for the jerk. I think that's pretty typical when you're young - for both men and women (the nice guys want the hot ****y girl who doesn't pay attention to them and the girls want that brooding guy that they're SURE they can fix). Once you get a little older though you start to realize these people can never make you happy.
Nice guys do finish last sometimes. But they FINISH, whereas the jerks don't. For me I didn't even realize what I was missing until I met my husband...who, actually now that I think about it is a lot like Alistair in a lot of ways. And I would argue that while Alistair is a fantasy, because he is in fact, NOT REAL, he is far from perfect.
It depends on your tastes. Some women would find Alistair too sweet for their liking or be annoyed by his sense of humor. Others find him dashing and charming and sexy as hell. I tend to fall into the latter.
In short. You're wrong. Alistair would not die alone. In fact it's the guys like Alistair that end up happily married and growing old with people. It's the jerks that end of S.O.L.
This is truthy. I love Alistair's sense of humor because that's the sort of stuff I make up all day long to amuse myself. Alistair's sense of humor is pretty much spot on like mine. The bit about being raised by flying dogs particularly. I always was looking for the most teasing, carry-that-bit along response. I'm silly. And it's entirely possible to be silly and kick ass. In fact, I get sheer pleasure out of being thought of as silly or ditzy and then breezing through something difficult with a sense of humor and ease. That's what I saw in Alistair that was appealing. It's particularly a fairly nasty little pleasure to be underestimated as being stupid or foolish when you're funny, only to use that humor and that sense of ease to facilitate kicking ass. What appealed to me also is him saying essentially it doesn't have to be doom and gloom all the time. That's very much my attitude and I navigate tough moments (all moments, really) by injecting humor into them. That's the way I like it. It doesn't mean that I don't like or can't deal with reality. It's just that humor is my chosen seasoning. Alistair also doesn't joke inappropriately about horror and loss just to demean them. He jokes about his own horror and loss. Something else I do because some of that horror and loss makes for very deep, dark stories that make people cry and I'd rather that they saw that I could handle it, they don't have to feel sorry for me. That's what I responded to as a personality.
But the jarring things about Alistair as a person for me is the parts where he says things like "You really should kick Morrigan's ass for me, I'd pay to see that fight." and where he's complimenting me and saying "You're resourceful...etc...and all those other things you'd probably kill me for not saying."
Those two sentences out of the whole game relegate Alistair to pretty much submissive status, which isn't what I'm after in reality, in a mate or a friend. I'm used to men or women who can compliment, but not defer, who are kind, but not weak, and who try to make situations better without their fragile egos or inexplicable moral code getting in the way of what's clearly right.
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