Kuravid wrote...
That is completely true, and everyone has the right to freak out and get mad and have their feelings heard. The big problem, however, is whether or not someone should act on those feelings. I think that the ability to hold back and make decisions based not on how you feel but on what you know to be the right thing to do after examining the situation in a rational state of mind, truly makes you a good person. Forgiveness doesn't make the horrible things that people do right or okay (or videogame people in this case), but it surely allows you to let go so that what they've done can no longer consume you with rage/sadness/fear whatever. And that's also pretty sexy.
Vengeance just wastes your energy, time and life. Alistair fails in this area, and that adds to my list of "Alistair's undesirable qualities." And I agree, his emotional outburts do make him very human. In that way, he is a good character, and I surely felt bad when he had to leave my party. And annoyed, though not entirely surprised, for I kind of expected that he'd end up screwing my elf over in some way.
To be honest I more or less agree with you. I would have much rather have had the option to talk some sense into Alistair and spare Loghain as he was a man who would seek to redeem himself, unlike Howe or other villains. (Not that I'm really a supporter of revenge disguised as justice, but in the harsh setting of this game it makes sense.)
I suppose the only area we differ is on Alistair's outburst being an undesirable trait. Were Alistair a real person I would beat some sense into him and if that failed, stop him from running off one way or another until he'd calmed down, but within the limitations of the game and also taking into account Ferelden's more 'barbaric' laws and expectations, I think Alistair was reacting in the only way he knew how and that made sense to him. Behind all the humour and insecurities, he's a passionate man who has very strong ideals and a sense of justice. When these ideals are compromised he has great difficulty in making sense of where right and wrong begin and end - which is, in essence, part of the whole Dragon Age experience with the impact upon the grey areas found in all situations.
I personally feel that his out burst was understandable but not terribly mature or well thought out. However, it
was very human and also very Alistair-ish, a clear and believable fault of his which makes him all the more appealing to me as he is by no means mister perfect, nor does he pretend to be. He's a good man, which is why it frustrated me all the more that you couldn't take a moment to talk to him in more depth about sparing Loghain. I think that with a little time to calm down he'd have seen the reason behind it, even if he wasn't very happy about it. My only way to get around all this was simply to let Alistair be the one to duel Loghain and kill him out right because my charater's lack of ability to talk to Alistair otherwise seemed rather contrived for the sake of the game.
Really, I understand what bothers you about Alistair's character. Whiny, needy guys who take, take, take and emotionally and mentally drain whoever is supporting them drive me absolutely insane. However, I never got this impression with Alistair. To me he was just a man who needed a little push in the right direction and once he found his footing would do really well for himself. He had it in him, he just needed some help finding it.