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[sargon1986]

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Modifié par sargon1986, 24 mars 2012 - 08:21 .

[Robobeast76]

She has a lot of insecurities to deal with obviously.

Another part of it is that it may be perceived that you want to spend more time with digital female characters than her. Sounds like you and her need to reconnect somehow outside of gaming.

Hey my ex-wife and I split not that long ago and gaming was a massive issue in our relationship.

[VlPER007]

my wife just rolls her eyes. couple times she even asked what happened with a couple of the other options. *shrugs shoulders* sorry bro. my girl just either doesn't care or even has a slight interest to see what happens. I would basically equate it to watching a more interactive movie. most chics like love story movies. from what you're saying, it almost sounds like you could turn that around and say you better not even be looking at the guy that plays the lead. since technically none of the people, be it in the game or the movie are really us personally.

[disc0nnect7]

My boyfriend will make fun of me about loving Thane so much, we have a good laugh about it. All in good fun. I'd say get your fiance to play the games, if she's into gaming she'll love it and she might understand why we get so attached to characters. She'll probably end up liking one of the male characters herself.

Tali's the most innocent LI in my opinion, be glad you didnt' romance Liara with her watching!

[Nyila]

Jealousy in itself is indicative of insecurity. When people show emotions like that, it may be a bad omen for the future of your relationship.

How much time do you spend gaming? It could be she wants you to spend more time with her and less time with pixels. I know I spend way too much time gaming and get emotionally attached to games and their characters but my husband just rolls his eyes when I talk about the romance options in the games.. I met my husband while playing WoW in 2005. We're both gamers but he doesn't play RPGs so he doesn't understand how I can find RPGs interesting.

Also, I play with my headphones on so no one has to hear the romance dialogues that could sound ridiculous or wrong to random people who are just walking by.. Not everybody has to know how you like to spend your free time!

[CrutchCricket]

sargon1986 wrote...
First of all I would like say that I'm serious. Some of probably will find this issue very amusing however to me it is not a laughing matter.

Me and my fiance are both gamers - we both enjoy same types of games, mostly RPGs and MMO. We met each other 3 years ago in World of Warcraft. We played together since then, we even started our own raiding guild in WoW, a very successful one. It was a dream come true - a girl that not only totally understands my passion for video games but also shares it. I mean come on - how many girls that enjoy gaming are out there? Not that many. I was (and still am) considering myself a very lucky man.
 

Underlined: There's your problem lol.

Nah but in all seriousness that isn't normal behaviour. I would most definitely consider all options before proceeding. I don't feel I'm qualified to elaborate further.

Oh yeah and on gamer girlfriends I think the wise relationship sage Admiral Akbar said it best: It's a trap!

Modifié par CrutchCricket, 22 mars 2012 - 11:14 .

[Nyila]

There are plenty of girl gamers out there! There's even geek dating websites!!

[shadey]

so has she never romanced a male ingame, ever?

you could point out the double standard

[FeralEwok]

Getting literally jealous of a fictional character bumping uglies with another fictional character that happens to be controlled by you?

Yeah nothing wrong with that at all....

Sounds like a serious insecurity issue.

Of course I expect my girlfriend to put on blue makeup and this homemade asari latex cap...

So I have my own issues.

[Golden Owl]

As a 40 odd year old woman, I am sorry but I rolled my eyes at your girlfriends insecurities...over my life I have seen too much of this kind of behaviour from both males and females and have honestly never had time for it, never understood it....your girlfriend seriously needs to work on maturing.

As for my husbands reaction to ME...I play a single Shep, but the rub is he is a custom faced male Shep designed specifically to my visual tastes...very much my eye candy....my husband is well aware I find my Shep visually very attractive and thinks it's cute and funny....<_<....as he said, as his only competition is a digital cartoon, his sitting pretty...

Modifié par Golden Owl, 22 mars 2012 - 11:17 .

[Demonhoopa]

sargon1986 wrote...

First of all I would like say that I'm serious. Some of probably will find this issue very amusing however to me it is not a laughing matter.

Me and my fiance are both gamers - we both enjoy same types of games, mostly RPGs and MMO. We met each other 3 years ago in World of Warcraft. We played together since then, we even started our own raiding guild in WoW, a very successful one. It was a dream come true - a girl that not only totally understands my passion for video games but also shares it. I mean come on - how many girls that enjoy gaming are out there? Not that many. I was (and still am) considering myself a very lucky man.

One thing I didn't know is that she is so emotional, that she considers female NPCs ( NPCs! ) in video games as her rivals. It started with Mass Effect 2. I wanted to show her the whole Mass Effect series and convince her to try it out herself so I loaded my save right before the suicide mission... Yeah you guessed it - there's a romance scene as soon as you launch it. So Tali comes in, starts to touch my Shepard and tell him how much he means to her... My fiance freaked out, started to yell at me for being "unfaithful" - I didn't understand what the hell was going on at that time - why did she act like that? I mean... it's only a video game... Time passed and some time ago the exact same thing happened with ME3 - she overheard me romancing Tali. We started to talk... I learned that she doesnt understand why do I do this in game. She considers me having a romance in Mass Effect as I was cheating on her. I explained that I indeed get emotionally attached to the character I'm playing and to the NPC I interract with but it is still ONLY a game, the characters in it are fictional. I also said that I'm only doing this for the story and that romancing a character in Mass Effect has a huge impact on it. After my explanations she still does not understand and considers Mass Effect the work of the devil which has been created for the sole purpose of stealing me from her...

Yesterday I launched Mass Effect 1 again to play from the beginning, just for fun and I got to the point when I need to rescue Tali from Fist's gang members in the alley.. She got angry as soon as she heard her voice. "God... not that **** again..." she said :/ And then the conversation with Udina and Anderson: Tali: "I will be honored to join your crew Shepard.", my fiance: "Yeah I'm sure you are..." ^^ Thankfully yesterday's ''incident'' ended with a "sorry" from her. Her apology was certainly a step in the right direction but I sense that more situations like that will happen in the future.

I want to ask you: how are your partners reacting to you romancing a fictional character in a game? Any of you experience similar issues?

 

My wife, a non gamer, sometimes comes in when I'm playing and gives me a hard time saying that I probably "fantasize" about Femshep. I did what any savvy married man does, assure her that no one, real or ficticious, gets my mind off of her ::cough cough:::. But she's mostly poking fun at me even if deep down inside, she kinda means it.

Any woman that would ever be seriously upset with me about a video love interest would never become my wife because I would run like hell.

[sargon1986]

disc0nnect7 wrote...

My boyfriend will make fun of me about loving Thane so much, we have a good laugh about it. All in good fun. I'd say get your fiance to play the games, if she's into gaming she'll love it and she might understand why we get so attached to characters. She'll probably end up liking one of the male characters herself.

Tali's the most innocent LI in my opinion, be glad you didnt' romance Liara with her watching!

I know... I've seen Liara sex scene on Youtube. God... it would be a disaster O.o

[Mr. Big Pimpin]

Would it make your fiance feel better to know that it all ends with her getting stranded on a jungle planet?

[Nyila]

sargon1986 wrote...

disc0nnect7 wrote...

My boyfriend will make fun of me about loving Thane so much, we have a good laugh about it. All in good fun. I'd say get your fiance to play the games, if she's into gaming she'll love it and she might understand why we get so attached to characters. She'll probably end up liking one of the male characters herself.

Tali's the most innocent LI in my opinion, be glad you didnt' romance Liara with her watching!

I know... I've seen Liara sex scene on Youtube. God... it would be a disaster O.o

Then play when she's not around!

[sargon1986]

Nyila wrote...

Then play when she's not around!

Not possible. We spend 24/7 together because we both work at home...

[sargon1986]

Mr. Big Pimpin wrote...



Would it make your fiance feel better to know that it all ends with her getting stranded on a jungle planet?

Don't even remind me... 

Hold the line!

[Nyila]

sargon1986 wrote...

Nyila wrote...

Then play when she's not around!

Not possible. We spend 24/7 together because we both work at home...

Wow that is.. not healthy! She has to have her own hobbies and stay out of yours!

[Straw_foot]

Do the same thing when she's really into movies or books. Idk what she's into or I'd give you some one liners.

She sounds really insecure. Me and my Fiance both play Mass Effect and this has never even been brought up as an issue. Does she watch any romantic movies? If so she has no room to talk.

[Arlionis]

My girlfriend even gave me a lithograph of Liara as a gift  but then again, she's 23. How old is your girlfriend? 

Modifié par Arlionis, 22 mars 2012 - 11:33 .

[Mr. Big Pimpin]

sargon1986 wrote...

Mr. Big Pimpin wrote...



Would it make your fiance feel better to know that it all ends with her getting stranded on a jungle planet?

Don't even remind me... 

Hold the line!

Indeed. We shall fight to obtain even more scenes to make your fiance jealous of.

[disc0nnect7]

I think she has the wrong impression about Mass Effect, she did only see the romance scene in the last game. Kind of like the Fox News scandal, the romacne scene is only a minute or two out of a game that can be played for over 50 hours. If she actually plays the game she'll see Tali is the least raunchy LI as well, maybe she'll be proud of you for picking the "nice" girl in the end

[sargon1986]

Arlionis wrote...

My girlfriend even gave me a lithograph of Liara as a gift  but then again, she's 23. How old is your girlfriend? 

She's 36. Yeah, I know.

The thing is that before she met me, all her relationships left mostly bad memories. I think she's just afraid of getting burned again.

Modifié par sargon1986, 22 mars 2012 - 11:41 .

[Golden Owl]

sargon1986 wrote...

Arlionis wrote...

My girlfriend even gave me a lithograph of Liara as a gift  but then again, she's 23. How old is your girlfriend? 

She's 36. Yeah, I know.

The thing is that before she met, all her relationships left mostly bad memories. I think she's just afraid of getting burned again.

WOW!....Sorry Sargon, but your girlfriend is too old for this sh*t, if she is still behaving like this at 36, she is never going to change....I had assumed she was 18-22 by her behaviour.

Modifié par Golden Owl, 22 mars 2012 - 11:43 .

[Tup3x]

Say to her that it's Shepard's story, not yours.