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[sargon1986]

Don't judge her too harshly, maybe she acts immature sometimes but we all do sometimes. This is just a touchy subject for her. I'm sure we will resolve this issue together one day. Just looking for some constructive feedback from my fellow ME fans.

[YoItsThomas]

Arlionis wrote...

My girlfriend even gave me a lithograph of Liara as a gift  but then again, she's 23. How old is your girlfriend? 

Daaang. You're lucky.. Hahahah

[FeralEwok]

Well there really isn't a nice way to say a person is too old to be getting jealous of someone who doesn't exist.

Have a serious heart to heart with her and let her know she needs to calm down and not get fiction confused with reality.

Or

Let her keep at it and stop playing games with such romances thus encouraging her behavoir. Which mind you is NOT normal.

Or

Bail out.

[Olueq]

What a ****

[Golden Owl]

sargon1986 wrote...

Don't judge her too harshly, maybe she acts immature sometimes but we all do sometimes. This is just a touchy subject for her. I'm sure we will resolve this issue together one day. Just looking for some constructive feedback from my fellow ME fans.

Please read all...I deal with it after my initial rant.

I'm sorry Sargon...I used to be very helpful with this kind of stuff, was the one everyone turned to....but I guess I just got tired of all the bull sh*t....we humans tend to blow so much in life way out of proportion, we forget what's real in our pampered worlds and get so caught up in the small stuff and forget what's important....your girlfriend does need to seek real help, a few posts on this forum will change nothing, will only enrage her if she finds out...if this relationship means that much to you, I would seriously suggest you both book in to see a professional....and heads up on this, if you tell her you want to see a professional because of her unusual jealousy, it will bite you in the *ss...DO NOT point out that it is about her...use 'we' not 'you', make sure it is always 'we', she will be a lot more compliant to the idea (if she will go) if she does not feel threatened by it....focus on the healthy development of a relationship between you, not on specific issues.

Modifié par Golden Owl, 23 mars 2012 - 12:08 .

[Niraven]

Yeah, flipping out over a virtual character is odd. I met my husband over WoW also six years ago, we're both avid gamers, and we both jokingly bust on each other's "Bioware SOs" (ie: I adore Tali, but I'll never admit that to him. I keep telling him that she probably looks like Julia Child underneath that suit, and he says some, um, mean things about Kaidan lol). Especially with both of you being gamers, it should be a bond, not a cause of division. Is she upset because you're not playing WITH her in something, or is it literally of the in-game romance itself?

[Neria Rose]

My husband rolls his eyes, pokes fun at the digital male love interest who happens to be on screen at the time (including but not limited to Garrus, Thane, Kaidan, Carth, and Alistair), and then happily continues his romance (Tali, Ashley, Bastila or Morrigan) while I tease him back.

I don't understand being jealous of a NPC nor of any female who is not pursuing my husband. If anything, his preference for particular female characters or pr0n stars with particular assets tells me he's not lying when he says he likes x, y, or z and I'm happy to be able to provide.

For the record, he and I met in WoW as well in '05, been living together since '06.

Modifié par Neria Rose, 23 mars 2012 - 12:31 .

[mahlerbone]

I don't exactly understand being jealous of a video game character. She obviously needs to deal with some personal issues, but I have to commend you two on both being gamers and understanding that. I never touched a 360 til I met my fiance, and now we are both hardcore gamers. We are both free to romance whoever we so desire...just as long as it doesn't leave the tv screen haha.

[Romidiant]

Funny how this comes up after a recent conversation I had with my boyfriend. Just to joke around for a bit, I said something to the effect of "I think I have a thing for an ex-cop, vigilante. He's not a bad shot either." To which he replied, "So you only like me because I remind you of Garrus." I assured him that might only be part of the reason.

We don't really take these sorts of things too seriously. I don't see why anyone should, especially if we're talking about a video game character.

[sonicnymphonic]

It's funny you mention jealousy of Mass Effect love interests, actually. Early on, before my boyfriend had ever played anything from the Mass Effect series, he would get horribly jealous of Garrus, just by hearing me talk about him occasionally in his company. I'd talk about the romance scenes, and how they were lacking in physical intimacy, but that the connection was definitely there. Garrus is by far my favorite character, and I do enjoy a good conversation or two about the Mass Effect universe, but I cannot stress enough that it was rare that I went on tangent about why I loved him.

It was confusing to me why he was so upset, it's not like I was devoting all my attention to this fictional character, and I certainly wasn't acting any differently toward him. He would make crude comments about me preferring to spend time with Garrus (I don't even...) and accuse me of finding Garrus more attractive than he was (Even more I don't even...). He's over it now that he's played through all three games and discovered just how incredible the character and the plotline is, but it's still baffling.

I will admit, though, that I got a bit too indulgent in my recounts of Brandon Keneer's ridiculously attractive voice. Otherwise, though, I can't really see how or why he'd be so legitimately upset by it all. Maybe I'm just not the jealous type.

[FrequencyOnion]

Has she actually tried playing any of the ME games? The characters are handled in such a way that I don't know how you couldn't get attached to them; I'd bet there's somebody in the game that'd appeal to her, too, and then she might "get" it. 

My boyfriend and I don't take this stuff seriously. For all the teasing I give him over chasing every female option, I previewed the LI cutscenes for ME3 and told him he had to pick Liara. He's not as, um, supportive of my interest in Kaidan... Doesn't get why I'll only play as mSheps and, probably, because the first words out of my mouth when I saw Kaidan sitting next to Joker at the very start of ME1 were "Oooh, can I romance him?"... 

Modifié par FrequencyOnion, 23 mars 2012 - 02:11 .

[Nyila]

sonicnymphonic wrote...

I will admit, though, that I got a bit too indulgent in my recounts of Brandon Keneer's ridiculously attractive voice. Otherwise, though, I can't really see how or why he'd be so legitimately upset by it all. Maybe I'm just not the jealous type.

I don't even mention to my husband how much I find male Shepard (Mark Meer)'s voice sexy. There are some things we need to keep to ourselves, we never really know what might offend our significant other. I'm lucky that my husband will just look at the screen while I play and make funny comments about the characters, he just doesn't care what I decide to do with them.

[jinxter69]

Dude...RUN...don't walk...RUN! If your fiance is of a type that actually has enough issues that she gets jealous over an NPC then she has MAJOR issues that will not be fixed without a LOT of help. Your lady sounds as if she has major self-esteem issues and this WILL be nothing but a negative on your relationship.

[LilaNoir]

Wait. Wasn't this thread locked earlier? Under Story and Campaign?

If this is real, please ask her to seek help. And I'm serious about it. It's not healthy at all. Otherwise, I'm sensing a troll in the midst.

[ticklefist]

She is a possessive person with severe insecurities. There's two ways this can play out. Ignore it, let the frustrating bits frustrate you, and hate every moment you're together. Or accept it, satisfy her emotional needs, and have a devoted love slave.

[Senario]

She seems insecure...but to solve this problem she should Cosplay as Tali! Then there would be no difference between her and your ME LI and all would be goooood!

Sadly I have no one to speak of in a similar situation but this is a problem I think that should not happen. In fact I would even encourage her to play ME and choose her own LI, Kaiden, Garrus, Thane, Jacob(lol), ect. No problems.

[Unschuld]

My advice... get a new fiancee. Or none.


Didn't this exact thread get locked, hours ago?

[ashwind]

Are you sure you didnt accidentally called your gf "Tali or Liara" when you two are doing it... maybe when you were drunk

[Hadeedak]

My fiancee and I both play -- hell, he's the one who bought the first game. So I've teased him about it all along. My one caveat was that the Shepard named after him was going to go for Ash and be loyal, because he gave me a hard time about being like Ash during our early Mass Effect days.

I haven't named one after me yet. I like some distance, and me in a video game always seemed off to me somehow. But if I do, she is supposed to point due Garrus and never waver.

[HurricaneGinger]

sargon1986 wrote...

First of all I would like say that I'm serious. Some of probably will find this issue very amusing however to me it is not a laughing matter.

Me and my fiance are both gamers - we both enjoy same types of games, mostly RPGs and MMO. We met each other 3 years ago in World of Warcraft. We played together since then, we even started our own raiding guild in WoW, a very successful one. It was a dream come true - a girl that not only totally understands my passion for video games but also shares it. I mean come on - how many girls that enjoy gaming are out there? Not that many. I was (and still am) considering myself a very lucky man.

One thing I didn't know is that she is so emotional, that she considers female NPCs ( NPCs! ) in video games as her rivals. It started with Mass Effect 2. I wanted to show her the whole Mass Effect series and convince her to try it out herself so I loaded my save right before the suicide mission... Yeah you guessed it - there's a romance scene as soon as you launch it. So Tali comes in, starts to touch my Shepard and tell him how much he means to her... My fiance freaked out, started to yell at me for being "unfaithful" - I didn't understand what the hell was going on at that time - why did she act like that? I mean... it's only a video game... Time passed and some time ago the exact same thing happened with ME3 - she overheard me romancing Tali. We started to talk... I learned that she doesnt understand why do I do this in game. She considers me having a romance in Mass Effect as I was cheating on her. I explained that I indeed get emotionally attached to the character I'm playing and to the NPC I interract with but it is still ONLY a game, the characters in it are fictional. I also said that I'm only doing this for the story and that romancing a character in Mass Effect has a huge impact on it. After my explanations she still does not understand and considers Mass Effect the work of the devil which has been created for the sole purpose of stealing me from her...

Yesterday I launched Mass Effect 1 again to play from the beginning, just for fun and I got to the point when I need to rescue Tali from Fist's gang members in the alley.. She got angry as soon as she heard her voice. "God... not that **** again..." she said :/ And then the conversation with Udina and Anderson: Tali: "I will be honored to join your crew Shepard.", my fiance: "Yeah I'm sure you are..." ^^ Thankfully yesterday's ''incident'' ended with a "sorry" from her. Her apology was certainly a step in the right direction but I sense that more situations like that will happen in the future.

I want to ask you: how are your partners reacting to you romancing a fictional character in a game? Any of you experience similar issues?

 

You are indeed lucky to have found someone who enjoys video games as much as you do. It is unforunate that she feels threatened by a video game character, since the character is not real. Sure we get attached to our LIs - I myself am very attached to Garrus!

Try to find a way to incorperate your love for her into Tali. Are there any similarites between them, etc? But be truthful, you know? She may feel better feeling like you romance Tali thinking of her.

But the fact that she apologized does show that she knows it's a problem, and she is willing to work it out.

[ogtrplganggrl]

My husband makes fun of me for how involved I can be with both Kaidan and Alistair.

[BuffyLadySlayer]

My partner calls Liara a homewrecker. It's all in good fun though. She just likes to tease me because when ME2 came out, I played it non-stop and just kept ignoring her. Totally my mistake. This time I actually bought her a copy so we could play multiplayer together. She has been playing the campaign as well. But as newbie femShep who wants a female LI she basically has either Liara or Traynor. Since she is not a fan of Liara, she is stuck with Traynor. Ah well. Now she is sharing the love.

[eVelocity]

sargon1986 wrote...

...Me and my fiance are both gamers - we both enjoy same types of games, mostly RPGs and MMO. We met each other 3 years ago in World of Warcraft. ...
 

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[Miiaah]

Wow, reading through this thread, I have to disagree with you. There are lots of girls playing video games, especially RPGs ^^

I'm a girl too btw. And my girlfriend, who is not a gamer but plays pen and paper RPG, doesn't get jealous about fictional characters. And believe me, she is the jealous type. But even when we're playing together, I can romance anyone, PC or NPC.

Your girl needs to get confidence.