EmperorSalertz:Aragon had no reason to wed Arwen? Wtf? He LOVED her, isn't that the ONLY reason one should get married? (at least looking at the paper).
In Elrond's case, getting married this way means that Arwen is worse than dead to him - even in death, he will NEVER have any hope of ever seeing her. So yes, I rather think that love is insufficient as a reason to deprive a man of his daughter for a time beyond even death.
Alcoholism doesn't destroy that guy. The death of his daughter did it. Alcohol was just a temporary escape. Accidentally killing people isn't a particularly dark theme, IMO. It's indulgent and emo, but not dark. You have no control over accidents beyond what you have. That's why they're called accidents.
Guilt is an everyday topic in many Christian sermons. Hardly a dark theme there.
Some few of my patients have died under my care. Some people don't have what it takes and quit. Yes, I can clearly see how you can blame yourself. I also clearly see that it's stupid and arrogant to do so. You are not God. You can't save everyone, no matter how hard you try. Everybody dies, eventually.
Seriously, dude, you're preaching to the choir here. It feels icky and bad, but ultimately, you are not God. Not getting over it strikes me not as dark but petty and indulgent. Some people can afford to be all emo and crap. I can't, and I have no sympathy for people who choose to wallow in pointless self-destructive guilt just because they can.
I mean seriously, is LOTR not dark because Aragorn doesn't go all emo about how he couldn't save Theoden? People die - it happens. Either you can do something about it or you can't. Letting it get you down only gets more people killed and THAT is something that's your fault.