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[Annie_Dear]

Siansonea II wrote...

Hair schmair, I'm a D cup. /thread.

Oh please.

I'm a F cup.

[LPPrince]

greengoron89 wrote...

LPPrince wrote...

Gotta give a shoutout to Ms. Jessica Merizan.

https://p.twimg.com/...A-rXl.jpg:large

You know, cause she finds me to be great and all that good stuff.

Wow, is that actually Jessica Merizan?

That is Ms. Merizan indeed.

Ms. Jessica Ashley Merizan Williams, at least.

[LPPrince]

greengoron89 wrote...

LPPrince wrote...

That is Ms. Merizan indeed.

Ms. Jessica Ashley Merizan Williams, at least.

Well then, I must say - BW chooses its PR people well. She's quite easy on the eyes.

Believe me-

She's aware of that.

[Siansonea]

Annie_Dear wrote...

Siansonea II wrote...

Hair schmair, I'm a D cup. /thread.

Oh please.

I'm a F cup.

Your cups runneth over!  This thread is hilarious. It's either fishing for compliments or wallowing in low self-esteem. Can't anyone just be okay in their own skin? Life's not a beauty contest, ya know. 

[ThePinkFoxx]

Umm I don't know... I'm pretty ok. I think.

Definitely better when I have makeup on. Which is always. I never leave the house without it.

I like my eyes

Modifié par ThePinkFoxx, 11 avril 2012 - 11:47 .

[Siansonea]

greengoron89 wrote...

Siansonea II wrote...

Your cups runneth over!  This thread is hilarious. It's either fishing for compliments or wallowing in low self-esteem. Can't anyone just be okay in their own skin? Life's not a beauty contest, ya know. 

Those two things are not mutually exclusive - in fact, they often go hand in hand with each other. It's why I never compliment people who are "down on themselves" a lot... or "modest", for that matter.

Oh I know, it's two sides of the same coin. The underlying principle is still over-identification with one's appearance. Having a good attitude toward health, grooming, etc is beneficial, but some people turn that into narcissism. And people who feel they fall short of "average" get sucked into a downward spiral of inferiority. Which is absurd, because their idea is usually formed by looking at the media's presentation of the relative scale of beauty in our culture. As a person who makes a living making pretty models look even more pretty and perfect, I think everyone is too hard on themselves, and should just relax about the whole thing. You're pretty enough, all of you. 

Modifié par Siansonea II, 11 avril 2012 - 03:22 .

[Sigma Tauri]

No, I think we should obssess about appearance and compare ourselves to idealistic and nonrealistic representations to please a shallow crowd.

[Fenris_13]

I've had girls saying that I'm cute, hot, sexy, but I think it's more from a friendly viewpoint, since when I look myself in the mirror, I don't find myself to be that attractive as people tell me.

Or maybe it is low self esteem.

[Siansonea]

Fenris_13 wrote...

I've had girls saying that I'm cute, hot, sexy, but I think it's more from a friendly viewpoint, since when I look myself in the mirror, I don't find myself to be that attractive as people tell me.

Or maybe it is low self esteem.

It is low self esteem. I suggest moving past it. 

Here's the thing: People are either attracted to you, or they're not, and often your appearance isn't the only factor, or even the biggest factor. I've met plenty of "hot" guys that I wasn't the least bit attracted to, and plenty of "average" looking guys that I was attracted to. If anyone thinks that looking like Barbie or Ken is the key to being happy is focusing on all the wrong things. You want people to be attracted to you? Brush your teeth, shower every morning, wear deodorant, wear clean clothes, and try to be as healthy as you can. THEN, actually develop a personality. Be interesting. Have opinions. Have a point of view. Don't try to mold yourself into what you think other people want you to be. You know what's attractive? Personality. Being blandly attractive is only going to make people want to fantasize about having meaningless sex with you, it's probably not going to make them want to actually have meaningless sex with you, they'd rather do that with somebody interesting.

[Homebound]

Im ugly, and Im ok with that.

[catabuca]

Sian speaketh some truth.

Me? I've got fat where I wish I didn't, but I'm told it's awesome to grab. My skin is blotchy, and weirdly both greasy and dry. I've been told I'm pretty, I've been told I'm ugly. I've been told everything in between. I couldn't give a crap. I used to never leave the house without at least eyeliner and mascara and some kind of face powder. Now I don't even own any. Life's too short for wearing a mask (I wear enough of one whenever I speak). I only finally learned how to make my hair look half decent when I hit my 30s, around the same time I stopped giving a damn whether it did or not. I constantly war with myself over my logical analysis of gender-based aesthetic marketing and its effects on ideas of the self, coupled with my status as a subject, continually being created and recreated at the hands of other people's expectations/desires/opinions. I'm aware that there are things about myself I either dislike or even hate, and that I only feel that way because of how society frames what is ideal.

Regardless of the things about me that parts of society say are undesirable, I am desired by those who matter for the reasons that matter, and I have a healthy awareness of my position as a subject and the ways in which my body acts as a war zone for ideology. I figure that's good enough for me.

[Sigma Tauri]

Siansonea II wrote...

Fenris_13 wrote...

I've had girls saying that I'm cute, hot, sexy, but I think it's more from a friendly viewpoint, since when I look myself in the mirror, I don't find myself to be that attractive as people tell me.

Or maybe it is low self esteem.

It is low self esteem. I suggest moving past it. 

Here's the thing: People are either attracted to you, or they're not, and often your appearance isn't the only factor, or even the biggest factor. I've met plenty of "hot" guys that I wasn't the least bit attracted to, and plenty of "average" looking guys that I was attracted to. If anyone thinks that looking like Barbie or Ken is the key to being happy is focusing on all the wrong things. You want people to be attracted to you? Brush your teeth, shower every morning, wear deodorant, wear clean clothes, and try to be as healthy as you can. THEN, actually develop a personality. Be interesting. Have opinions. Have a point of view. Don't try to mold yourself into what you think other people want you to be. You know what's attractive? Personality. Being blandly attractive is only going to make people want to fantasize about having meaningless sex with you, it's probably not going to make them want to actually have meaningless sex with you, they'd rather do that with somebody interesting.

Adhere to this, dude.

If girls think you're cute, hot, sexy, you probably are.

[KnightofPhoenix]

Siansonea II wrote...

Fenris_13 wrote...

I've had girls saying that I'm cute, hot, sexy, but I think it's more from a friendly viewpoint, since when I look myself in the mirror, I don't find myself to be that attractive as people tell me.

Or maybe it is low self esteem.

It is low self esteem. I suggest moving past it. 

Here's the thing: People are either attracted to you, or they're not, and often your appearance isn't the only factor, or even the biggest factor. I've met plenty of "hot" guys that I wasn't the least bit attracted to, and plenty of "average" looking guys that I was attracted to. If anyone thinks that looking like Barbie or Ken is the key to being happy is focusing on all the wrong things. You want people to be attracted to you? Brush your teeth, shower every morning, wear deodorant, wear clean clothes, and try to be as healthy as you can. THEN, actually develop a personality. Be interesting. Have opinions. Have a point of view. Don't try to mold yourself into what you think other people want you to be. You know what's attractive? Personality. Being blandly attractive is only going to make people want to fantasize about having meaningless sex with you, it's probably not going to make them want to actually have meaningless sex with you, they'd rather do that with somebody interesting.

To add on that, low self esteem is usually unnattractive.

Or at least that's what I tell myself. Not that my narcissism requires any justification. 

[Dominus]

Cute can be friendly. Hot & Sexy, not so much. Even if it seems like friendly banter, those specific words may be subtle hints someone has the hots for you. Gasp. I can also vouch that self-loathing doesn't help. Though it kinda worked for shinji once. You don't have to be overconfident. Just...middle self esteem.

[ADLegend21]

Siansonea II wrote...

Fenris_13 wrote...

I've had girls saying that I'm cute, hot, sexy, but I think it's more from a friendly viewpoint, since when I look myself in the mirror, I don't find myself to be that attractive as people tell me.

Or maybe it is low self esteem.

It is low self esteem. I suggest moving past it. 

Here's the thing: People are either attracted to you, or they're not, and often your appearance isn't the only factor, or even the biggest factor. I've met plenty of "hot" guys that I wasn't the least bit attracted to, and plenty of "average" looking guys that I was attracted to. If anyone thinks that looking like Barbie or Ken is the key to being happy is focusing on all the wrong things. You want people to be attracted to you? Brush your teeth, shower every morning, wear deodorant, wear clean clothes, and try to be as healthy as you can. THEN, actually develop a personality. Be interesting. Have opinions. Have a point of view. Don't try to mold yourself into what you think other people want you to be. You know what's attractive? Personality. Being blandly attractive is only going to make people want to fantasize about having meaningless sex with you, it's probably not going to make them want to actually have meaningless sex with you, they'd rather do that with somebody interesting.

[Melra]

Lul, what is this thread really? "Dating tips for nerds" ?

[Blood-Lord Thanatos]

Melrache wrote...

Lul, what is this thread really? "Dating tips for Divinely awesome nerds" ?

Apparently, yes.

Its funny,  since I'm in college, I get alot of people asking me for tips on dating. What am I, your matchmaker?

[Fiery Phoenix]

Siansonea II wrote...

Fenris_13 wrote...

I've had girls saying that I'm cute, hot, sexy, but I think it's more from a friendly viewpoint, since when I look myself in the mirror, I don't find myself to be that attractive as people tell me.

Or maybe it is low self esteem.

It is low self esteem. I suggest moving past it. 

Here's the thing: People are either attracted to you, or they're not, and often your appearance isn't the only factor, or even the biggest factor. I've met plenty of "hot" guys that I wasn't the least bit attracted to, and plenty of "average" looking guys that I was attracted to. If anyone thinks that looking like Barbie or Ken is the key to being happy is focusing on all the wrong things. You want people to be attracted to you? Brush your teeth, shower every morning, wear deodorant, wear clean clothes, and try to be as healthy as you can. THEN, actually develop a personality. Be interesting. Have opinions. Have a point of view. Don't try to mold yourself into what you think other people want you to be. You know what's attractive? Personality. Being blandly attractive is only going to make people want to fantasize about having meaningless sex with you, it's probably not going to make them want to actually have meaningless sex with you, they'd rather do that with somebody interesting.

More or less.

I've had girls hit on me before. A lot of the time, however, it doesn't sound sincere (this doesn't necessarily mean what you may think it does). So I don't normally care either way: I just return the compliment and move on.

Modifié par Fiery Phoenix, 11 avril 2012 - 05:26 .

[Melra]

Blood-Lord Thanatos wrote...

Melrache wrote...

Lul, what is this thread really? "Dating tips for Divinely awesome nerds" ?

Apparently, yes.

Its funny,  since I'm in college, I get alot of people asking me for tips on dating. What am I, your matchmaker?

So the generic "Waaagh... I am a reaaaallly really nice guy, but the girls never notice me" makes you awesome ? 

[Stanley Woo]

Be excellent to each other, is my motto. But what it also means is that one should also be excellent to oneself. Most everyone is attractive in some way, to someone (or a whole group of someones). For a lot of young people, one's looks can be "improved" simply by being involved in one's own life, caring about things like school, family, activities, hobbies, and media. My biggest piece of advice? Smile, damn it! Most females who consider themselves "not pretty" are actually very pretty when they smile. Having a good attitude and a smile on your face does wonders for one's appearance!

Know why I'm so dead sexy? i smile a lot!

[Giggles_Manically]

Before I grew a goatee and cleaned up my skin and hair? Not really.
After I grew a goatee, cleaned up my skin and got a good hair cut? Surprisingly yes.

I once got told I look like a young Commander Riker.
I liked that.