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[Blood-Lord Thanatos]

Melrache wrote...

Blood-Lord Thanatos wrote...

Melrache wrote...

Lul, what is this thread really? "Dating tips for Divinely awesome nerds" ?

Apparently, yes.

Its funny,  since I'm in college, I get alot of people asking me for tips on dating. What am I, your matchmaker?

So the generic "Waaagh... I am a reaaaallly really nice guy, but the girls never notice me" makes you awesome ? 

Well, it can. but it has to be done correctly. Self-pity only helps if you resolve to improve yourself so that you don't need to pity yourself anymore. Besides, dating can be challenging to some people, and this forum is a good place to vent from time to time. not that I would advise that.

[Dominus]

You want people to be attracted to you? Brush your teeth, shower every morning, wear deodorant, wear clean clothes, and try to be as healthy as you can. THEN, actually develop a personality. Be interesting. Have opinions. Have a point of view. Don't try to mold yourself into what you think other people want you to be. You know what's attractive? Personality.

Very astute advice. I used to pretty damned unkempt in college - doesn't do much for the ladies. Better not to learn that the hard way.

Know why I'm so dead sexy? i smile a lot!

O_o......

[Melra]

Blood-Lord Thanatos wrote...

Melrache wrote...

Blood-Lord Thanatos wrote...

Melrache wrote...

Lul, what is this thread really? "Dating tips for Divinely awesome nerds" ?

Apparently, yes.

Its funny,  since I'm in college, I get alot of people asking me for tips on dating. What am I, your matchmaker?

So the generic "Waaagh... I am a reaaaallly really nice guy, but the girls never notice me" makes you awesome ? 

Well, it can. but it has to be done correctly. Self-pity only helps if you resolve to improve yourself so that you don't need to pity yourself anymore. Besides, dating can be challenging to some people, and this forum is a good place to vent from time to time. not that I would advise that.

Happens rarely, the people seem to rather live in the state of sort of blaming the girls for not realizing how awesome guys they're, when they just keep blushing every time a girl walks by. 

[Blood-Lord Thanatos]

Melrache wrote...

Blood-Lord Thanatos wrote...

Melrache wrote...

Blood-Lord Thanatos wrote...

Melrache wrote...

Lul, what is this thread really? "Dating tips for Divinely awesome nerds" ?

Apparently, yes.

Its funny,  since I'm in college, I get alot of people asking me for tips on dating. What am I, your matchmaker?

So the generic "Waaagh... I am a reaaaallly really nice guy, but the girls never notice me" makes you awesome ? 

Well, it can. but it has to be done correctly. Self-pity only helps if you resolve to improve yourself so that you don't need to pity yourself anymore. Besides, dating can be challenging to some people, and this forum is a good place to vent from time to time. not that I would advise that.

Happens rarely, the people seem to rather live in the state of sort of blaming the girls for not realizing how awesome guys they're, when they just keep blushing every time a girl walks by. 

 
I've been there and done that, but it will take time for someone to realize that attractiveness comes from letting go of any self-consciousness and just focusing  on other things. not to sound corny, but whether it takes a decade or two for a person to attract other people, in the end, you have a chance at getting what you want.

[DiegoProgMetal]

When I was a teenager I really felt bad about my appearence...
Today (almost 28), I don't really care. I'm a little fat, and it makes me more concerned about my health than the way I look. I think with age comes wisdom (sometimes). I don't think saying I'm beautiful just for the sake of it would be realistic or useful. Neither saying I'm plain ugly. If I'm to analyse my physical appearence based on today's society standards, then I have to say my body and face doesn't fit in those standards in many ways. Do I care? Honestly, no. I have way bigger issues to be concerned about.
As Siansonea II said, as long as I'm wearing clean clothes, I'm clean, and just be myself, I'm happy. I don't even care about my weight actually. My only concern is what the fat in my body may do to my health. So if I can just change the fat for muscles, it'll make me healthier.
Of course, we live in a society that shoves down our throats that physical appearence is the only thing that matters... I've seen some very talented people getting replaced in jobs by people with better appearence. There's a store in my city that only hires young and "good looking" guys and girls. When you enter the store, you just see tall, thin, "good shaped bodied", handsome guys and girls with an average age of 20.
I used to have a very long curly hair until a few years ago, that I really loved, but at least over here some people still think that if a guy have long hair, he is just a "stoned hippie"... And I lost some job opportunities because of that. So, unfortunately, appearence do matter in some situations.

I only wrote that to make the thread go to a more "philosophical" path than just "Oh, I'm so hot" or "Oh, I'm so ugly" thing...

[Blood-Lord Thanatos]

DiegoProgMetal wrote...

When I was a teenager I really felt bad about my appearence...
Today (almost 28), I don't really care. I'm a little fat, and it makes me more concerned about my health than the way I look. I think with age comes wisdom (sometimes). I don't think saying I'm beautiful just for the sake of it would be realistic or useful. Neither saying I'm plain ugly. If I'm to analyse my physical appearence based on today's society standards, then I have to say my body and face doesn't fit in those standards in many ways. Do I care? Honestly, no. I have way bigger issues to be concerned about.
As Siansonea II said, as long as I'm wearing clean clothes, I'm clean, and just be myself, I'm happy. I don't even care about my weight actually. My only concern is what the fat in my body may do to my health. So if I can just change the fat for muscles, it'll make me healthier.
Of course, we live in a society that shoves down our throats that physical appearence is the only thing that matters... I've seen some very talented people getting replaced in jobs by people with better appearence. There's a store in my city that only hires young and "good looking" guys and girls. When you enter the store, you just see tall, thin, "good shaped bodied", handsome guys and girls with an average age of 20.
I used to have a very long curly hair until a few years ago, that I really loved, but at least over here some people still think that if a guy have long hair, he is just a "stoned hippie"... And I lost some job opportunities because of that. So, unfortunately, appearence do matter in some situations.

I only wrote that to make the thread go to a more "philosophical" path than just "Oh, I'm so hot" or "Oh, I'm so ugly" thing...

Exactly, this is as much a mental and psychological outlook as it is a physical appearance standard. no matter how you look, it is essential to be accepting and appreciative of your own body. if you use positive self-talk and a positive mental outlook, then it is less important to conform than it is to make your own standards.

[LPPrince]

Take care of yourself. It helps.

Every month or couple of months I go to my stylist to get my hair washed, straightened, blow dried, that whole bit.

$32 and I'm the envy of all the girls. Hell, I went to my stylist today. Since then I've had no less than 8 individual ladies stop me to tell me how wonderful my hair was and how attractive I am.

Don't put yourself down or think of yourself as average. Walk tall, stand strong, and be appealing.

[Gterror2]

Honestly, i dont give a single **** about what other ppl think of me, it's all about survival and my goals for me and sometimes these goals need some excessive force, which doesn't make friends.

[Chromie]

DuckSoup wrote...

@Skelter: I talk that 'cause I can back it up.

That...that wasn't my point at all.

[Daennikus]

Hainkpe wrote...

LPPrince wrote...
Don't put yourself down or think of yourself as average. Walk tall, stand strong, and be appealing.

This and ask questions. Talk to a person and learn about them. 

I am serious. More than just, "Hi, How are you?" but ask about them. I work in a profession where I hear everyday how no one is interested in people as a person. What matters to them, what scares them, what has meaning and what makes their life interesting. Talk to them. You don't have to be outgoing to do this just be interested. 

I go to the gym regularly and you will not believe how many times I am asked, are you married? It's the usual beginning question meaning the man is hoping for more. I had a very handsome older gentleman recently tell me, "You're such a beautiful little thing," First of all, I am tall for a woman but he is TALL. So to him, yes, I am a tiny little thing.

All of this started because he was using a machine, helped me grab the bar which he had too high for me to reach. All I did was say thank you and jokingly asked if he could be around everytime I needed to reach something up high. He laughed. We talk and are good friends now. 

It's funny because a co-worker told me the exact same story today at lunch. A coincidence...

If more people were like you they wouldn't have an issue with their appearance and their confidence. We all have our insecure days but when you are in a situation where you need to connect with people in order to function (the workplace is ideal for that) showing real interest in others is the number one "hook" for all relationships. Looks come second...

I often find myself speechless and intimidated when I'm around someone I find attractive. Then again, I have an issue with my "crush" behavior which needs not be discussed here  

To stay on topic, yes. To answer the question people do find me attractive, but they probably are intimidated by me since I rarely show interest in them (for which I may come off as a snob) and secondly whenever I do talk to them I generally make no efforts to hide my nerdisms.

[LPPrince]

My fellow bros-

Live a healthy lifestyle.

I do 100 Hindu Pushups every other day. That along with a good diet and maintenance goes a long way.

[android654]

You people are so neurotic, and not even about the consequential things one can be neurotic about.

[Blood-Lord Thanatos]

android654 wrote...

You people are so neurotic, and not even about the consequential things one can be neurotic about.

What do you mean "you people"?

[android654]

Blood-Lord Thanatos wrote...

android654 wrote...

You people are so neurotic, and not even about the consequential things one can be neurotic about.

What do you mean "you people"?

What do you mean "you people?"

[Black_water]

Stanley Woo wrote...

Be excellent to each other, is my motto. But what it also means is that one should also be excellent to oneself. Most everyone is attractive in some way, to someone (or a whole group of someones). For a lot of young people, one's looks can be "improved" simply by being involved in one's own life, caring about things like school, family, activities, hobbies, and media. My biggest piece of advice? Smile, damn it! Most females who consider themselves "not pretty" are actually very pretty when they smile. Having a good attitude and a smile on your face does wonders for one's appearance!

Know why I'm so dead sexy? i smile a lot!

That reeks of 7th grade motivational speech 

[Black_water]

Gterror2 wrote...

Honestly, i dont give a single **** about what other ppl think of me, it's all about survival and my goals for me and sometimes these goals need some excessive force, which doesn't make friends.

That sounds like the marketing description for an RPG

[android654]

Gterror2 wrote...

Honestly, i dont give a single **** about what other ppl think of me, it's all about survival and my goals for me and sometimes these goals need some excessive force, which doesn't make friends.

If you repeat that and say it louder, you might actually start to believe it.

[Homebound]

Stanley Woo wrote...

Be excellent to each other, is my motto. But what it also means is that one should also be excellent to oneself. Most everyone is attractive in some way, to someone (or a whole group of someones). For a lot of young people, one's looks can be "improved" simply by being involved in one's own life, caring about things like school, family, activities, hobbies, and media. My biggest piece of advice? Smile, damn it! Most females who consider themselves "not pretty" are actually very pretty when they smile. Having a good attitude and a smile on your face does wonders for one's appearance!

Know why I'm so dead sexy? i smile a lot!

i guess stanley

knows how to woo the ladies.
YYYYYYYYEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH!!!!!

[chunkyman]

Stanley Woo wrote...

Smile, damn it! 

This bodes ill for me, I'm allergic to smiling... 


Oh well, back to video games and ice cream.