pants witch wrote...
Myrmedus wrote...
pants witch wrote...
Myrmedus wrote...
I would just like to point out one thing: there are quite a few posters in here who seem to find the word s*ut incredibly insulting, like a horrific swear word, yet are throwing the word misogyny around like a frisbee, which IMO is a far worse thing to call someone. Calling anyone who goes off on one about Allers/Chobot a misogynist is way, way too strong and makes me think some people have forgotten the meaning of the word:
Misogyny (play /mɪˈsɒdʒɪni/) is the hatred of women or girls.
Hatred, guys. Not even dislike or taking issue with but outright hatred. And on a generalist scale too (all women). Whether or not you take issue with people getting pissed off at her, to go as far as calling it misogyny is ridiculous and tantamount to calling a comedian a ****, and personally I find that far more disgusting than people using the word s*ut.
Yeah. The real problem isn't shaming women for their sexuality, no. The real, REAL problem is calling someone a misogynist when they do that. Because it's so hard to be called out on your crap.
If you took the brainpower you used to come up with this backward theory and used it to understand this argument, you would come to understand that hatred is not always this obvious thing that anyone can see. More often than not, it's insidious.
No, my issue is pitch-fork-like behaviour which some of this feels like. Alot of the posts throwing that term around are not balanced posts - they're not posts like:
"It's ****ed up to shame women but it's also ****ed up to throw the "misogynist" insult out at everyone who has a problem with Chobot."
Instead they're just "RAHR, MISOGYNISTS THE LOT OF YOU!"
No offense, but too bad. If a bunch of people are around throwing out sexism and misogyny left and right, they're probably going to get called on it. I'm not interested being "balanced" when it comes to that. If some people can't handle that, they can always stop saying sexist and/or misogynist things. Simple.
Then I'll reflect that back at you: too bad if you think they're being sexist, deal with it. Do as you expect others to do, if you want sensitivity give it in return. Act like a hard-ass and you'll get the same behaviour back. This is pretty much the first lesson you learn from your parents? It's simple.
It's like you expect everyone else to be civil but consider yourself, or the argument you're mounting, to be exempt from that.
I also think that's an issue that you may personally have that anyone or everyone who criticizes someone of your sex for being ****ty automatically hates your sex - that's called pigeon-holing.
So you're saying... that my having a problem with people who deride women for being "****ty"... means I have an issue? Like, an ISSUE issue? Like, there's a problem in my head for taking offense to ****-shaming and sexism? If that's what you're saying, you need to step the hell down.
Well, firstly, I have to say I think this is kind of ridiculous, at least if I've read it correctly.
I'm not going to go into details about whether Chobot is a **** or not because I have no idea but the way I read this was like you take issue with someone being called out as a ****
no matter what - as in, even if they are a complete **** and it's well known, you still take issue with it. That I think is ridiculous because I do not see why that particular thing should immune to criticism or being called out on. There are so many things in life we call people out on - heck, you think you're calling people out in this very thread on being misogynists - yet it's not ok for this one thing? I got a better idea: (again, not saying Chobot is doing this) don't act like a **** in the first place.
Sorry, I don't see why this should be one particular exception. Now, if your issue is actually that you simply don't think Chobot is a ****, or you think it's unfair to call her it based upon no information, then fine...but the generalist tone in this part of the post just seemed off.
Also I'm saying some people appear to be doing this:
"I take issue with people deriding women for being ****ty."
"These people are deriding a woman for being ****ty."
"Therefore they are misogynists aka they hate all women."
That's a huge leap of logic and ridiculous. There are alot of guys I dislike and to be honest some of them I don't know at all, does that make me a misandrist and therefore a self-hater?
Also, the insults depend on origin. For example, where I come from s*ut really isn't that bad a word and it's something I personally (and some others) call guys who behave in the same way as well. However, calling someone a misogynist or misanthrope is worse because it denotes actual hatred.
Stop saying hateful things, and you won't be called hateful. It's easy.
In regards to Chobot, I don't think people saying her photos are ****ty are hateful, it's just a statement of fact. If they go so far as to say she slept with people in BW to get into the game then that's a step too far.
My own thoughts on this is just that I do take issue with her behaviour, it's true, but in this thread I'm more invested in the way that some people seem to be going off and generalizing a great deal based upon something that is actually only about one individual, whether just or not.
Modifié par Myrmedus, 12 avril 2012 - 07:14 .