Upsettingshorts wrote...
Rationalize away? Perhaps, but it depends on the context. But also work their way through, as there's usually some evidence (if not a great deal of it) that they were misunderstood.
But really, can you throw any stones when it comes to rationalizing away errors? By your estimation, it's always someone else's fault if you're misinterpreted, isn't it?
By definition, yes. If someone misinterprets me, then it was obviously their mistake.
but if a conversation goes wrong, it's not immediately apparent either that it happened or whose fault it was. Maybe the thing I said didn't actually lead to the conclusion I thought it did. It simply isn't possible to do an exhaustive logical analysis of everything I ever say before I say it.
But figuring out what went wrong typically involves existing the conversation and going over what happened on my own. I and my listener might even disagree as to whether there was a misunderstanding, and it could take some time to determine whether either of us is correct.
It makes sense because of constant feedback. It's a process. The evidence I refer to never stops being gathered, ever.
Gathering the data and analysing the data are two different things. All the data in the world isn't going to help you if you misuse it.
People who socialize more are better at socializing as a result, it's a skill. It's something that can be learned.
Even that I think is shallow analysis. I'm not yet convinced that socialisation exists.
Whether or not it makes sense isn't even relevant.
If it doesn't make sense then there's no way to have confidence in its result. How do you know what your conclusion is if you can't describe the reasoning that leads to that conclusion?
It's whether or not it works with any consistency.
If you don't understand the process then you can't know that. You don't know what variables might affect the outcome, so any possible consistency is a mystery to you.
I'd talk about how it's intuitive here, but then you don't really buy into that concept either.
If you're going to appeal to intuition, then we may as well just stop having this conversation. Intuition is no different from just making stuff up.
It also doesn't work. Interaction often relies on a shared set of (often arbitrary) assumptions, which is why people experience culture shock.
Great. Let's make those assumptions explicit and then we can get somewhere.
Where can I find a list?
Modifié par Sylvius the Mad, 02 mai 2012 - 09:31 .