Red_Sonja wrote...
Sutekh wrote...
It's always the same thing, really. If you don't want to play this kind of romance, all you have to do is... not play them, but I honestly don't see why I shouldn't just because someone has decided that A/B is forbidden based on their own moral / logic construct. It's that "I don't approve of it, so nobody should have it" thing that keeps coming back again and again no matter the topic at hand.
Yeah, that’s nonsense. Having a misogynistic NPC doesn’t make a game misogynistic any more than it reflects the views of the person who happened to write that character. NPC’s should be different; they should have different values, priorities and motivations and I don’t want to see that undermined in favour of having them pander to the play style of a single protagonist. You say ‘If you don't want to play this kind of romance, all you have to do is... not play them’ but it’s just as easy for me to say ‘if you want to play this kind of romance, roleplay a different character’! See how that works?
The depth, quality and consistency of characterisation is way more important to me than the ability to woo every single LI with a single character.
While it is possible to woo several companions with a single character, I don't think you can woo
all in one playthrough (Anders and Merrill will cancel out other romances). I'm not sure how many players do that - certainly, you could play a Hawke that flirts with all of the companions, and certainly, some people may want to role-play in that manner.
The characters are, imo, rich and well-written. They do possess their own desires and motivations, their own goals, prejudices, fears and dreams. Some will discuss those things with the PC in full, some will only mention a handful of details when certain dialogue options/game choices are made. And some, like Aveline, will be pretty close-lipped about much of their lives.
Romanced companions already are changed by the PC's actions - in their view of the world, or their ability and willingness to care for others. That stems from the bond formed with Hawke - the whole concept of having someone's back, of being supported and accepted by another person, the PC. You could argue then that a romance alone alters those characters - that they become something or someone else. But they remain the unique individuals that they were written as. I didn't see anything so altered that by Act 3, Isabela no longer seemed to be Isabela, Merrill was not recognizable as Merrill, etc.
The ability for you, as the PC, regardless of gender, to romance any of these characters does not change the
core who that they are.
I've read many an argument that they are altered to the PC's whim, that they are cheapened by being perceived as bisexual, that any ambiguous sexuality is something that makes them less, that we should know exactly what their sexuality/sexual identity is at the get-go. And yet, if we look at real life and at our own world, how many of us know every intimate detail of our friends? That, even after years of knowing someone professionally or socially, we can say with certainty that they are X or Y or Z, and that we know when they learned to first tie their shoes, what their worst memory is, or what ice cream flavor they prefer. People have different comfort zones, different inclinations for what they want to share or not.
Game-wise, we get a finite amount of time to get to know these characters - and Hawke or whoever our PC is has still to chat with them a certain way, or handle certain quests to get them to open up and have some trust. So when we talk about realism applied to these wonderful creations of fiction, why do we need so very much declared? Why do we have to have every detail mapped out and available like some full security background check dossier? If, as the PC and player, you find a certain character interesting and think that a romance would be a great thing to role-play, then you still need to apply effort to get to know the character. I think for a lot of people, the romances are less about the singular gender aspect and more about the full character - the personality, the quirks, the beliefs and heroism. Those qualities are at the forefront, and I think for many, that's what drives the desire to pursue a romance. That's the freedom/availability that they want to keep - to be able to see that arc with someone who seems all sorts of awesome.
IMO, depth, quality and consistency are not lost in that effort.