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[Humanoid_Taifun]

boomgosthedino wrote...

Not trying to sound mean but.... I kinda laughed... Anyway If you guy's was good friends before the fight, it will all work out in time. It always douse..

So mean!

I'll never talk to you ever again!

[Reader81]

boomgosthedino wrote...

Not trying to sound mean but.... I kinda laughed... Anyway If you guy's was good friends before the fight, it will all work out in time. It always douse..

no, not always, there was my friend, and we was talk aboutCI S (hearing Aid), she was thinking I was rude to her, but I wasn't rude to her, I tried to tell her about some deaf people dislike about CIS inside of body, she remove me in facebook and all that,s she was just misunderstand easy. so we still not like a friend, I guess it's not easy to make friend with people who so easy misunderstand like her. Oh well. So not always work out in end. Still like a enemies, not like I want to make enemies, it's just some people get misunderstand so easy.

[falranth]

kevin1gamer wrote...

About a month ago my best friend and I got into a bit of a fight (not a fist fight, but rather an argument).  We kind of said some things we didn't mean and went our separate ways.

|I apologized after the incident (not immediately after, but I think I waited like a day or two, because she was still very upset), for I realized how much I screwed up almost immediately after the argument, but she said she hated me.

She then removed me as a friend on Facebook, wouldn't return my phone calls, removed me as a friend on Xbox Live, removed me as a friend on MySpace, blocked me on Facebook, and got two of our mutual friends to think less of me (which is understandable, since they were there and I was totally out of line).

Just today, a month (give or take a few days) later, she just sent me a friend request on Xbox Live.  I just received (and accepted) the friend request about 15 minutes ago, in the middle of playing Resident Evil 5.  I don't think she added any text or voice with the request, if so, i didn't see it, because I forgot that you could add those with friend requests (and because my partner needed my help in Resident Evil 5, since we were

Spoiler

fighting against Wesker and Jill together

).

She has yet to send me a message (assuming she didn't in the friend request), nor have I contact her.  We were arguing over whether or not gay marriage should be legal, she said it should (she has a gay uncle or something, but I didn't know her uncle was gay at the time), and I said it shouldn't be legal.  I never really met a gay person (other than that one kid in 2nd hour, but I never talked to him before, primarily because he scares me, because he is gay and he acts [and talks] all gay).

She said I was too closed minded, I even went so far as to saying that gays aren't people, they are things, but then she told me about her uncle, and that's when things got really bad.  I was like "fine, I'll be the mature one" and left.  That was the end (apart from my apology later on).  So, do you think this is a good sign or not (she could have just added me to harass me or something)?

It's a good opportunity for you to salvage your relationship with her if you so desire to do so, but I think that in order for this relationship to progress you'll both have to address the issue again. You, however, have more work to do on that end than she does because you've an issue of naïveté: your beliefs of homosexuals are not substantiated by personal experiences or observations. Until then, you're just an echo of whoever distilled those beliefs in you, and she'll always trump you on the issue because not only does she know a homosexual, but he's actually her family and she has seen his everyday behavior.

So, you should get out in the world and come to your own conclusions about both personhood and homosexuality. It may surprise you, but chances are you have already met a lot of homosexuals and didn't realize it, because they did not fit the stereotype in the way that your classmate does. You'll have to think about whether you define people by their sexual habits or by other things, whether that be scientific factors like sentience or other things such as faith, compassion and good will.

You seem young still, so there's plenty of time, but overcoming your fear and talking in a calm and polite manner with your classmate may be a good start for you to gain further understanding of homosexuals. With such understanding, you would be able to return to the issue with your friend and work it out with the wisdom such controversial subject matter often requires.

Regardless of how things turn out with your friend, good luck with your future friendships.

Modifié par falranth, 24 décembre 2009 - 10:45 .