Vaern Sul wrote...
I don't think any of us here advocate child abuse. Of course being overly violent does more harm than good, but so does no punishment at all. That's what the OP's conclusion is all about. I'd say a good education should be about mixing the two, and finding the right mix is what makes raising a child so hard.
You summed it up.
Corporal punishment doesn't ALWAYS work. Some children don't respond to it, especially if they are being hit or yelled at on a regular basis. They think to themselves (or least that's the way it seems, from what I noticed) "Oh, it doesn't matter what I do because I get hit, so I'm just going to do what I want anyways."
Too many times have I seen neighbor kids and friends siblings being yelled at constantly and the kid(s) just don't listen. This is partly (or mostly) the parents fault for not sitting down and taking the time to explain things to the child.
If there is one thing I've learned from helping to raise children, it is that they LOVE it when you explain things to them.What they DON"T like is the line "Because I said so." No reason is given along with those words, therefore, a child learns nothing except for the fact that the adult is barking orders and the child will not grasp the message or understand it's meaning.So if a little one is doing something he/she is not supposed to, then you should stop them and explain why it is wrong.Remedy the the childs behavior before it gets out of hand.
Just because children are smaller than us, it does not mean that they are dumb.They can understand some things as long as you teach them.You gotta fill their head with proper knowledge.
It seems that,the way some parents discipline their children,stems from how they themselves were disciplined and raised. So if a parent was hit all the time, they are likely to hit their child also.If a person was given complete freedom as a child, they are more likely to do the same when raising their child.Of course,then again,this is not always true.
If a child just killed an animal for no reason, then by all means the child should get their butt smack, grounded, and should go see a psychiatrist.
If a child lied about breaking something, then talk to the child,explain why it was wrong, and ground them.
When a child is punished by being given chores to do, they
may grow up hating normal daily chores in their life.It's like teaching a kid that work is punishment instead of being good for them.
Instead, I believe that if something they like is taken away, they get a better understanding of the consequences to their actions.
One thing I am getting sick of seeing is parents being too scared to spank their child in public for fear of people recording it on their phones and labeling said parent as an abuser. People need to mind their own business and know when and when not to intervene.
I believe corporal punishment should be used to discipline a child, but only as a last resort.And it should not be extreme to the point where itturns into abuse.Talking with them should always come first.
And really, it all comes down to the child as an individual.
One thing will not always work. There isn't only one way to deal with an unruly child.It has to be a mixture of things; The right balance.
Modifié par Alyka, 18 mai 2012 - 10:13 .
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