Here's what I felt.
"Yay! Thane!" (This was on BFF Shepard) "He's my bestie! Oh no, he's coughing!" "....Well, that was a short talk." "....Nothing new to say, huh, Thane? Oh well." "Thane! No! STAY PUT!" "...Amigawd Thane from @&@#^@in' NOWHERE!" "...He's such a badass. Why isn't my Shepard helping, though? Why isn't GARRUS helping?!" "Nooooo! No no freaking no!" "Oh, he's still alive."
"*unprintable*" "Hahah, Shepard can't fix this with a fetch quest. That's sad and funny at once..." "Nooooo. *tears*" "...Wait, my crew wants to talk to me about Ashley and Kaidan instead of Thane? *RAGE*"
And then I learned that's pretty much how friends go and love interests go and there's nothing you can do to change it.