Constructive criticism is one of those things that can take some time to adjust to. I used to kind of hate it, but after a few years of DMing pen and paper stuff, where I was getting feedback after each session, it eventually became a pretty normalized thing for me. But at the start, it sucked, and it hurt. It's relatively normal to feel that way, but it's important to try and key in on what the criticism is, and why it was said, and what could be improved or changed to amend it, and whether or not you'd want to do that.AustereLemur799 wrote...
I think it takes me a day or more to be receptive to constructive criticism. It's just that when I read things initially, I tend to get upset. This is definitely a negative personality trait that I have - I'm not sure whether it's appropriate for me to mention the full extent of my issues on this site. Basically I tend to focus more on the negative than the positive, and I really take the negative to heart.
I know that, at the moment, whatever I publish on FFN is a essentially a draft and a work in progress. Having a beta reader has really helped me a lot because I've made some really embarrassing mistakes due to my dyslexia - another thing that gets me down.
Dyslexia's tough. I helped my roommate with their papers last year because of it, and I got a very real sense of how frustrating it can be. I'm glad you got a beta to help with that, because leanguage shouldn't get in the way of a good story, but it still does in a lot of cases.
@ the floor: the other thing that makes me ashamed is that I've really stopped reading around since I published my own story. On the one hand I'm afraid that reading other people's stories may, in some way, influence my ideas and I don't want to be guilty of stealing other people's ideas. On the other hand, I feel unable to read successful stories because they just seem to reiterate my own lack of success to me. I know that these are horrible, bad traits that I have. I honestly used to enjoy reading around. Now I just feel ashamed of myself, my writing and my inability to read and fully-appreciate others.
I guess I'm a bad person. I feel better for admitting to it. I think it's bad when other people's success makes you feel bad. But there it is. I honestly admire all you guys. The truth is that it took me a year of lurking on the BSN before I summoned the courage to come on here. I feel priveleged to have mixed with other writers. Truthfully I don't feel worthy to dwell among you. My pattern is that I come on here and make a complete fool of myself, then disappear for a while, hoping that you guys have short memories. Then I come back when I'm drunk and make more of an idiot of myself.
I don't think there's any requirement that anyone read stories if they're publishing them, because time is an important and limited thing, and people sometimes just can't, or don't want to, make room for it. That's fine.
Getting worried about other stories influencing yours...hrm, I guess i can understand that. Although I'll admit that if I see something in another fic that is relevant to a character of mine, and that would fit well into my fic, I'll use it. I'll put y own twist on it, but I don't think it's a bad trait to get inspiration from other stories. There would hardly be any media of any kind if people refused themselves to touch on what inspired them. I don't think it's stealing anyone's ideas so much as just adapting some inspiring and fitting material into your own, using your own skills. Copy+Paste would be stealing. Taking the exact scene or whatever and switching a few words would be paraphrasing, of sorts. Taking the concept of the scene and working it into yours with your own words? If that's stealing then i'm terribly guilty, and so is likely every writer on this board.
I can also understand getting discouraged by some very well written stories. PMC65's "A Thessian's Whisper" and Logicalpremise's "Of Sheep and Battle Chicken" are stories I love to read, but constantly toss me into a state of doubt over the quality of my own writing. Their stuff is intimidatingly good and it's difficult to feel I match up when I'm covering some of the same ground as they are, conceptually. But then I screw my head on straight, put a good night's sleep between me and those stories, and get back to work.
If reading makes you hate your own work though, then I can understand why you would shy away from it, but you really should try and figure out what you can do about your self esteem. It's not shameful that you feel or react in these ways, it's just a byproduct of your experiences, and it's not likely an innate, static aspect of your character. I don't think you're a bad person, it's easier to fall into those traps when you're discouraged, depressed, have low self esteem and feelings of low self worth, etc. Not that the previous are necessarily fitting of you, per se, but it's something I'm fairly familiar with. So if reading makes you feel bad, then I suggest you don't read in order to spare yourself such an experience. At least, not until you feel you can approach other stories confidently with the ability to not directly compare your story with others, or until you feel more confident in yourself and your storywriting.
Psh, we welcome you with open arms hereI realise that none of this sounds particularly great!
Whatever happens, thanks for putting up with me thus far.
Modifié par fluffywalrus, 01 décembre 2012 - 06:21 .





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