fluffywalrus wrote...
Haha, it's kind of funny, right? I mean, people can ask, hey, what have you been up to lately? And you can legit reply "Eh, wrote a book. A damn big one."
It's an accomplishment 
(warning, tired rant incoming)
One thing that gets me, though, in the fanfiction community at least, is the unending thirst for more. It's like...I've been at this less than 2 years, I've put out close to a million words of stories, and I still get people pounding my inbox telling me to hurry up and update. This happens mostly through PMs, but some anons take to my review page to tell me their innermost desires. It's crazy! Like, one month, this past december, I tossed out an 87k word story. Last june I pushed out one that was 76k. When I started, I pushed out a 133k word story out in 4 months, and a 330K+ word story that's currently unfinished in the following 6 months. I released a collection of short stories nearing 100k last August. And there's even more material in between.
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And still, people PM me. Usually about 5 or 6 a week, but sometimes more. I used to be flattered at the start, but now I'm just kind of pissed off. Not enough to scare me away from the stories I love, I'm not that spiteful, but it's still enough to get me kind of angry. Well, maybe the one I got this evening pushed me over the edge enough to write this, but still. It's been annoying. maybe if they were at least NICE...
Anyone have to deal with stuff like this in the past? Any tips for keeping sane?
Yeah, I got a bit of this when I started out. I won't even mention the messages I got from my unfinished work. FF.net still hasn't seen fit to e-mail me a password reset on my original account though, so Lord knows what I haven't read from that inbox!
Honestly, I don't let it get to me. It's a smaller version of the "cult of personality". People have no filter when on the internet. Crazy fans don't constitute the whole of an actor/rocker/ballplayer's fanbase.
Sort of like people at ballgames who pick fights with players. They are stupid, and should be penalized, but that shouldn't constitute the image of that city as a whole. Likewise, it always perturbs me when people use examples from the dregs of the internet as a litmus for the youth culture in general. Some kid spewing epithets on Facebook about LoL doesn't represent ME as a gamer.
It's hard to filter out the crazy sometimes, but don't make it about those people. Make it about the fun you have with writing. Make it about the GOOD relationships and reactions that you garner through your writing. Hell, I straight up stop reading comments once they stop being respectful.
However, I will say, there was a particular bad bit of hatemail I got once. I actually took the time to reply, stating how that person might have gotten me to listen to his criticisms, if he had just been civil. However, as he was being a jerk, not only would he not get what he wanted, I had nothing to apologize to him about either. Suffice it to say, he never replied.
As for why people act that way in the first place: it's easy to demand more and lose patience. I usually try to put it in perspective. After all, I am always chomping at the bit for the next great story, the next great book, the next great game, or the next great movie/tv series.
It's part of the reason why I filter what I consume by whether or not it's finished (such as with anime). It's why I can play a game, then lose all interest until the sequel comes out, because anything else will cause me to react like a crazy person who is trolling the creators.
But the people that harass authors don't have that filter. It doesn't mean they don't like your work, just the opposite in fact. It does, however, mean they are being idiots, and therefore unworthy of stressing out about.
My method may not work for you, but again, be proud of your own work. Take pleasure in the process and the reaction of the respectful fans, and leave the rest by the wayside.
PS: As a fan of the writing of many of the folks in this thread, I personally would be VERY perturbed if the actions of some fool was responsible for ANY cessation OR degradation in your works. I enjoy them too damn much, so keep up the great work!
Modifié par Seracen, 13 février 2014 - 01:51 .