Well, you just know you're gonna have a ****ed-up weekend when you head out to the laundry room to take your clothes out of the dryer, run into one of the neighbors there, and he informs you that a week ago he caught a kid pissing into one of the dryers. That's how my Saturday started, and yes, it really did set the tone for the rest of that day and the next. D:
At least I was still able to keep writing before the weekend weirdness, and finished another chapter of the GI Joe fic I'm working on for the Kindle Worlds thing. So, a small victory, and I'm hoping to take advantage of my next couple days off work to make some progress on my other stories....
But, what has me thinking I'm going to be getting more flak is that... well I have it so that Shepard has all the backstories. Meaning, her family(except her mom, because of Spacer and such.) are dead. Killed by batarians on Mindoir. Anyways, I just revealed that I had a pretty important OC(A guy from before the time the Reapers were around.) has Lazarus'd back her father and her two dead sisters. And, I'm thinking that people are going to be irked that I decided to do that.
And, I'm not sure how to react if what I think is going to happen happens. Part of me wants to say, "Hey, it's my story. I like things being happy. And I love the interaction/general storytelling possibilities open up." But another part of me thinks I should say, "I know that it may seem lame to bring back the people who died in Shepard's past, since it was a big formative moment for her. But, I wanted to find a way to work these characters into the story in a larger role since the Butcher arc. I felt that, especially after how traumatized she was by seeing their memories and such it would be really cool to be able to show her reaction to learning they've been brought back to life."
So, yeah. I'm just rambling. But what I was going to ask is, do you guys think it's silly of me to have brought back Shepard's dead family? Because, the cynical part of me is saying that. While the non-cynical part of me is saying, "Oh come on. You started writing this to give Shepard a happy ending. Go whole hog on it!"
Like you said, it's your story. You need to tell the story that's forming in your head, and like I said regarding that one negative reaction to my story, if it's not some readers' cup of tea, there are other stories they can move on to. Just write a good story, and it'll attract readers who can appreciate it.
I've seen people get irked over things like bringing dead characters back, or anything else that brightens the story up a little bit. Years and years ago, I did something similar with another fanfic series, and remember someone saying that bringing certain characters back "cheapened" the tragedy of their loss. I did it just because I thought it was an interesting idea and wanted to see if I could make it work, and it had the benefit of giving me a bunch of new characters I could develop. The flak I got stung a little of course, but you have to accept that there are some readers who just don't know what they're talking about. And if they hurl insults at you or otherwise try to bully you over it, well, **** 'em in the neck till their noses bleed. XD
And there's nothing wrong with liking things in a story being happy. I can certainly enjoy a dark and dramatic story, in which the heroes are backed up against a wall and all that stuff, but for me, there has to be at least a faint light at the end of the tunnel. A story that's relentlessly dark and brutal and depressing is just not for me. It doesn't necessarily have to have a completely happy ending--in fact, there could be plot points in the story that prevent a 100% happy ending--but I definitely like the story to end on some sort of positive note, or at least a hopeful one. I dunno, I guess some people just think a story isn't worthwhile unless all the characters are either suffering constantly or are at each other's throats all the damned time.
That's one of the reasons I hated Mass Effect 3, by the way. Not just the ending, though the whole "rocks fall, everyone dies" crap in the original ending (not to mention the whole thing simply not making any sense...but that's a whole other rant) was the worst part of it. Just the relentless bleakness...blecch. I could've been okay with all that stuff if the ending had made it worth going through...but yeah. 
And then seeing some people reacting to complaints about the ending by making comments about how we just wanted a Disney ending or prancing unicorns ejaculating rainbows or whatever the hell. As if the story is only deep and meaningful if the hero dies at the end, or all the main characters die and the galaxy is reverted to the stone age. Meh.
Yeah. In the neck. Till their noses bleed. XD
Always amused to hear your rants. It makes me feel better about my own occasional tome-sized posts!
At any rate, there can be a lot of fun in playing with mannerisms and such. Even Bioware toyed with the whole "translator glitch" thing with Thane's term "Siha."
As for my own little tidbits, I amused myself by putting in a few colloquialisms, such as "Mexican standoff," then having Shep explain it to a bunch of Batarians. I also had Zaeed knock a code against a door (Shave and a Haircut), which completely befuddled Garrus, who'd never heard the song, and was unfamiliar with the joke.
I feel that things like that add character and heart to a story, when used appropriately. As for hate for the particular couplings...there's no shorting of bile when discussing such things in the forums. However, I can't help but feel like all the sheer choices in the ME series mitigates the hate somewhat.
After all, it's hard to be angry when fully 70% of the fanbase disagrees with you, no matter what choices you made. "Disagrees" is too strong a word, but still, no two people made EVERY choice the exact same. I admittedly rag on the Virmire Survivor, but that doesn't mean I will automatically hate a story in which they are the LI (indeed, my next ME story will have the VS as an LI).
Glad I'm able to entertain.
And I love stuff like the "Mexican standoff" and all that you mentioned. It's perfect for injecting a little humor when needed, and reminding readers that aliens have vastly different cultures. I like to put stuff like that in here and there, too. And I'm having a bit of fun by putting a slight spin on it, with a couple of alien characters geeking out on human pop-culture...and what'll really amuse me is when one of them will inevitably make a reference and then have to explain it to their own people. XD
One bit that just popped into my head while typing that....
Computer: "Please enter passcode."
Chula: "Khaaaaaaaan!"
Sidonis: *nearly jumps out of his carapace*
Computer: "Passcode accepted. Access granted."
Sidonis: *stares and backs away slowly*
As for hate for certain couplings...yeah, that's definitely true. One of the cool things about Mass Effect is that there's a pretty good range of options in the games. For my story, I'm pretty much basing it on the choices I made during 1 & 2, so if I bring up the LI thing at all, it'll be Tali. But I'm thinking about just not mentioning it unless there's a specific reason to. Since most of my characters are OCs, it might not even come up.
Though I did notice in the games that Dr. Michel and Kelly Chambers appear to have crushes on Garrus, so I'm planning to have a little fun with that later on.
*email notification pops up on phone*
"Ooh, maybe it's a new review or something"
*checks inbox, sees 10 new emails*
"Not again..." 
Heh, I've had that happen, but my reaction is usually something like, "Oh, cool.
." Which is one of the reasons I
technology. My previous job was so stressful and the town I lived in made me so miserable, I'd take whatever I could get that would distract me from it all. I could just look at my phone and see new reviews, and be cheered right up. Without that, I'd have to slog through the whole day and wait until I got home to see them.
Always takes me a while to reply to them, though, and I always kick myself for not doing it sooner.
Now in an attempt to get the thread back on track...Has anyone started writing a scene, decided that you're probably going to end up ditching it - then found you just can't seem to get past it? That you have to finish that first scene before you can really move on?
Because if you have, and if you've found a way past it, I would really appreciate it if you would share! 
That happens to me a lot, and I haven't found one specific solution. Rather, there are several things that work, depending on what the scene is. Sometimes I have to ditch it and write a completely different scene. Sometimes I just have to start the scene over from scratch and see if it works this time. Sometimes I realize the scene needs to be there for the story to progress, but there's something about it that causes my brain to hang up, so I put a new character into the scene and just have him/her start talking to those already present (sometimes just a normal conversation, and sometimes just coming in to antagonize the others), and sometimes that launches the scene at a slightly different angle that allows me to work through it and move on with the story.
That might be one of the reasons why I keep adding new characters all the time, now that I think about it. Part of it is just an idea popping into my head and throwing it into the story, and part might be me liking the new character I added just to alter the flow of the scene and deciding to keep him/her around.
Anyway, I kind of threw myself into writing over the weekend and just kept driving at the scene that was giving me grief ; so it's kind of done now. I think I needed to get it written out, just so I could say to myself, "Look it's done. Now get back to work!" (That sounds crazier outside of my head...isn't that weird? )
Admittedly it's taken roughly a week out of my intended schedule - but I'm already behind anyway. So...
Cool. Yeah, sometimes a scene needs to be in the story and you just have to keep at it until it comes together and you get past it.
I'm actually dealing with that problem in the current chapter of my story. Having trouble getting a handle on it, but the scene is kind of a big deal and really needs to be there because there's been some build-up to it in previous chapters. It's the first time Shepard and his team have appeared, and the scene is a meeting between them, Admiral Hackett, Anderson, Tevos, and Lidanya, discussing some new info about the Reapers, among other things. It's a long scene with a lot of talking, and I keep getting stuck, but I feel like it's important to the story. So, all I can do is keep poking at it and see if the mental blockage shakes loose...but if I can't get past it, I'll probably just delete the scene and start over with a different approach, and hope that actually works.
Now, something I forgot to mention the last several times I posted. A while back I was reading the thread but not actually posting anything yet, and saw a mention of the Citadel Epilogue mod. Here's how out-of-the-loop I was--the mod came out something like nine months ago, and I'd never even heard of it until I saw it mentioned here a few weeks ago. That's how completely I'd washed my hands of Mass Effect 3.
Curiosity got the better of me, and I looked it up. And liked what I found. Between this mod and MEHEM...well, goddamn it, now it looked like I'd have to reinstall ME3 and buy the Citadel DLC. I'd sworn I would never give BioWare any more of my money after being burned so badly...but damn it, I paid $80 for that game, and couldn't enjoy it at all. There's just no replay value. And you know what? After not only spending all that money on it, but being so emotionally invested in the series, I just want to be able to enjoy it again, and be able to play it over again at least a few more times to get my money's worth. And it looks like I can do that if the entire Catalyst BS is removed and the Citadel DLC can be played as an epilogue (which is what it should've been in the first place).
It won't fix all the problems that come up throughout the story (like taking Bakara down to Tuchanka before the Reaper forces are dealt with, while her health is still fragile), or Shepard acting like a moron, or the very existence of Diana "Battletits" Allers...but I can get through all that if I know there's a light at the end of the tunnel.
So, I reinstalled ME3 and bought Citadel--and immediately felt like I needed a shower afterward. Then I downloaded the mods, and once I finish my current playthrough of ME2, I'll be ready to give this a shot.
I did not, however, buy the Leviathan or Omega DLCs. I might get Omega someday, since it should've been part of the game in the first place, but only if it ever goes on sale at a drastic discount. Leviathan, as far as I'm concerned, doesn't even exist. Just muddies the waters and tries to retcon the story to make the Catalyst look like it was planned to be there all along. Screw that.
Bah. Had one other thing I was going to bring up, but naturally I forgot what it was. I wouldn't be surprised if it's brain damage caused by seven and a half years of working in the one-hour-photo lab at Hellmart. And the stories I could tell you about that. O_o Someday I should write a book detailing the whole twisted journey. But it'd probably turn into a ten-volume series. I'd call it Encyclopedia Stupidica. 
Oh well. This post is probably long enough already. O_o