A relationship is a relationship in the end of the day, whether or not a paper says so.
Marriage Proposals
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LPPrince
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#52
Posté 15 juin 2012 - 12:50
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As far as weddings go, if you do not plan to elope, whatever you do don't mention that what you are ordering is for a wedding. Vendors see weddings as a chance to overcharge. Forget paying full retail, you'll wind up paying a premium. Plan a wedding that reflects your values, not your friends' or some idiotic tv show. Prudence and moderation are virtues. Be virtuous.
With all due modesty we had a lovely wedding. We didn't go into debt, everyone had a good time. We have some lovely photos (which is what really makes it worthwhile. So nice to see all the people we love happy and together). Many, many years later we are still together, which is the real point.
/rant
With all due modesty we had a lovely wedding. We didn't go into debt, everyone had a good time. We have some lovely photos (which is what really makes it worthwhile. So nice to see all the people we love happy and together). Many, many years later we are still together, which is the real point.
/rant
#53
Posté 15 juin 2012 - 12:51
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LPPrince wrote...
A relationship is a relationship in the end of the day, whether or not a paper says so.
That is how we see it. This was brought up by a friend of ours. She asked us at that time the time together and the stuff I do around to help etc. Stating I was a good one and "should put a ring on it".
It was just a different concept that sometimes you hear the ideals which could turn into a bad proposal. Still if both are you are happy then it does not matter what you do she/he will enjoy it cause it came from you.
#55
Posté 15 juin 2012 - 03:39
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We had discussed it, many times, including whether or not he would prefer if I proposed to him. (He did not.) There was really no question about whether, just when.
I was on a business trip, and he called to ask if I wanted to go out to a particularly nice restaurant when I got back. "Sure." And oh, it was company picture day that Friday for him, so he'd be in a suit. Maybe I should wear a dress and it would be a thing?
This from a man who tore off his tie like it was a poisonous snake as soon as he was in the door.
"Sure!" I floated my way through the rest of the trip, prettied myself up as I liked, and went out to dinner to be proposed to. He got down on one knee when dessert came but without involving the entire restaurant in the scene.
It was perfect for us. There was just enough uncertainty in it that there was electric anticipation for me, but enough forewarning that it wasn't a surprise. I'm not a big fan of surprises.
I was on a business trip, and he called to ask if I wanted to go out to a particularly nice restaurant when I got back. "Sure." And oh, it was company picture day that Friday for him, so he'd be in a suit. Maybe I should wear a dress and it would be a thing?
This from a man who tore off his tie like it was a poisonous snake as soon as he was in the door.
"Sure!" I floated my way through the rest of the trip, prettied myself up as I liked, and went out to dinner to be proposed to. He got down on one knee when dessert came but without involving the entire restaurant in the scene.
It was perfect for us. There was just enough uncertainty in it that there was electric anticipation for me, but enough forewarning that it wasn't a surprise. I'm not a big fan of surprises.
#56
Posté 15 juin 2012 - 05:01
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I've never heard many stories of women proposing to men.
Seems incredibly rare if it happens.
Seems incredibly rare if it happens.
#57
Posté 15 juin 2012 - 05:21
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I've got a few stories I can tell...
About mine, my husband spent a good amount of time planning the whole proposal. Worked out the times, the place, a back-up plan, a picnic---and all the time I thought we were just going to go have fun finding megalodon teeth lol. Anyways, while illegally drinking wine in a small town park (the signs said no alcoholic beverages) under the gazebo after lunch, he got down on one knee to propose. It was unexpected and I couldn't believe me eyes. Of course I said yes. Had he done that however in a very public place with lots of people however I would've likely said nothing at all and just walked away. I like my privacy. =P
A friend of mine proposed to his now fiance during the middle of an annual fun-filled scuba diving event. Poor guy had sent her off ahead of him that morning to the beach so he would have a good 5 minutes alone with her daughter to beg for that woman's hand in marraige lol. The daughter approved of him, with the condition that she wouldn't have to ride with them back from the event (all lovey dovey) and he hurriedly fixed her up to ride with a friend that day. At the event, he had his future fiance escorted by some friends...it was her first time ever doing this prize winning thing after all....when it was her turn to turn in her ticket to claim a prize, they announced she had won....CAKETOPPERS! And who did those caketoppers look like, you might've wondered? Well, he was shaking, her eyes were wide open after seeing the toppers, and he practically fell on the ground to ask for her hand in marraige. She of course said yes, and instead of fainting (like we all thought he would) he actually stood up and staggered around with her for the next few hours. It was very cute. Had she said no, he might have gone into shock and died then and there. It was very stressful for him.
I know someone else back West who had to ask his wife's family for her hand in marraige (old Native American custom apparently). The mother wanted several cattle from the proposal, which he didn't have... So he buys some cattle, trailers them back a week later, and asks again for their daughter's hand in marraige. The mother looks over the livestock approvingly and then says, "No. Now is not a good time for the family. Come back and ask again in 6 months." So...he had to find a place to house these cattle for 6 months before he could go back and try again (I think the woman's family sets up the wedding and everything pretty quickly. I'm not really sure.). Eventually he succeeded and is happily married to this day. Quite determined that one was.
About mine, my husband spent a good amount of time planning the whole proposal. Worked out the times, the place, a back-up plan, a picnic---and all the time I thought we were just going to go have fun finding megalodon teeth lol. Anyways, while illegally drinking wine in a small town park (the signs said no alcoholic beverages) under the gazebo after lunch, he got down on one knee to propose. It was unexpected and I couldn't believe me eyes. Of course I said yes. Had he done that however in a very public place with lots of people however I would've likely said nothing at all and just walked away. I like my privacy. =P
A friend of mine proposed to his now fiance during the middle of an annual fun-filled scuba diving event. Poor guy had sent her off ahead of him that morning to the beach so he would have a good 5 minutes alone with her daughter to beg for that woman's hand in marraige lol. The daughter approved of him, with the condition that she wouldn't have to ride with them back from the event (all lovey dovey) and he hurriedly fixed her up to ride with a friend that day. At the event, he had his future fiance escorted by some friends...it was her first time ever doing this prize winning thing after all....when it was her turn to turn in her ticket to claim a prize, they announced she had won....CAKETOPPERS! And who did those caketoppers look like, you might've wondered? Well, he was shaking, her eyes were wide open after seeing the toppers, and he practically fell on the ground to ask for her hand in marraige. She of course said yes, and instead of fainting (like we all thought he would) he actually stood up and staggered around with her for the next few hours. It was very cute. Had she said no, he might have gone into shock and died then and there. It was very stressful for him.
I know someone else back West who had to ask his wife's family for her hand in marraige (old Native American custom apparently). The mother wanted several cattle from the proposal, which he didn't have... So he buys some cattle, trailers them back a week later, and asks again for their daughter's hand in marraige. The mother looks over the livestock approvingly and then says, "No. Now is not a good time for the family. Come back and ask again in 6 months." So...he had to find a place to house these cattle for 6 months before he could go back and try again (I think the woman's family sets up the wedding and everything pretty quickly. I'm not really sure.). Eventually he succeeded and is happily married to this day. Quite determined that one was.
#58
Posté 15 juin 2012 - 07:09
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Just don't do this. Pretty sure it's staged though. Still it's pretty bad. As others have said don't do it in public.
#59
Posté 19 juin 2012 - 02:58
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It can work in public if you make sure beforehand that they'd be okay with it.
