Nizaris1 wrote...
According to Varric
- Aveline claim she and her husband running from Ostagar
- Carver AND Hawke running from Ostagar (Bethany arguing why they are late)
- they both meet at Lothering that have been destroyed
- Hawke with his/her family and Aveline with her husband want to running away from Lothering
- they are moving toward Korcari Wild
- they all meet Flemeth at Lothering
It means
- Ostagar destroyed the same time as Lothering destroyed
- they all moving toward where the Blight begin (while the Warden and Alistair moving away from Korcari Wild and away from Lothering).
Except you leave out that Wesley was on his way to Denerim when he heard about the loss at Ostagar and turned South, meeting up with Aveline just as the horde hit Lothering. You're also ignoring that in the time it takes the Warden to get to Lothering (middle of the country) from Flemmeth's Hut (far South) Loghain has managed to make it all the way to Denerim (In the North). The horde took a while to get to Lothering.
Nizaris1 wrote...
- If Hawke and his family from Lothering, how come they don't know the Warden was in Lothering?
- Bethany claim Qunari kill her friend meaning Bethany was in Lothering when Sten was in the cage
- After the Warden get in the inn, everybody know there is Grey Warden in Lothering, leading to some people attack them at Lothering for the bounty, how come Hawke say "they all die in Ostagar" if Hawke is from Lothering?
So, Hawke and Carver run FROM Ostagar to Lothering, Hawke is there when Battle of Ostagar happen, that is why he/she assume all Wardens are dead
It's Aveline who says all the Warden's died at Ostagar, Hawke and Carver (if Hawke isn't a Mage) could have arrived in Lothering after the Warden left, or they dismiss people talking about a Warden as just a crazy rumour, or the necessary isolation of the Hawke family means they didn't hear about it, or the fact that they are arriving with the Darkspawn at their heels means they don't take the time to catch up on current events.
Nizaris1 wrote...
Meaning as according Varric
- Lothering is destroyed soon after Ostagar destroyed that is Hawke, Carver, Aveline and Wesley running from Ostagar and arrived at Lothering
- the last Warden know the Joining ritual
To the first if we take a loose enough definition of soon sure, like I said the events of Origins make it pretty clear the Darkspawn took a while to get to Lothering. To the second, not really. Flemmeth's not mentioning the Joining Ritual and that neither Warden knows it is indicative of nothing other than A) Nobody she's talking to is aware the Joining Ritual exists let alone what it's about and

It doesn't matter, if they can't get to the Wardens it doesn't matter if they can do the Ritual or not.