bobsmyuncle wrote...
Relationships and sex aren't forbidden to mages, but any children resulting from such activities are confiscated and given to the Chantry. I assume if the child shows signs of magical aptitude they are sent to the Circle (obv. with no knowledge of their parents), and if not they become clergy. The reason why Cullen is beating himself up and why Jowan/Lily are forbidden is that mages and Templars/other clergy are not permitted to liaise with mages. In fact, I'd guess that all clergy are supposed to be celibate, like Catholic priests. What makes the Chantry ****ty is that being a priest/initiate isn't always voluntary. Catholic priests at least take vows voluntarily with full knowledge of what they're giving up, and even then not everyone is successful at keeping those vows. Buddhist monks similarly give up a lot to be what they are, but again it's voluntary and in this case you can even leave the monastic order without retribution or judgment.
This is a big reason why my mage's boon was to separate the Circle from the Chantry. The Chantry is so messed up and it will take the Circle a long time to recover as it is. I can see the reasons for some of the Circle's practices, like the Harrowing and even keeping mages apart from other people. However, I fault the Chantry for these practices being so extreme, such as apprentices being thrown to demons without any preparation, and only allowing full mages out of the tower on "Circle business." The way things are set up, it's like the Chantry is trying to create abominations. Rage, desire, pride - are mages being taught to resist such temptations, or are the conditions in the tower shaping them to be susceptible to these feelings?
My mage had the circle annulled and wiped out, because she saw it as a horrible prison that was more harmful to mages than beneficial. Mages are, like city elves, second class citizens with barely any rights. And the Chantry does their best to mentally break them and make them as ineffective as possible. Remember that one mage chick, forget her name, but she was in the chapel praying for the maker to remove her "curse" of magic, and how she believed magic was evil, mages were terrible, and the only way for everything to be good was to wipe the terrible mages from existance? How the Chantry "protects" everyone from "evil" mages. Hell she even thinks the idea of being made "tranquil" (i.e. magical lobotomization) is a wonderful idea. Better to be turned into a subservient robot than be an "evil" mage.
I imagine she is probably not the only Circle mage to be broken so. I imagine many other mages roam in a state of self-hatred and guilt due to Chantry brainwashing. Part of me thinks maybe the Chantry would like it that way, encourage more mages to become "tranquil" so they have more pliant, lobotomized drones who refuse to question authority or better themselves. As well as generate money. Tranquils are the best slave labor yet.
Chantry priests don't take vows of celibicy, and can have sex. What they cannot do is get married, since like Andraste, they are all "Married to the Maker". Mages can do what they like, so long as they do not entertain horrific ideas such as falling in love and having children. It is said if you control the basic instincts of reproduction, pair bonding, and family, you control society (Orwell's 1984 explained this nicely). The Chantry seeks control. They rip children from families, spread dogmas to make people think that magical children are "cursed" so families part with them more willingly, and when said children grow up and dare to aspire to reproduction, they once again exercise control and cut the family short before it begins.
And we see the price that people end up paying in personal terms (Cullen, Wynne and her child, Jowan, ect). So I agree, if anything, the Chantry's iron fist probably encourages blood magic, abominations, ect since they force people to such breaking points that they are willing to resort to extreme measures to be free and live a normal life that every other human being is entitled to (or elf, for that matter, though for elves, the Circle is probably the only place in Ferelden where they are on equal terms with humans for a change. Why I can understand prohibiting mages from holding office or titles (old fears of Tevinter magister lords), to deny a mage the pleasures of family, non-mage friends, love, marriage, children, and some property of their own is simply downright cruel.