Lividliver wrote...
The fact that you can't own up to being mistaken directly and had to use another snide remark as an excuse for the previous one.Your current reply says much too about how you deal with others correcting you.
Awesome. My turn!
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Okay, this will be in the guise of paraphrasing as I am attempting to nail down the breakdown in communication.
Lividliver: Object is wrong because of X.
Adhok42: I see something wrong with X because something is throwing up a red flag for me. Allow me a moment to find it... I have found it. It is Y.
Lividliver: I am going to be defensive because your cold calculation feels cruel and insenstive to me but pretend it does not bother me by using a smiley that protrays innocent intentions. Also you are somewhat right but I'm still going to be hurt because of how cold you were.
Adhok42: I will attempt to lighten the situation with a fictional quote that hopefully conveys I feel you are being a little too serious and I did not mean to be so cutting. Your attempts to hide your hurt do not fool me in the least.
Lividliver: I can tell my gambit to hide the hurt did not work. However I do not see your quote as humorous in the least and feel even more hurt as I feel you are attempting to be more sacastic then humorous and will respond in kind by insulting you in a way that is not easily detectable.
Adhok42: The insults are not hidden in the least to me and now my vengeful nature has been provoked. I will now actually respond with actual sarcasm in an attempt to goad you further. Hidden agenda: I am attempting to draw out more infomation in an attempt to determine where the communication in our dialog broke down but to do so I need further dialog.
Lividliver: You goad worked and I respond in kind calling your inability to rectify what I perceved as a mistake and insult you further because now you are actually insulting me.
Hmmm... I see two points on both sides that could have handled the dialog better. Perhaps the quote may have been the wrong answer for me, perhaps you were too hasty in writing off my "Red Flag" as an insult and not as just general information. Whether or not you are feeling too defensive to read this with a neutral outlook may in fact be my fault.