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[Jarl Johnnie Walker]

Talking to females is only as difficult as you make it.
Remember that.
Oh, and know your type.
If you can read people, then that comes in handy too. ^^

[billy the squid]

I'm going to be serious for a moment, shocking I know. The saying below holds true.

"Nothing is to be feared but fear itself. Nothing grievous but to yield to grief"

Just smile and say hi, relax a bit and have laugh with them and let things progress from there. If stuff happens great, if not, that's a shame but it doesn't matter. I always try not to consider the possibilities when talking, and just be yourself, obviously don't get complacent, but don't tie yourself in knots over things. Even though I know it can sometimes happen.

I've quite a few friends who are women, some are people I've been introduced to, some are just completely random, a few I've gone out with, others I remained friends because we have a lot of fun together, but never went any further for whatever reason. Don't over complicate stuff.

[Jarl Johnnie Walker]

billy the squid wrote...

I'm going to be serious for a moment, shocking I know. The saying below holds true.

"Nothing is to be feared but fear itself. Nothing grievous but to yield to grief"

Just smile and say hi, relax a bit and have laugh with them and let things progress from there. If stuff happens great, if not, that's a shame but it doesn't matter. I always try not to consider the possibilities when talking, and just be yourself, obviously don't get complacent, but don't tie yourself in knots over things. Even though I know it can sometimes happen.

I've quite a few friends who are women, some are people I've been introduced to, some are just completely random, a few I've gone out with, others I remained friends because we have a lot of fun together, but never went any further for whatever reason. Don't over complicate stuff.

I approve. ^^
A good bit of females like bold males.
Some like the shy type and find them to be amusing in a hot way for some raisin. lulz.
Oh, and females love a guy with confidence.

[Adugan]

Garrus calibrations wrote...

billy the squid wrote...

I'm going to be serious for a moment, shocking I know. The saying below holds true.

"Nothing is to be feared but fear itself. Nothing grievous but to yield to grief"

Just smile and say hi, relax a bit and have laugh with them and let things progress from there. If stuff happens great, if not, that's a shame but it doesn't matter. I always try not to consider the possibilities when talking, and just be yourself, obviously don't get complacent, but don't tie yourself in knots over things. Even though I know it can sometimes happen.

I've quite a few friends who are women, some are people I've been introduced to, some are just completely random, a few I've gone out with, others I remained friends because we have a lot of fun together, but never went any further for whatever reason. Don't over complicate stuff.

I approve. ^^
A good bit of females like bold males.
Some like the shy type and find them to be amusing in a hot way for some raisin. lulz.
Oh, and females love a guy with confidence.

Lol the problem is that OP has no confidence, so he thinks women will be repelled by that

[Travis2310]

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Lol the problem is that OP has no confidence, so he thinks women will be repelled by that

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That's what I don't understand. In other things that require confidence, I'm normal. In martial arts, if I'm fighting someone bigger than me or who has more experience, I;m not afraid of them (or of losing).

Also when presenting a project in my classes in college. I feel that if I worked hard on this, I should be proud of it and it should be easy to present.

Only in these situations do I feel aloof. Maybe because I have always avoided them all the time that I have no experience with them.

[Dominus]

Only one way to gain experience. At worst, you make a mistake; Mistakes can be learned from, and you can gain more confidence with each attempt. If you're worried that part of your personality is going to repel women, don't; You are who you are, and the person you're hoping to find should appreciate your traits, good and bad. If they don't, I suppose they're not for you. Go get em', Tiger?

[FeralEwok]

You're scared to talk to women?

Join the club. I and most guys are, even the ones that are really good at it too.

I fare better than some guys in that I've learned how to banter with different types of women, and that I've put myself out there enough to know that nothing bad is going to happen to me. But it didn't come naturally I had to talk to people to learn anything. I've had some really great conversations when I've met someone and I've had some really bad ones. The bad ones didn't kill me.

Worst case scenario is that I may embarrass myself in front of the woman. That's it. I mean I guess that's a really big deal for people who are afraid of damaged ego, or those who constantly obsess with what others think. But other than that there really isn't anything else to be afraid of. An attractive woman, who may or may not be single, is still a human no different from you. Don't put anyone on a pedal stool nor put yourself down to any level beneath them.

There is no reason you can't be happy, but it's not given nor is it automatically deserved. You will have to put yourself out there. Unless you want to rely on pure luck and have something fall on your lap, then be prepared to stay alone if you continue to think like this.

Oh and if you do decide to talk to someone, you might want to leave out any mention of butterflies and cocoons. Keep it simple at first and save the metaphors until at least the second conversation.

[Adugan]

greengoron89 wrote...

I think you need to see a therapist, and possibly a psychiatrist - random people on the Internet are not likely able to help you work through these kinds of issues like a professional could.

But I am a professional internet person, why cant I help?

And I am surprised nobody trolled OP yet, maybe everyone is shocked how honest he is

[Fishy]

It`s like stopping smoking. I tried and Tried and Tried and nothing really worked.. Until 2 years ago .. I said ENOUGH and just stopped and never touched any smoke ever again . It`s start and finish with you. You can go see some therapist and get brainwashed by their pseudo-science  or do it by yourself. But like every psychyatrist will tell you. It`s you who will decide of your fate. But it`s can be good seeing a professional because they`re not here to judge you.

Also there`s nothing wrong with being a loner. Maybe you feel the social pressure and you see yourself has abnormal .. Which put more weight on your shoulder. I know that feeling well.

You always hear those enlighened people saying the same thing - -Ye miss on opportunities.. YEYEYE.

It`s cliche but you need to accept  yourself before others. That also mean accepting the fact that you might be introverted. Don`t try too hard though. Just be yourself or you come up has a creep. You give bad vibes feeliing and that really unattractive

Oh and remember that . Everyone has some kind of insecurities and fear. That girl who does not look at you at all .. Might be even more shy than you`re.

Modifié par Suprez30, 17 juillet 2012 - 12:10 .

[RedArmyShogun]

You See OP, many a man has this problem you need cofidance, now allow me to impart the wisdom of Thor unto you as it was imparted on me.

You see you do not lack the means of but rather that blood thristy spirit!

Now first we must man you up. Now you must take a boulder and push it up the hill, on said boulder you must light a candle before a tree offering praise before Thor and Odin, as if you do not, then odin will troll you. If you see a crow, troll, or a hobo who is assurdly Loki, you must stop the ritual. If you see none of these then you must bash open a small animal upon your alter and scream to the skies

THOR GIVE ME POWER TO CRUSH MY ENEMIES! this will please Thor, now cover your face in the blood of the sacrifice and charge into town. It doesn't matter if you have none (enemies or blood enough to cover your face)...soon enough you will, you will. Once you have reached the town spread out with your fellow men torching and pillaging all you may find. Also forcibly take as many women as you want!

So what if she's married, or has a boy friend, hahaha he's likely dead in the town square by your axe, he has lost all legal claim according to Thor and the ways of the Viking, she is yours now by rite of possession, and why talk to the wench? Take what you want of her and send her off to the long house under the eye of a watchful crone to prepair your meals with the other wenches.

If all of this is "too bloody" or "Immoral" I will drown you in the north sea, or offer you this alternative. First off it is the coward who holds you down, so you must travel to the deep north to the cave of wonders, if you can't find this, any city subway will do. There in you will come opon a mirror or someone that looks like you, then you must slay them without hesitation. Even if they scream NO ANAKIN NO! You must, this is the coward with in you manifest begging for mercy. If he is not struck down you will never be free. Also leave his shoes, they are not better than what you have.

With the coward dead and the honor and soul clensing power that only mortal combat can provide, you have no need to fear any woman, unless its a poxy ridden wench of a constable, then you should take her to the cave, and see to it she doesn't see the light as well.

Thus I have passed on the Words of Thor, pay heed to them mortal.

Modifié par Confess-A-Bear, 17 juillet 2012 - 02:57 .

[Travis2310]

Confess-A-Bear, that was strangely amazing.

[A Crusty Knight Of Colour]

Thor may be a GOD Bear, but he ain't no GODDAMN alien.

The extraterrestrials have passed much knowledge to the human race to utilise, not just in ancient times when they manipulated our DNA and aided us in building the pyramids, but also today.

In this particular scenario, they didn't pass on knowledge per se, but they passed on technology (like acoustic levitation in order to transport Stonehenge from another planet).



You know what they say, give 'em a probe and the ladies disrobe.

Now, I know what you "skeptics" might be thinking.

[Jarl Johnnie Walker]

Bawhahahahaha! xD

[Noctis Augustus]

Uh, you could always get drunk before talking to women... It works for Raj (The Big Bang Theory).

[RedArmyShogun]

BY ODINS BEARD HE HAS A MEXICAN PRETENDING TO BE FROM AN ISLAND AND A JERSEY CHICK IN YAKUZA ASSASSIN MARKINGS!

He is no scietist, he is loki! And apperantly rich enough to affoard hooker assassins. Do not obey this man! God, trickster, scientist! Listen only to Thor, well unles you like hooker assassins. Then Thor tells me to be wary of you and leave you with this.

Be Wary the magpie. She's the devil.

Modifié par Confess-A-Bear, 17 juillet 2012 - 12:51 .

[Volus Warlord]

"It is better to be impetuous than cautious"- Niccolo Machiavelli

And beautiful girls (say, top 10%) are almost always too ****ed up to be worth it. Just sayin.

[android654]

But f*cked up people are the ones that are fun. It's the nice ones that are boring as sh*t.

[Druss99]

The top 10% of women? Are we ranking them in some sort of league or chart?

[Volus Warlord]

android654 wrote...

But f*cked up people are the ones that are fun. It's the nice ones that are boring as sh*t.

There's f*cked up and than there's ****ed up. I'm pretty sure we've a different definition of the term. ****ed up has nothing to do with being friendly or nice. Often times they make poor attempts at friendliness to guise their ****edupness.

And boring is much, much better than many of the alternatives.

Druss99 wrote...

The top 10% of women? Are we ranking them in some sort of league or chart?

 

Don't tell me you've never rated women before. Women do the same to men. Or other women. 

Modifié par Volus Warlord, 17 juillet 2012 - 01:31 .

[wsandista]

You could always try to helicopter.

[RedArmyShogun]

This makes no sense to me. Women are Women by the Ways of the vikings, either she is boxy enough for bed, or ugly enough of face to be a crone to cook and scare children, or she is a stong assertive woman. In which case she is obviously a witch and must be put to death or made to live in a coven to scare children out of the forrest so that we may drink and not worry on where the buggers have went.

[android654]

@VW

Nah, people with problems are interesting to be around. It gives you a new perspective on people and life in general. Boring people have nothing to offer but politeness. Which is nice I suppose, but ultimately pointless in the end.