Taleroth wrote...
To be honest, a lot of guys do change when you sleep with them. Just not in the way you're wanting.
Ruffians, I mean. Not a true gentleman, of course.
Men AND women both like being understood. That takes talking. And especially listening. I like to listen and I like stories, making me a nearly ideal person for someone who has a lot to say.
I've never ever run aground by listening to someone. Talking comes first, sleeping together comes later. And very often that conversation starts with some version of "I'll never be tied down." "Wouldn't dream of it, I'm just out for some fun."
So it's not about changing someone. And the guys that feel the need to be big badasses are...if they possess charm and humor...some of the most rewarding people to get to know. As friends or lovers, doesn't really matter. You want a romantic gesture? Even an insanely unrealistic romantic gesture? Get it from someone who isn't prone to them but can't help themselves. It's nice.
SOME men say they don't want to be tied down, but they do want to do the tying down, and if they absolutely feel possessive about a woman, they don't want to share. They'll do the monogamy thing as it's necessary to not murder people as the only alternative to keeping other people's grubby hands off their woman.
Proposals come from men. Do not expect the badass to be lacking in very persuasive romantic skills and determination. I learned that the damned hard way. I will not underestimate the complete 180 that the "determined player" is capable of spinning in a short period of time when he's sure this is it.
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