IsaacShep wrote...
tholloway93 wrote...
just make sure to not be over friendly! i was talking to cortez my first playthrough getting to know his character (before i even knew he was gay) then i started doing all the nice replies and got hit on, was like slow down cowboy im reserved for liara
Nonsense, you can't get hit on by Cortez unless you tell him that he should be looking at you because you're "eye candy too". Looks like we know you did say it to him 
Depends on one's definition of "hit on". Cortez does say something like "I find it hard to say 'no' to you" or some such when broShep (I think femShep, too -- not sure) when you take the Paragon option of "Do it for me" when telling him that he needs to take a break before burning out. There's no harm in a friend telling a friend to do something for them, but one might interpret the response as a bit more than expected.
Me? I didn't care. I played all the angles.

Call me a completionist.
I, too, found it odd that Kaidan was a LI for both genders in ME3, but after some digging, it looks like there
might have been the option for all three to swing both ways in ME1. (I typically don't consider cut-content as canon.) Regardless, I found nothing that explicitly stated that he didn't go both ways.
Yet, the fact that only broShep cannot romance him in ME1 suggests that something did actually changed. When he could romance femShep in both ME1 and ME3 but broShep in only ME3, something has changed between the two games.
The whole "metagame" argument is bupkis. A writer that expects players to suffer total amnesia between play-throughs is being unrealistic. By merely attempting to make a different choice than before, the player is acknowledging the previous choice and is metagaming. If they don't want metagaming, they will have to make the game playable only once with no ability to go back to previous choices. That's not gonna happen. Metagaming will happen, and writers need to count on it happening.
Still, I am able to assume that broShep and Kaidan had not yet "connected" regardless of what femShep and Kaidan can do. I cannot shake the recognition of differences between ME1 and ME3 but I can apply what is necessary for me to accept the current Shep's story regardless.