NECROTOPIC NINJA.
Re feminine men : Eh, Asian standards of beauty are different. There are pretty good cultural reasons why that is the way it is, one of them being that it's really really hard to find a masculine man in the area (consider the Japanese word for 'good-looking'----'bi'. Yes, the one in 'bishounen'. They had ONE word for it until relatively recently. No gender differences. That should say something. It means a slightly different thing than what we think of when we hear 'beautiful boy'---perhaps 'aesthetically pleasant boy' would be more accurate). Your tastes adapt to what is normal for you. The other being that we value the refined look over the active lifestyle look----it's not mutually exclusive, and it's not better/worse than the other, it's just how it is. (If you've seen Asians who really obsess over school results, that's sort of part of it.) While I personally can't see the appeal of boys with extremely long eyelashes, makeup who act and sound like a girl and am honestly scared of people who do, I definitely do prefer 'pretty' over 'rugged-looking'. *cough* The same goes for girls, honestly---Asian girls who are 'hot' in the West wouldn't necessarily be 'hot' in Asia. But then I belabor a dead horse.
Although I think we can all agree that Zevran and Bann Teagan = hot.
Re earring : Someone else who tends to accept it the first time, here. *waves* The PCs I usually play do not place a big importance on words, and aren't all that forthcoming with what they think of a relationship, either. They...don't prefer making things 'formal' or invade comfort zones, I think, as it were, and I couldn't even bring them to ask 'what about love' most of the time, even when it would make sense. (This doesn't mean they like keeping things casual, but they don't feel the need to put a name on what their relationship is, is what I'd like to say.) When that earring comes about....they do know that it means something. It's important, and there's a great magnitude of feelings behind the gesture. That much is obvious without saying. And, to them, while they wouldn't necessarily know what those feelings are, they know it's there, and....they don't need to name that, either. Perfectly fine with a nameless connection that's more important than any other connections they've ever had, and if one day they could call it love, well, that wouldn't be surprising. With that in mind, it makes no sense to reject the earring, since they're not exactly the type to go around defining their relationships in a word or two themselves. (Proposal isn't needed, either, for the same reason. Does it matter what it is if they know Zev wants to stay with them forever?)
I just don't play romantics, I guess. >_> Not sure if that makes sense of if it'd be useful, but there you go.
/re-lurks
Modifié par webbedfeet, 02 mai 2010 - 01:04 .