ejoslin wrote...
I can accept that. I have sacrificed myself a few times, and felt SO guilty afterwards. Especially since Alistair really did want to do it. He didn't want to be king, he didn't want to be a gray warden by himself -- the PC ends up being the Hero of Ferelden, what she did raises her people up (or restores them to power in the case of human noble). Whoever sacrifices their self becomes a legend. Tales are told, songs are sung -- I'm not sure I played a PC who would care about that, but Alistair would like it.
I have to admit, though, that I'm not crazy about Alistair. My first playthrough, the inevitable happened, and yes, I had no problem with him sacrificing himself. I picked the dialogs that he was a coward, and then I picked, ok, go do it! I won't forget you! The kiss was beautiful, I will admit that. However, my subsequent play throughs, I saw the romance as an infatuation, fair or not, and I chose actions and dialogs that made him mad, so that colored my opinion as well. So I am not sympathetic to Alistair, though I like him. And if it's true he's no older than 20, then it's even more understandable.
Generally, it all comes down to how you roleplay, and the limit of options in game. I happen to be extremely fond of Alistair, with all his faults, and thus, on top of not making him a king in a real playthrough, am loathe to end up with one of us dying. Depending on the character I'm playing, it would end up as a very miserable mess for both if I did, so I suck up and deal with Morrigan.
But, were the situation different, what if Zevran was a sacrifical option, for those who prefer him over Alistair? It would be pretty much the same boat: depending on who and how you play, the surviving love could end up destroyed over it. And until i play a very selfish, cold character that has no problem throwing anyone between her and harm, I shall find it impossible not to sacrifice myself, or, from an RPG perspective, ending up mental after the lossof her love.
Interestingly, I've gone through dialogue options that ****** off or hurt Alistair, and I find him all the more endearing. Perhaps because it shows me he does have a less than pleasant side, which for me, is essential in taking someone seriously as a friend or love interest. But it's a matter of personal tastes, and certainly, i do not go through threads rampaging people because of personal opinions and impressions. To each, their own.
Both Zevran and Alistair I am quite fond of, for very different reasons, and thus, depending on who and how I am playing, present interesting challenges throughout the game if pursuing a love affair. In the end, breaking their hearts, one way or another, is painful equally.