Sannox wrote...
I think Zevran does need the warden, though, at least as much as the other characters do. He works through his issues on his own, without help (which is one of the things I love about him) - I do agree with that. But he's able to do that because of the warden. He doesn't need you to do anything for him but he does need your presence, I think. If it wasn't for the warden he'd be dead or damaged in some way.
Allistair and Lelianna seem to need the PC to define who they are for them. Allistair can't/won't make a decision on his own and Lel will turn herself into a pretzel to be what you want her to be. Zev needs the PC to care about him and truly value him, but he doesn't need the PC to tell him what his world view should be. He doesn't seem to expect his opinions to matter, but he speaks up more than any of your other companions about the decisions you are making (or will if you are being evil anyway). It has always seemed as if he is offering his opinion on how you should act while the others (generally) are offering their opinions on how you *did* act. Of the romanceable companions, Morrigan and Zev both know who they are. They learn to open up, trust, be valued and love, but they both have an inner strength and sense of self that isn't defined by others and doesn't require the PC at all. They are both strong, determined, capable,
survivors. Lel and Ali need/want someone to lead them. My PC's always value the fact that they can lean on Zev, even the ones who never romance him.
I don't think my son has seen the US epilogues, so I kind of doubt he was (over) analyzing it the way I have. I think he was just reacting to the hardening thing, the clinginess of Lel, and Ali's inability to make a decision.