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[SurrealSadi]

eucatastrophe wrote...

SurrealSadi wrote...

*chuckle* I've been yelled at by my friends for saying it, yet I still do. Add in the fact that I've little to no self esteem thanks to being fat through the WORST parts of school(middle and high school), and you have someone who has practically no confidence in oneself, especially in any 'talent' one may have.

Hmm... strange, I can relate as I always was heavier growing up. The tables have turned now, and while I have physically changed on the outside, I still lack self-esteem. It sucks, but there's always tomorrow.

Unfortunately I'm still fat(pic is several pages ago), and still lack self esteem/confidence. It sucks royally...

Twould figure...

Modifié par SurrealSadi, 20 avril 2010 - 03:17 .

[Creature 1]

I think people who die violent deaths usually do die in an abrupt, pointless way. But unless you're purposefully depicting that, there's a certain way these things are done in fiction.



Of course the pointless Zevran deathfic is pointless, since Zevran wouldn't die a) for his oath, if he loves you he might consider his love cheapened by saying he was doing it because of his oath or when his dying would do no good and might be avoidable. And the author needed to be wired to receive a shock whenever she put two or more periods sequentially, used italics, or used the word "no".

[Cuddlezarro]

eucatastrophe wrote...

@Aro:


!

[eucatastrophe]

SurrealSadi wrote...
Unfortunately I'm still fat(pic is several pages ago), and still lack self esteem/confidence. It sucks royally...

At least, you have the confidence to post your pictures. That's a start.
Furthermore, take joy in the fact that life is dynamic <3

[SurrealSadi]

Thank you, Cuddle, you proved my intuition right. As soon as I saw eucatastrophe's post, I just knew you would post Xander

[eucatastrophe]

Cuddlezarro wrote...

eucatastrophe wrote...

@Aro:


!

Two can play at this game!

[SurrealSadi]

eucatastrophe wrote...

SurrealSadi wrote...
Unfortunately I'm still fat(pic is several pages ago), and still lack self esteem/confidence. It sucks royally...

At least, you have the confidence to post your pictures. That's a start.
Furthermore, take joy in the fact that life is dynamic <3

I figured anything I'd hear from people here would be no worse than what I heard in school. And that picture is a year old, taken before the burial of a good friend, and the lady on the right's husband. *sigh* I hate dresses, but I promised her I'd wear one.

[Cuddlezarro]

eucatastrophe wrote...

Two can play at this game!

[barkingM1]

Tellervo wrote...

eucatastrophe wrote...

Just wondering: how do you keep a thick skin?

I find that when I pour my heart and soul into something and people rip it apart, I feel really bad 

Laugh, regardless.  Eventually, you start to feel genuine mirth.  You just have to train yourself to it.  At least, that's how I cope.

Also, being your own worst critic.  That doesn't mean getting emo when something's not up to your standards, but if you recognize your own faults as a writer and accept that you will always, regardless of where you stand experience-wise, have room to grow, and there will always be someone who is better than you, and always something wrong no matter how many times you revise, that helps.  A lot of people get OCD about their writing and refuse to share it because of this, but that growth doesn't happen unless you embarrass the hell out of yourself first.

Very well said, Tellervo.  

Along with keeping the humour, eucatastrophe, try looking at your piece with the criticisms in mind, as though  they were your own comments.  Oddly enough, I used to find that would help me detach from whatever unkindness was intended and/or perceived, and I could focus on any legitimate feedback.  Or, it enabled me to say, "No. No, they've got it wrong - I really believe in what I wrote."   

You know, a while back a co-worker was snarking about writers on the internet, on the premise that "when no one knows who you are, it's easy to put your work out there."  Personally, I see it as remarkably courageous.  Granted you may have a certain level of anonymity, but you're willing to share this part of yourself with thousands of souls, friends & strangers alike.  That's something to honor.
  

[Cuddlezarro]

SurrealSadi wrote...

eucatastrophe wrote...

SurrealSadi wrote...
Unfortunately I'm still fat(pic is several pages ago), and still lack self esteem/confidence. It sucks royally...

At least, you have the confidence to post your pictures. That's a start.
Furthermore, take joy in the fact that life is dynamic <3

I figured anything I'd hear from people here would be no worse than what I heard in school. And that picture is a year old, taken before the burial of a good friend, and the lady on the right's husband. *sigh* I hate dresses, but I promised her I'd wear one.

why would you think that? lord knows iv gotten the crap beaten out of me before just because im a queer I dont see why we would jump on your looks... since this mini fandom is very accepting of people

Modifié par Cuddlezarro, 20 avril 2010 - 03:32 .

[soignee]

Yeah this thread is like awesome for accepting just about all walks of life, as long as we;re respectful to each other.



No, wait, I lie. It's about the naked mens friday and gif parties.

[Aroihkin]

eucatastrophe wrote...

Cuddlezarro wrote...

eucatastrophe wrote...

@Aro:


!

Two can play at this game!

I like where this is going.

[SurrealSadi]

Cuddlezarro wrote...

SurrealSadi wrote...

eucatastrophe wrote...

SurrealSadi wrote...
Unfortunately I'm still fat(pic is several pages ago), and still lack self esteem/confidence. It sucks royally...

At least, you have the confidence to post your pictures. That's a start.
Furthermore, take joy in the fact that life is dynamic <3

I figured anything I'd hear from people here would be no worse than what I heard in school. And that picture is a year old, taken before the burial of a good friend, and the lady on the right's husband. *sigh* I hate dresses, but I promised her I'd wear one.

why would you think that? lord knows iv gotten the crap beaten out of me before just because im a queer I dont see why we would jump on your looks... since this mini fandom is very accepting of people

Aye, I know I shouldn't have thought that, but growing up in an area surrounded by yuppie families where the bimbos are all slender and perfect and the jocks are, well...jocks, one gets accustomed to being looked at with scorn because one doesn't fit the "social standard for appearances".  It takes a long time to get those 'lessons' out of one's head.

[eucatastrophe]

barkingM1 wrote...
Very well said, Tellervo.  

Along with keeping the humour, eucatastrophe, try looking at your piece with the criticisms in mind, as though  they were your own comments.  Oddly enough, I used to find that would help me detach from whatever unkindness was intended and/or perceived, and I could focus on any legitimate feedback.  Or, it enabled me to say, "No. No, they've got it wrong - I really believe in what I wrote."   

You know, a while back a co-worker was snarking about writers on the internet, on the premise that "when no one knows who you are, it's easy to put your work out there."  Personally, I see it as remarkably courageous.  Granted you may have a certain level of anonymity, but you're willing to share this part of yourself with thousands of souls, friends & strangers alike.  That's something to honor.
  

Thanks
I think what you mention is very valid given that at the end of the day any (good) writer would want to share their story in the best manner possible. Besides, I'm sure rabid reviewers (when they're off-base) are fun to laugh at

[SurrealSadi]

soignee wrote...

Yeah this thread is like awesome for accepting just about all walks of life, as long as we;re respectful to each other.

No, wait, I lie. It's about the naked mens friday and gif parties.

*chuckle* I really need to start collecting pics for fridays...the only good ones I have of nekkid or semi-nekkid men are fanart of Sephiroth and I get the feeling I'd be SHOT for even mentioning I have those drawings....

[ejoslin]

SurrealSadi wrote...

eucatastrophe wrote...

SurrealSadi wrote...
Unfortunately I'm still fat(pic is several pages ago), and still lack self esteem/confidence. It sucks royally...

At least, you have the confidence to post your pictures. That's a start.
Furthermore, take joy in the fact that life is dynamic <3

I figured anything I'd hear from people here would be no worse than what I heard in school. And that picture is a year old, taken before the burial of a good friend, and the lady on the right's husband. *sigh* I hate dresses, but I promised her I'd wear one.

There's nothing wrong with the way you look, though; you're actually quite pretty.  People come in all shapes and sizes -- it would be pretty boring if we all looked the same.  

[Cuddlezarro]

SurrealSadi wrote...

soignee wrote...

Yeah this thread is like awesome for accepting just about all walks of life, as long as we;re respectful to each other.

No, wait, I lie. It's about the naked mens friday and gif parties.

*chuckle* I really need to start collecting pics for fridays...the only good ones I have of nekkid or semi-nekkid men are fanart of Sephiroth and I get the feeling I'd be SHOT for even mentioning I have those drawings....

smart girl *pets sniperrifle*


I have several gigbites worth of nekkid/semi nekkid men on several flash drives~

[Sresla]

A bit late to the "party" but is there really a need to call someone out about their own writing - even if you feel it's bad? If you hate it that much, review it on ff.net or be constructive or something. But to sit around, point fingers and laugh at someone's skill just seems cruel and petty to me. Obviously if the person isn't open to criticism that's one thing but... yeah.



It's not like whoever wrote that came here trolling for anything. But hey, if being mean-spirited makes you feel better about yourselves, who am I to stand in your way.

[SurrealSadi]

ejoslin wrote...

SurrealSadi wrote...

eucatastrophe wrote...

SurrealSadi wrote...
Unfortunately I'm still fat(pic is several pages ago), and still lack self esteem/confidence. It sucks royally...

At least, you have the confidence to post your pictures. That's a start.
Furthermore, take joy in the fact that life is dynamic <3

I figured anything I'd hear from people here would be no worse than what I heard in school. And that picture is a year old, taken before the burial of a good friend, and the lady on the right's husband. *sigh* I hate dresses, but I promised her I'd wear one.

There's nothing wrong with the way you look, though; you're actually quite pretty.  People come in all shapes and sizes -- it would be pretty boring if we all looked the same.  

Thank you... The only thing wrong is I'm barely 5'4"... and I weigh quite a lot more than is healthy for that height.

[SurrealSadi]

Cuddlezarro wrote...

SurrealSadi wrote...

soignee wrote...

Yeah this thread is like awesome for accepting just about all walks of life, as long as we;re respectful to each other.

No, wait, I lie. It's about the naked mens friday and gif parties.

*chuckle* I really need to start collecting pics for fridays...the only good ones I have of nekkid or semi-nekkid men are fanart of Sephiroth and I get the feeling I'd be SHOT for even mentioning I have those drawings....

smart girl *pets sniperrifle*


I have several gigbites worth of nekkid/semi nekkid men on several flash drives~

*chuckles* I love my intuition.  But really, those are my only images of mostly naked men. Well, that aren't fan-pairings of video game characters and aren't on my own computer locked up in my room... that silly thing BARELY loads this forum...

Well, that's to be expected

[ejoslin]

SurrealSadi wrote...

Thank you... The only thing wrong is I'm barely 5'4"... and I weigh quite a lot more than is healthy for that height.

I didn't mean to sound condescending.  You ARE attractive, and you're a big woman, the two of which are NOT mutually exclusive.  

Modifié par ejoslin, 20 avril 2010 - 03:50 .

[ejoslin]

Cuddlezarro wrote...

smart girl *pets sniperrifle*


I have several gigbites worth of nekkid/semi nekkid men on several flash drives~

And yet, you don't share...  I'm TEASING you, btw!  Kind of.  I like looking at pretty pictures of sexy men!

Modifié par ejoslin, 20 avril 2010 - 03:47 .

[Cuddlezarro]

its funny how iv gotten more positive comments on my looks in this forum than I *ever* have in real life... even the few boyfriends iv had never really commented on my looks much =/

[SurrealSadi]

ejoslin wrote...

SurrealSadi wrote...

ejoslin wrote...

SurrealSadi wrote...

eucatastrophe wrote...

SurrealSadi wrote...
Unfortunately I'm still fat(pic is several pages ago), and still lack self esteem/confidence. It sucks royally...

At least, you have the confidence to post your pictures. That's a start.
Furthermore, take joy in the fact that life is dynamic <3

I figured anything I'd hear from people here would be no worse than what I heard in school. And that picture is a year old, taken before the burial of a good friend, and the lady on the right's husband. *sigh* I hate dresses, but I promised her I'd wear one.

There's nothing wrong with the way you look, though; you're actually quite pretty.  People come in all shapes and sizes -- it would be pretty boring if we all looked the same.  

Thank you... The only thing wrong is I'm barely 5'4"... and I weigh quite a lot more than is healthy for that height.

I didn't mean to sound condescending.  You ARE attractive, and you're a big woman, the two of which are NOT mutually exclusive.  

I didn't take you to be condescending at all Was simply explaining a little more about me And thank you muchly:D

[Cuddlezarro]

ejoslin wrote...

Cuddlezarro wrote...

smart girl *pets sniperrifle*


I have several gigbites worth of nekkid/semi nekkid men on several flash drives~

And yet, you don't share...  I'm TEASING you, btw!  Kind of.  I like looking at pretty pictures of sexy men!

its not friday now is it

I'll post more pics with convieniant zevrans on that day since smocking hot friday seems to have stuck~

Modifié par Cuddlezarro, 20 avril 2010 - 03:50 .