That said, the only thing that offended me greatly, and I still get very angry about is the line "I swear, I'm the bravest one here. And I'm a woman." Spoken by the woman PC right before the joining. I sincerely hope that incredibly demeaning line sprung from a man, and not from a woman. Simply because a woman should know better.
Huh, I thought it was "I'm the bravest man here, and I'm a woman," or some such. Not sure if that's better, but I didn't find it offensive since it was clearly meant to be a put-down comment spoken by a certain kind of character. I don't find depictions of women in Dragon Age offensive, even the desire demons, because for one thing, there's lots of representation of empowered women in Dragon Age, and secondly, although it's a modern game, it's a story set in a medieval aged fantasy land. The fact that there are so many female soldiers and warrior types is fairly impressive as is; in a lot of armies female soldiers were at huge risk (possibilities of rape and pregnancy, causing problems due to romances with other soldiers, etc.) ...
I thought it was pretty obvious that the desire demons had some influences from succubi, which I can't really fault given that they are desire demons. It's not like there are no male demons, and given that there are time constraints on releasing a game I am not surprised, nor really upset, that there's only one model for desire demons. There's also only one model for children of each gender, one model for pride demons, etc. I don't find the desire demon attractive, but it is pretty cool to look at, which I can also say for revenants and the pride demon, and the sloth demon. Besides, do spirits even have genders? It could just be a manifestation of what they think they are supposed to look like.
Anora and Cauthrien have very powerful female roles, and the Chantry is led by female leadership. It's not like women aren't empowered in this game. Plus there are legendary women like Aveline and Andraste (although Andraste was more of a typical beautiful heroine) in Thedas culture.
Given that women have other options of power, would you expect more of them to go the warrior route? Think about the Circle of Magi, for instance. You don't see any female templars (which isn't to say there aren't any, just that you don't see them), but they have the opportunity to rise much higher in the Chantry without having to deal with lyrium and physical training.