esper wrote...
2. Opposites attract:
First off, why would you be interested in someone who was the completely opposite off you?
Second off these time of relationships almost always ends up, a: Not working, b: one of the partners radically chanhing the other not so much, or dominating the other person.
Not that it can't be interesting, my one rivalromance with Anders was, but it borders on abusive and honestly even my rival Hawke and Anders weren't that opposite...
There is also the fact that this can't be forced. The writer of the LI's makes the Li's personalities not the PC, so they will never gurantee that the romance is an opposites attract.
I kind of agree with you. I don´t really like rivalry romances, I find the unrealistic. Anders rivalromance is definitely not working for me. Yes books, tales, films, games established this troope that if you hate the you love,
But usually it´s more like opposite personality based, not totally different life goals. Two people discovering they have a lot in commonc. Whereas in DA2 Anders rival romance is more like - two people who have nothing in common, forced to be together.
Why woudl Anders be with someone who hates who he is, who deflect his cause, who openly supports templars and kills mages. For me it doesn´t make sense to be with someone who is against things you stand for - somethins you devoted your whole life for. Just to convince this person? And mean time be quite abusive and bad to the person you are supposed to love. Why would he love templar? Or blood mage if that somethign he hates? Why would he even follow you? For me it felt forced as you said.
Feris rivalmance works, it actually workd much better than friendmance. Because you are actually nice to him, trying to show him that yes Dan was bad to you, but look at me or at Beth - its typical theme of not everyone you hate is bad, look at me or Bethany, there is good in life. But in Anders case its - you are wrong, mages are evil here sleep with me, love my hate for your kind.
So from DA:I I want realistic romance.