Hello,
I ask this because I been feeling miserable about somethings and feeling like I always lose, not good at things. I know I enjoy and have fun as well. I know I'm not perfect and no one is perfect anyways, even who is perfect they have issues.
I seem too lose in many things even at things I enjoy doing and playing. I know I'm not good with Online Multiplayer and some sports. I always lose while playing in online gaming and some sports. I even lose being hired and accepted for a job, some test as well.
I know I owrk on it, I study and I try my best. I just don't know, I know I get annoyed easily when I lose and something isn;t very pleasant. I know I'm not the best. I know when I do things I enjoy it and I have fun, I seem too never win though but I have a good time and enjoy it, enjoying life.
What is it? Does everyone lose, does everyone win, does everyone have up and downs, is it about enjoying life and having fun?
Is it about Enjoying and Having fun or winning, only about competition or both?
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Zakuspec089
, févr. 24 2013 04:04
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Posté 24 février 2013 - 04:53
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Seriously, you have to win. When it comes to life, the losers don't get to eat. Don't listen to all this pc crap about everyone's a winner. If everyone was a winner, there would be no bums on the streets and every boxer would be a world champion. Work at it! I don't know what recipe you have for success, but you need to tweak something. Since it's affecting you emotionally, you should really think about changing your lifestyle. For the study problem, take in more protein. I noticed that when I started power lifting and drinking protein shakes, I was able to focus better. The extra brawn would also do wonders for your confidence. Also, don't take advice from a video game forum. You have all kinds of wierdos crawling around here: bronies and people who are way too into Tali (or however you spell her name).
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Posté 24 février 2013 - 05:10
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You're miserable when you try to become something you're not. Happiness is the most profound moment of authenticity you can have in your life. That will only happen if you're you. Feeling accepted when you're you is much more awesome than being accepted when you're not. That why family for so many it's important.
And failing .. Everyone fail .. If you think that you're only losing ... Because you're just noticing those moment and comparing it to others only winning moment. Think about it.
And failing .. Everyone fail .. If you think that you're only losing ... Because you're just noticing those moment and comparing it to others only winning moment. Think about it.
Modifié par Suprez30, 24 février 2013 - 05:17 .
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Posté 24 février 2013 - 05:15
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Suprez30 wrote...
You're miserable when you try to become something you're not.
He sound pretty miserable already. Homie should be asking advice from someone who knows him. Ask your father, brother, or male cousin before asking a complete stranger.
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Posté 24 février 2013 - 05:31
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SOLID_EVEREST wrote...
Suprez30 wrote...
You're miserable when you try to become something you're not.
He sound pretty miserable already. Homie should be asking advice from someone who knows him. Ask your father, brother, or male cousin before asking a complete stranger.
It's basic psychology. People just need to do more introspection. Good psychologist train you to do this.
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Posté 24 février 2013 - 06:03
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I know I have up and downs, happy and unhappy moments. Lately I been feeling down for some reason. I know I don't always win but I do lose and I accept it, work and try again.
Also being alone without friends suck.
Also being alone without friends suck.
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Posté 24 février 2013 - 06:12
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Is it about winning no matter the cost or you will be so p*ssed off you may break something! lol
I can tolerate one or two small defeats, but more than that causes me raging.
You're miserable when you try to become something you cannot.
Like 21th century Alexander the Great, Rocky, Einstein etc. when you don't have the talent, strength, etc.
Still you can be a good leader, boxer or scientist depends on your abilities or you cannot...
I can tolerate one or two small defeats, but more than that causes me raging.
Suprez30 wrote...
You're miserable when you try to become something you're not.
You're miserable when you try to become something you cannot.
Like 21th century Alexander the Great, Rocky, Einstein etc. when you don't have the talent, strength, etc.
Still you can be a good leader, boxer or scientist depends on your abilities or you cannot...
Modifié par Legatus Arianus, 24 février 2013 - 06:20 .
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Posté 24 février 2013 - 11:54
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In terms of games if you enjoy playing it shouldn't matter if you win or lose. If you find yourself losing too often to other players then there is single player.
In any contest there are always both winners and losers - everyone loses at some point. People who are obsessed with winning are hurt more by their losses than the more well-adjusted people.
In life you need to work on it if it happens too often. Think why were you not hired and how you can make yourself more appealing to employers. You can develop your skills through training, you can demonstrate your preparedness to work with voluntary work, etc.
(even with a University degree it took me a whole year to get a job and many other people have had problems too)
Regardless, you should not think too often about your losses (unless you are thinking about what to do differently in the future)
In any contest there are always both winners and losers - everyone loses at some point. People who are obsessed with winning are hurt more by their losses than the more well-adjusted people.
In life you need to work on it if it happens too often. Think why were you not hired and how you can make yourself more appealing to employers. You can develop your skills through training, you can demonstrate your preparedness to work with voluntary work, etc.
(even with a University degree it took me a whole year to get a job and many other people have had problems too)
Regardless, you should not think too often about your losses (unless you are thinking about what to do differently in the future)
Modifié par Get Magna Carter, 24 février 2013 - 11:56 .
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Posté 24 février 2013 - 12:51
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Selected extract from the poem IF by Rudyard Kipling
"...
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
....
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!"
(there's a lot more Ifs before the end but that's the one most relevant)
"...
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
....
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!"
(there's a lot more Ifs before the end but that's the one most relevant)
