David7204 wrote...
So here's how I see it. People are only allowed to think about attractiveness so long as those thoughts are completely separated from their behaviors and actions in all spheres. Courtesy and politeness are not sufficient. They must treat unattractive and attractive people the same way, which includes sex and romance. They're obligated to do so.
Outside of casting a specific gendered character for a video production, or picking the person you want to be your companion in life...
gender should be a non-factor.
Outside of actual beauty contests (which I am not condoning in the mentioning of them,) or lists of "most attractive models" (which I am also not condoning,) there is no reason to judge a person's sexiness or attractiveness in venues that have NOTHING to do with sexiness or attractiveness.
To do so to ordinary people going about their ordinary lives, whether it be working in the office, going to the grocery store, attending an event like a play or a movie, or even dressing up as their favorite characters for a geeky convention, is wrong.
Yes, you must treat all people equally in almost all circumstances. You could come up with ridiculous outliers that make the previous statment seem ludicrous (what if they pull a gun on you? what if they are insulting you endlessly? what if they leave the restaurant without paying their tab? should we treat those people equally?!?) but the truth is for civilized society, for the good of the community as a whole, judging a person's worth based on their appearance is detrimental.
A patriarchal society that has ingrained into the culture centuries of treating women as property, as dumb, as just there for breeding purposes, and as "evil temptresses of pure men who were just asking for it", is going through some serious growing pains as those who are in the position of power and privlege fight tooth and nail to not give up what they see as "normal", "acceptable" and, to some, even "right."