Mr. Gaider, while I can of course not claim to speak for everyone, I'd just like to say that some of us discuss, comment and "complain" only because we care. We want the game, EVERY aspect of the game, to be as good as possible. This includes the way characters we care about look. What is considered "as good as possible" will of course differ from person to person, which is why it is ultimately up to you at Bioware to decide what YOU feel is best. That shouldn't stop us from voicing our concerns, ideas and hopes though.
Again, while I can't speak for anyone else, I'm pretty sure I would have had the same reaction to a male character as to a female character. I know I reacted alot when seeing Alistair for the first time in game in DA2... But I agree with you that it seems to be far more common for most people to nitpick about female characters. Not all nitpicking is inherently bad however, especially if the end result in a larger numer of happy players.
Ultimately I'm sure I'll love how the characters look, both male and female, but when I see something that feels slightly off I don't see anything negative in pointing it out, especially now that the game has over a year to evolve and get tweaked. I hope you don't take these kind of threads as insults toward yourself, the characters or the writing, the way I see it, as long as everyone can voice their opinion in a civil manner, critisism isn't a bad thing.