Fast Jimmy wrote...
Well given what you are saying you feel alot of them have no choice but to turn to the general public, is it as you feel they have no friends, they want a broader sample? What? And what would be your example of "problems"? Also what if the situation were to change for example in the west and at the UN alot of talk has been ongoing of using laws like we are seeing in Asia where a person will have to register a email or social networking ID tied to who they really are? For example what if in place of RockSmaher 47 it said JohnSmith or Norfolk of the like? Would it then still be understandable?
I think if such laws were to be enacted across the board, you'd see much less of these types of comments, yes.
Then again, people do the exact same thing with their Facebook accounts, which are attached with their real names for the whole public world to see... so maybe I'm wrong.
Problems can be any number of things. I've seen people come out on the internet about their sexual preferences, unsure of how to make the changes in their lives to accept themselves, let alone have others accept them. Or people who have suffered through abuse and, out of fear or shame, don't feel their is anyone in their lives they can talk to about it.
Or maybe someone's iPhone had their screen crack and they are devasted #firstworldproblems. It's all a matter of perspective. I wouldn't say no one should be able to talk about their problems, ever, simply because there may actually be a small percentage of people who truly don't have anywhere else to go.
Just my own two cents on the matter.
Hmm idk I think fundamentally people that use both see them differently, like most of those on facebook I would find hard to see them as a forum, as forums are often seen as "lol nerd hangouts" while some in fact on here I have seen see facebook as too public. When in fact they both are the same, or can be.
Hmm as to those problems true enough, though I've noticed romance based topics in praticular get A LOT of heat, lord knows I throw it on em. Well the stupid ones at least like "How do I get this girl to like me." And yeah abuse can keep people down you tell a cat its a dog often enough and it'll bark.
First world problems though..I remember a user who I won't named that once was Q_Qing on here as his parents bought him a car that wasn't the kind he wanted, I pretty much snapped at him for that, I really think people that can't see problems like that arn't major have some serious issues, or are just stuck up snobs.
Well its not a bad two cents at least its a opinion.
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Seraph Cross wrote...
In addition to trust there is a waste of time. Seriously, I can't count how many times a person came to me with a problem for a mistake they made and they ended up making that same mistake again..
True none of us are mindreaders but it's kinda contradictory. People are too focused on themselves to see the problems of other people but they themselves have problems and feel lonely but don't want to share them..... If our society was more respectful and interdependent then this wouldn't be an issue. because everyone would be helping people. But being the polarized country that we are.... well that just can't happen.
So are you under the Impression most people don't learn from ones mistake? not that I don't disagree.
Hmm maybe true but you still have to figure how to do that, you can't make people just care, on the other hand while you have those that don't you do have some that on the other hand that care too much. In the end which is better? I think a middle ground is best.
The Mad Hanar wrote...
I think it's an enticing platform to vent out all your problems at. If you vent all your problems and some random dude from Russia tells you that you're stupid and that you should get over it, then you won't feel as bad as if a family member(or friend) told you as much--especially if it was the family member (or friend) that caused the problem in the first place. I don't really like to do it because it doesn't really solve the problem as much as letting it be brought to light to the people in real life that matter to you. They are usually the ones with the proper perspective on you and your life to settle the bad situation. However, I can understand why people do it and I don't judge or berate them on it. Just don't expect a sympathetic or serious answer, it's hard enough for me to do for people I actually know.
I find this reply to be of note and have some questions for you, why would a faceless persons insults hurt less? In asia the Laws there were promoted as people were killing themselves over those insults. ITs like when someone is a huge dick and goes "lol jeeze its just the net" Mostly as they don't want **** coming down on them. Text is no less powerful than words I think, and those that think other wise tend to rationalize it. But at the same time I do think most of whats online is a joke, but some people on here are maliace. At the same time, when you speak on problems with other people.
For example lets say a family member has treated you baddly but doesn't see what they did as wrong? Its a waste of time and space going to them so should the issue be forgotton, left to a few friends or what?
Isichar wrote...
About a yearish ago I made a thread were I basically just vented about something that had happened at work, people were surprisingly sympathetic and I got to admit I felt a hell of a lot better just been able to get my frustration out there.
I'm replying to this mainly given Madhanars above reply. If people had made fun of you and torn you down, how would that have changed you do you think?
Also feel free to talk among each other, we have five varrying view points here.
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Lots O times, people tend to exaggerate certain aspects or leave things out when sharing their problems with you. That or just strait up lie. So you can never really know the true story.
