Feraele wrote...
JKJEDIKNIGHT wrote...
I feel compelled now to add my take on this whole "marriage is meaningless" thing before it gets driven too far away because it's off topic lol. My wife and I were just like you're saying "marriage means nothing" and we still feel that way in reality. But we were together 6 years, and the people we wanted to have at our wedding (if we ever had one) were not getting any younger and we decided that we would do it for everyone we cared about more or less. The reason we chose last year (August) was because my best friend since the 2nd grade died in April of Leukemia, my aunt died in June, and my father had died previously in 2005. At this rate, if I wanted friends or family to be there, it was pretty much sh*t or get off the pot. If this was a bad reason to get married, then we were foolish or w/e. Did it change our relationshp? Not one bit. But at least at the end of the day, 20 years from now or w/e I can say I did have my brother there, or my mother there. I'll tell you now, you don't forget who was there, and I certainly won't ever forget who wasn't there.
Yes, my father passed when I was four, so when I got married, my brother stood in his place to give me away.
At least my Mom was there ...was a good time btw, my brother singing Jack the Knife on helium..HILARIOUS. 
Ooo, off-topic topic I know something about.
I personally don't care about marriage. I think the institution as a whole is antiquated. Personal opinion, not judging those who believe in marriage.
I think too many people feel they have to get married or have failed at life if they don't get married. And I think that mindset is a little sad.
For some TMI, I'm one of the people Bill Maher would call "lame" as I've been with the same woman my entire "dating" life. We met in 1992, were together until 1999 when we got married, and are still married today.
Yes, married. It was done for financial reasons, legal reasons, and because my dad was dying and I decided it'd be a nice experience for the last year of his life.
We had a small ceremony (the "wedding" had a justice of the peace, was at the historical society, and lasted maybe twenty minutes) with immediate family and a couple friends (one each.) And no reception until a month later, and that was for family who were really upset they weren't at a big church wedding.
The wedding and reception were not really for us but for family who "needed it." *shrug*
We were happy for 7 years before the marriage, we've been happy the 10 years since. Other than taxes and my wife's last name, our relationship's not much different than it was in 93-94.
As if anyone cared.

Honestly, I do remember everyone at the wedding (as I said, small) but I don't think I even knew half the people at the reception (family invites by the parents on each side, mostly.)
*shrug*
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Wait, this is a Dragon Age forum and not the Marriage: Good, Bad or Indifferent forum?
waits for a warning PM