I receive friend requests here fairly frequently. If I know you, then I accept it immediately. But most of the time, I've seen the name but really do not know what the requester is like. In the old days, that would mean I'd check the profile, read some posts and send a PM asking for more information. I really do not like jerks and I loathe drama so some screening is required.
The rules have changed and we can not send PM's to unfriends. An awful lot of people have set their profiles to private (including me) so you can not easily check posts either. The majority of folks probably know some work arounds, but here is a simple one.
Go to Google search. In the bar type the pre-friends name (if it is more than one word use quotation marks) a space and then site:http://social.bioware.com/forum/ Once you've generated a list of posts, you may want to select 'advanced search' from the bottom and narrow by date to get the most recent posts. By way of example "mousestalker site:http://social.bioware.com/forum/" will find all the posts that I have made here that google has indexed.
You can then select posts to read to see if the requester will be your new friend.
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 03:43
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thats a lot of work.im too lazy for such a thing.so old days are back.after responing back and forth in threads for awhile.and two said parties get along decently then a friend request is usually sent.
or maybe Im too old for this sh...he said stuff, hes too old for this stuff
or maybe Im too old for this sh...he said stuff, hes too old for this stuff
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 03:59
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It think it is easy to do. This is what mousestalker meant:
mousestalker site:social.bioware.com
Type that in Google and just replace "mousestalker" with the nick of your liking.
I agree with her. It has become much harder to interact on BW's social site because of this limitation.
I'm fine that people do not want to receive PMs from those not on their friend list. It should be an option to prevent such PMs, but it shouldn't be mandatory to all.
mousestalker site:social.bioware.com
Type that in Google and just replace "mousestalker" with the nick of your liking.
I agree with her. It has become much harder to interact on BW's social site because of this limitation.
I'm fine that people do not want to receive PMs from those not on their friend list. It should be an option to prevent such PMs, but it shouldn't be mandatory to all.
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 04:03
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Thank you Mousestalker and AFW for those links 
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 04:03
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Part of the reason, only Friends can pm with each other now.is, because of drama,fights,bickering and people going out of there way to hurt someone "emotionally".Im actually for the whole only friends can PM one anther.
that and "spambots" messaging people over and over again.yes some of the limitation are unreasonable, but others have been put in place to create a better ground for community interaction.
ps-yea thanks for the hookup on the links dudes
that and "spambots" messaging people over and over again.yes some of the limitation are unreasonable, but others have been put in place to create a better ground for community interaction.
ps-yea thanks for the hookup on the links dudes
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 04:20
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Because of the new 'no pm' rule, I have turned down some requests because it was just too much trouble to figure out if we COULD be friends. I wish they had made it an option rather than a requirement. I understand why the moderators didn't want to receive a ton of pms from people that they didn't know, but I preferred to 'get to know' someone before identifying them as a 'friend'.
Fortunately, recent friend request have come from individuals that I've seen posting so I didn't need the ability to do some (easy) research :-)
Fortunately, recent friend request have come from individuals that I've seen posting so I didn't need the ability to do some (easy) research :-)
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 04:31
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As a general rule, I look to see if requests come from people who've already been accepted by my own friends here. EG, if mousestalker has friended them already, I'll accept, too. I figure that the people I trust are good judges because I've seen who they are over time.
~ Roxy
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 04:33
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I used to send people I did not know a note asking them why they wanted to be friends. But for the most part I have been very lucky. When I first joined I did some very naive things, like phone conversations and chats and personal email. A new phone, new mail address and a lot of unanswered group requests later I’ve learned a lot. But the friend requests have usually been pretty even handed. By and large the most disturbing events have been mails, so I am quite alright with it.
But you are right about having seen posting as an indicator or compatibility, I think.
But you are right about having seen posting as an indicator or compatibility, I think.
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 04:49
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^ Smash Mouth - Why Can't We Be Friends oh yeah we already are
I do miss the PM's from non friends, I never friended people before because I never really had a need to, but now you have to, if want to actually interact with people again.
I do miss the PM's from non friends, I never friended people before because I never really had a need to, but now you have to, if want to actually interact with people again.
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 04:53
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Yeah, I remember the amount of drama this place used to have, particularly around certain individuals. People were so touchy back then.
Well, with so many private profiles and no option to PM I don't bother with sending any requests anymore. I usually reject unless I somewhat know the person. Most of the folks I enjoyed chatting with have left and thus I'm not familliar with the majority I see in Offtopic or polls. I haven't received a request in a long while and therefore no need for me to worry about such things.
Well, with so many private profiles and no option to PM I don't bother with sending any requests anymore. I usually reject unless I somewhat know the person. Most of the folks I enjoyed chatting with have left and thus I'm not familliar with the majority I see in Offtopic or polls. I haven't received a request in a long while and therefore no need for me to worry about such things.
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 04:59
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Some people think that I should lick their boots and approve everything they say, so we can stay friends. But that is not my way.
Para-Medic has a good point.
Para-Medic has a good point.
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 05:07
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That google search is incredibly pointless and a waste of time. You fear finding a murderer on this site?
Lucky me, nobody wants to be my friend.
Here is what I know:
If your female, everyone wants to be your friend.
If your a well known name, everyone wants to be your friend.
A member of the Bioware team? Everyone wants to be your friend.
I feel like I am back at school sometimes.
Lucky me, nobody wants to be my friend.
Here is what I know:
If your female, everyone wants to be your friend.
If your a well known name, everyone wants to be your friend.
A member of the Bioware team? Everyone wants to be your friend.
I feel like I am back at school sometimes.
Modifié par Naughty Bear, 08 septembre 2013 - 05:10 .
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 05:22
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I just got a FR from someone named UnderlyingSins, I don't know them, never seen them, and they have only one friend, whom I don't know either. I hate to be like that, but I can't send them a PM to find out who they are. Does anyone else know them? I guess I could accept and then remove them later if they are a troll 
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 05:25
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I don't accept friend requests of people who I have never seen around the site ever. But I will accept if I've seen them on the feed or in groups or are friends of friends even if I don't know much about them.
As for the private profile thing, I've never had mine private and won't make it private. Looking at other people's profiles is a way of getting some info on a person especially when they send a FR and you're not sure who they are. So I hate it when I encounter a private profile because I can't see anything about that person. That's why mine isn't private so anyone that wants to know something about me, can just look... and find out I like cute kitten and puppy pictures
I don't really care about the PM system change. Not like I ever sent any PMs to people who weren't my friends anyways. I know it's better to have it how it used to be but for me it's no big deal. I haven't received or sent a PM in a very long while anyways so I don't think I even need that.
As for the private profile thing, I've never had mine private and won't make it private. Looking at other people's profiles is a way of getting some info on a person especially when they send a FR and you're not sure who they are. So I hate it when I encounter a private profile because I can't see anything about that person. That's why mine isn't private so anyone that wants to know something about me, can just look... and find out I like cute kitten and puppy pictures
I don't really care about the PM system change. Not like I ever sent any PMs to people who weren't my friends anyways. I know it's better to have it how it used to be but for me it's no big deal. I haven't received or sent a PM in a very long while anyways so I don't think I even need that.
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 05:26
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AngryFrozenWater wrote...
It think it is easy to do. This is what mousestalker meant:
mousestalker site:social.bioware.com
Type that in Google and just replace "mousestalker" with the nick of your liking.
I agree with her. It has become much harder to interact on BW's social site because of this limitation.
I'm fine that people do not want to receive PMs from those not on their friend list. It should be an option to prevent such PMs, but it shouldn't be mandatory to all.
I still don't really understand why Bioware thought this was a good idea. Their statement was that it was to encourage forum posting, as I recall. Then again, there's been a few occasions when a mod has told us to take an off-topic discussion to PMs...only we can't, because the people we're conversing with aren't on our f-lists. It didn't have anything to do with people not wanting to get PMs from non-friends, per the official reason.
I don't see that this "feature" solves any problems, while it does create a lot of inconvenience.
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 05:27
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luna1124 wrote...
I just got a FR from someone named UnderlyingSins, I don't know them, never seen them, and they have only one friend, whom I don't know either. I hate to be like that, but I can't send them a PM to find out who they are. Does anyone else know them? I guess I could accept and then remove them later if they are a troll
:lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:Nah, Don't know"them"
hahahahahaha
But yes, I believe this would be an option, but not anymore if they are seeing this thread
:? :D:D:lol:
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 05:29
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Naughty Bear wrote...
That google search is incredibly pointless and a waste of time. You fear finding a murderer on this site?
Lucky me, nobody wants to be my friend.
Here is what I know:
If your female, everyone wants to be your friend.
If your a well known name, everyone wants to be your friend.
A member of the Bioware team? Everyone wants to be your friend.
I feel like I am back at school sometimes.
Yup. I was just seeing Chris Priestly's (or it was Derek Hollans ???) profile and noticed that he had 1680 friends. Including me, of course
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 05:30
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Para-Medic wrote...
Yeah, I remember the amount of drama this place used to have, particularly around certain individuals. People were so touchy back then.
Well, with so many private profiles and no option to PM I don't bother with sending any requests anymore. I usually reject unless I somewhat know the person. Most of the folks I enjoyed chatting with have left and thus I'm not familliar with the majority I see in Offtopic or polls. I haven't received a request in a long while and therefore no need for me to worry about such things.
To be honest, I've never seen you around here before...
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 05:35
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I rarely send friend requests, as I just don't see the point. I'm hardly ever on my feed, so I almost never comment on or "like" anyone's posts.
If someone sends me a friend request and I've seen the name before, I'll usually accept. There are a few I'd turn down, but not many. There must be a greater number of unsavory people outside of Off-Topic, as it's generally pretty good in here.
If someone sends me a friend request and I've seen the name before, I'll usually accept. There are a few I'd turn down, but not many. There must be a greater number of unsavory people outside of Off-Topic, as it's generally pretty good in here.
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 05:39
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Shepenwepet wrote...
I rarely send friend requests, as I just don't see the point. I'm hardly ever on my feed, so I almost never comment on or "like" anyone's posts.
If someone sends me a friend request and I've seen the name before, I'll usually accept. There are a few I'd turn down, but not many. There must be a greater number of unsavory people outside of Off-Topic, as it's generally pretty good in here.
Those who frequently roam the off-topic section are generally good people, you can get a good laugh sometimes here as well, laid back atmosphere.
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 05:54
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MegaIllusiveMan wrote...
Para-Medic wrote...
Yeah, I remember the amount of drama this place used to have, particularly around certain individuals. People were so touchy back then.
Well, with so many private profiles and no option to PM I don't bother with sending any requests anymore. I usually reject unless I somewhat know the person. Most of the folks I enjoyed chatting with have left and thus I'm not familliar with the majority I see in Offtopic or polls. I haven't received a request in a long while and therefore no need for me to worry about such things.
To be honest, I've never seen you around here before...
I've been around since 2009 June. Went away and returned like 3 times. Been inactive mostly nowadays since my feed is half dead..
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 05:55
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Naughty Bear wrote...
Those who frequently roam the off-topic section are generally good people, you can get a good laugh sometimes here as well, laid back atmosphere.
So true. It's the best place on this forum.
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 06:19
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Pretty much this.Roxy Ferret wrote...
As a general rule, I look to see if requests come from people who've already been accepted by my own friends here.
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Posté 08 septembre 2013 - 07:07
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I accept all friend request, and witnessing the occasional drama from people I don't know has been highly amusing.
