Thief-of-Hearts wrote...
N7_killswitch wrote...
So... your point is that I should stop trying to relate? Is that really your problem with me? Because what I was doing with the hair thing was empathizing - or so I thought. Is that somehow not allowed? I said it sucks and is creepy. What more do you want?
Also where did I try and claim anything was or wasn't racist? Because that was never my intention.
And I fail to see why having a 'type' is bad. Is it bad that I have a thing for redheaded women? Or is it only bad if I were to happen to have a thing for women with dark skin? 
Saying that people touching black people's hair isn't a problem because you also expereinced something similar isn't empathizing - it's trivalizing the problem. It's is a HUGE problem, one whose scope I'm fairly sure you don't realize judging by your reaction. It would do you really good right now to look it up and find out what I mean, rather than question someone who is attempting to help you out (Sabriel and Ecmoose).
"but it's not just a racial thing in my humble opinion" - this is where you said something wasn't racism.
And yes, fetishizing based on race is still problematic as many others have pointed out. I posted one link on page 2 or 3 for someone else but it lists a truckload of reasons why fetishes for PoC are bad (both male and female).
I'm sorry if it read as if I was saying it wsn't a problem, it is. Just that it's not a problem ONLY for ethnicities. That doesn't mean it's any less of a problem for ethnicities. This is 2am typing here, man. Sorry if things aren't coming across as I mean them or you see me saying things in between lines that aren't there, I don't know. The "just" part was the focus of that sentence for me.
I think we are using the word fetish in two different ways here, the way you seem to think I mean I have already stated is creepy and douchy. I was simply referring to having a sexual preference in regards to appearance, not the crazy obsessive stuff. Confusion of semantics, really, that doesn't need to go any further I don't think because I agree with you in your terms of fetishism.
This thread really doesn't need to be locked now, so you think we can leave this line of conversation for now?
....So yeah. White background on the cover with red text would be schweet.
Edit: Man, it really makes it hard to have a conversation in seriousness with you about this when you keep throwing around "dudebro."
Modifié par N7_killswitch, 09 septembre 2013 - 07:17 .